Recovering with Danie | Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

By Danie van Kay | Licensed eating disorder recovery coach

In this podcast, I will cover eating disorder recovery related topics, and I will also sprinkle in conversations on dating, intimacy, self reflection, inner critic, having a chronic illness, navigati... more

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Number 1: #189: The Pendulum Swing™: Why Recovery Means Going in the Opposite Direction
What if “balance” is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I’m talking about The Pendulum Swing™ — one of the biggest concepts I use in eating disorder recovery. If your eating disorder has spent years pulling you toward restriction, control, fear foods, compensation, “healthier” choices and endless rules, