Many leaders struggle with knowing when it is time to coach and when the issues they are experiencing with a team member have drifted into a performance issue that calls for performance management. In this episode, Alex Dorr, CEO of Reality Based Leadership, shares a Reality-Based approach to help you make that distinction, along with several tools to coach or manage performance based on the conversation you need to have. Episode Highlights: 00:00:18 Why this episode: when to coach vs. manage performance 00:01:06 The dirty secret: the tools only work with the willing 00:03:40 When coaching works and when it doesn't 00:05:28 The five-step process 00:06:46 Step 1: Diagnose story, relationship, or performance 00:11:40 Step 2: The Edit Your Story tool 00:14:07 Step 3: The Feedback Frame 00:19:43 Step 4: Seven performance conversation questions 00:21:51 The Performance Coaching Agreement 00:26:06 Final reflection: your next right conversation

Many leaders struggle with knowing when it is time to coach and when the issues they are experiencing with a team member have drifted into a performance issue that calls for performance management. In this episode, Alex Dorr, CEO of Reality Based Leadership, shares a Reality-Based approach to help you make that distinction, along with several tools to coach or manage performance based on the conversation you need to have. Episode Highlights: 00:00:18 Why this episode: when to coach vs. manage performance 00:01:06 The dirty secret: the tools only work with the willing 00:03:40 When coaching works and when it doesn't 00:05:28 The five-step process 00:06:46 Step 1: Diagnose story, relationship, or performance 00:11:40 Step 2: The Edit Your Story tool 00:14:07 Step 3: The Feedback Frame 00:19:43 Step 4: Seven performance conversation questions 00:21:51 The Performance Coaching Agreement 00:26:06 Final reflection: your next right conversation

124: When to Move From Coaching to Performance Management as a Leader

In this episode, National Bestselling Author Alex Dorr discusses how long true culture change takes at work. In general, leaders don't realize that culture change doesn't have to be this big lift that involves tons of pain, consultants and awkward sessions together. An intriguing message, with thought-provoking ideas and tools to actually shift behavior and provide relief to some of the toughest workplace drama is often the fastest culture change you'll see. This happens time and time again for those that are first exposed to Reality-Based Leadership. This episode then gives you Alex's 4 best tips to start shifting culture to one that is low drama and high in accountability almost instantaneously. Don't fall for the false beliefs out there that culture change at work takes 18 months to 3 years, you can begin today with some ideas in this podcast. Episode Highlights: 00:00:40 How long does culture change really take? 00:01:42 The 18 months to three years commitment debate 00:02:56 Why culture change can happen almost instantaneously 00:05:05 Climate change vs. culture change: start with your 8 to 12 00:06:30 The health system that changed its culture with two free videos 00:08:54 Work with the willing: a facilitator's sessions grow to standing room only 00:11:51 Co-creation and the story we make up 00:14:36 Four tools that shift culture quickly 00:16:19 Stop judging, start helping 00:19:38 Why help now instead of waiting for a three-year commitment

In this episode, National Bestselling Author Alex Dorr discusses how long true culture change takes at work. In general, leaders don't realize that culture change doesn't have to be this big lift that involves tons of pain, consultants and awkward sessions together. An intriguing message, with thought-provoking ideas and tools to actually shift behavior and provide relief to some of the toughest workplace drama is often the fastest culture change you'll see. This happens time and time again for those that are first exposed to Reality-Based Leadership. This episode then gives you Alex's 4 best tips to start shifting culture to one that is low drama and high in accountability almost instantaneously. Don't fall for the false beliefs out there that culture change at work takes 18 months to 3 years, you can begin today with some ideas in this podcast. Episode Highlights: 00:00:40 How long does culture change really take? 00:01:42 The 18 months to three years commitment debate 00:02:56 Why culture change can happen almost instantaneously 00:05:05 Climate change vs. culture change: start with your 8 to 12 00:06:30 The health system that changed its culture with two free videos 00:08:54 Work with the willing: a facilitator's sessions grow to standing room only 00:11:51 Co-creation and the story we make up 00:14:36 Four tools that shift culture quickly 00:16:19 Stop judging, start helping 00:19:38 Why help now instead of waiting for a three-year commitment

125: How Long Does It Take for Culture Change at Work

Get your copy of How We Could for you and your teams today at: Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/How-Could-Framework-Alignment-Greatness/dp/B0GRWV76P5 Barnes & Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/how-we-could-alex-dorr/1149680412?ean=9798886455168&utm_source=website&utm_medium=book_page&utm_campaign=how_we_could&utm_content=barnesandnoble Bookshop.org - https://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-could-the-framework-to-lead-without-drama-build-alignment-and-call-teams-to-greatness-alex-dorr/d73c23906d4a61a0?ean=9798886455168&next=t?utm_source=website&utm_medium=book_page&utm_campaign=how_we_could&utm_content=bookshop Books-A-Million - https://www.booksamillion.com/p/How-We-Could/Alex-Dorr/9798886455168?utm_content=bookshop Here is a link to the tools mentioned in this podcast: SBAR tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool Thinking Inside-the-Box tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/box Negative Brainstorming tool - https://youtu.be/AV6n69QCVnY?si=q7r_pglJsatIb-l2 Or grab all of the Toolkit tutorial videos, PDF and the new Call to Greatness Toolkit that accompanies the book here: https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/greatness In Part 3 of his How We Could Book Club Podcast Series, Alex Dorr shares his favorite quotes, insights, and lessons from the final section of his new book. In this episode, you'll learn three tools that help your team move forward productively even when facing resistance to change and uncertainty. It's a motivating listen for anyone looking to lead their team differently through ambiguity. Episode Highlights: 00:01:25 - How the book took three years and is packed with real case studies 00:02:10 - Recap: the three parts of How We Could (loving up, calling up, answering the call) 00:04:26 - Introducing Part 3: answering the call to greatness 00:04:51 - Why fear is what really holds people back from taking action 00:07:07 - The three tools for next right action: SBAR, thinking inside the box, negative brainstorming 00:10:34 - When to use each tool 00:13:39 - Deep dive: how the SBAR cuts down workplace drama 00:19:30 - Deep dive: why "thinking inside the box" drives real innovation 00:22:39 - Deep dive: negative brainstorming and the Dr. Smith story 00:27:06 - Wrapping up Part 3 and celebrating the book launch

Get your copy of How We Could for you and your teams today at: Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/How-Could-Framework-Alignment-Greatness/dp/B0GRWV76P5 Barnes & Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/how-we-could-alex-dorr/1149680412?ean=9798886455168&utm_source=website&utm_medium=book_page&utm_campaign=how_we_could&utm_content=barnesandnoble Bookshop.org - https://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-could-the-framework-to-lead-without-drama-build-alignment-and-call-teams-to-greatness-alex-dorr/d73c23906d4a61a0?ean=9798886455168&next=t?utm_source=website&utm_medium=book_page&utm_campaign=how_we_could&utm_content=bookshop Books-A-Million - https://www.booksamillion.com/p/How-We-Could/Alex-Dorr/9798886455168?utm_content=bookshop Here is a link to the tools mentioned in this podcast: SBAR tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool Thinking Inside-the-Box tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/box Negative Brainstorming tool - https://youtu.be/AV6n69QCVnY?si=q7r_pglJsatIb-l2 Or grab all of the Toolkit tutorial videos, PDF and the new Call to Greatness Toolkit that accompanies the book here: https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/greatness In Part 3 of his How We Could Book Club Podcast Series, Alex Dorr shares his favorite quotes, insights, and lessons from the final section of his new book. In this episode, you'll learn three tools that help your team move forward productively even when facing resistance to change and uncertainty. It's a motivating listen for anyone looking to lead their team differently through ambiguity. Episode Highlights: 00:01:25 - How the book took three years and is packed with real case studies 00:02:10 - Recap: the three parts of How We Could (loving up, calling up, answering the call) 00:04:26 - Introducing Part 3: answering the call to greatness 00:04:51 - Why fear is what really holds people back from taking action 00:07:07 - The three tools for next right action: SBAR, thinking inside the box, negative brainstorming 00:10:34 - When to use each tool 00:13:39 - Deep dive: how the SBAR cuts down workplace drama 00:19:30 - Deep dive: why "thinking inside the box" drives real innovation 00:22:39 - Deep dive: negative brainstorming and the Dr. Smith story 00:27:06 - Wrapping up Part 3 and celebrating the book launch

Get your copy of How We Could for you and your teams today at: Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/How-Could-Framework-Alignment-Greatness/dp/B0GRWV76P5 Barnes &amp; Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/how-we-could-alex-dorr/1149680412?ean=9798886455168&amp;utm_source=website&amp;utm_medium=book_page&amp;utm_campaign=how_we_could&amp;utm_content=barnesandnoble Bookshop.org - https://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-could-the-framework-to-lead-without-drama-build-alignment-and-call-teams-to-greatness-alex-dorr/d73c23906d4a61a0?ean=9798886455168&amp;next=t?utm_source=website&amp;utm_medium=book_page&amp;utm_campaign=how_we_could&amp;utm_content=bookshop Books-A-Million - https://www.booksamillion.com/p/How-We-Could/Alex-Dorr/9798886455168?utm_content=bookshop Here is a link to the tools mentioned in this podcast: SBAR tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/tool Thinking Inside-the-Box tool - https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/box Negative Brainstorming tool - https://youtu.be/AV6n69QCVnY?si=q7r_pglJsatIb-l2 Or grab all of the Toolkit tutorial videos, PDF and the new Call to Greatness Toolkit that accompanies the book here: https://info.realitybasedleadership.com/greatness In Part 3 of his How We Could Book Club Podcast Series, Alex Dorr shares his favorite quotes, insights, and lessons from the final section of his new book. In this episode, you'll learn three tools that help your team move forward productively even when facing resistance to change and uncertainty. It's a motivating listen for anyone looking to lead their team differently through ambiguity. Episode Highlights: 00:01:25 - How the book took three years and is packed with real case studies 00:02:10 - Recap: the three parts of How We Could (loving up, calling up, answering the call) 00:04:26 - Introducing Part 3: answering the call to greatness 00:04:51 - Why fear is what really holds people back from taking action 00:07:07 - The three tools for next right action: SBAR, thinking inside the box, negative brainstorming 00:10:34 - When to use each tool 00:13:39 - Deep dive: how the SBAR cuts down workplace drama 00:19:30 - Deep dive: why "thinking inside the box" drives real innovation 00:22:39 - Deep dive: negative brainstorming and the Dr. Smith story 00:27:06 - Wrapping up Part 3 and celebrating the book launch

123: How We Could Book Series Part 3: Leadership Tools to Coach Your Team to Accountability

Your ego narrates the world in your favor. This means you're always getting a distorted interpretation of reality. Learn how to get mentally flexible and stop believing everything you think.

Your ego narrates the world in your favor. This means you're always getting a distorted interpretation of reality. Learn how to get mentally flexible and stop believing everything you think.

Your ego narrates the world in your favor. This means you're always getting a distorted interpretation of reality. Learn how to get mentally flexible and stop believing everything you think.

#1: Stop Believing Everything You Think

Cy welcomes you to No Ego, where we teach you how to ditch the drama, end entitlement, and drive big results in your workplace and your worldplace.

Cy welcomes you to No Ego, where we teach you how to ditch the drama, end entitlement, and drive big results in your workplace and your worldplace.

Cy welcomes you to No Ego,&nbsp;where we teach you how to ditch the drama, end entitlement, and drive big results in your workplace and your worldplace.

Welcome to No Ego

Cy welcomes you to No Ego, where we teach you how to ditch the drama, end entitlement, and drive big results in your workplace and your worldplace.

The average person spends 2.5 hours a day in drama at work. That's lost time, lost energy, and lost results.

Leading beyond drama isn't optional anymore. It's the skill that separates reactive managers from transformational leaders. So how do you reclaim those hours, call your team to greatness, and restore sanity to your workplace?

Welcome to Reality-Based Leadership.

Hosted by Alex Dorr, CEO of Reality-Based Leadership, this podcast delivers the mindset shifts and practical tools leaders need to eliminate emotional waste, build true accountability, and turn excuses into measurable results. With years of experience working alongside leaders across industries, Alex brings real-world application, bold insight, and next practices that create ROI in the room and momentum long after.

If you are ready to elevate performance and lead what's next, you are in the right place.

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The average person spends 2.5 hours a day in drama at work. That's lost time, lost energy, and lost results. Leading beyond drama isn't optional anymore. It's the skill that separates reactive managers from transformational leaders. So how do you reclaim those hours, call your team to greatness, and restore sanity to your workplace? Welcome to Reality-Based Leadership. Hosted by Alex Dorr, CEO of Reality-Based Leadership, this podcast delivers the mindset shifts and practical tools leaders need to eliminate emotional waste, build true accountability, and turn excuses into measurable results. With years of experience working alongside leaders across industries, Alex brings real-world application, bold insight, and next practices that create ROI in the room and momentum long after. If you are ready to elevate performance and lead what's next, you are in the right place.

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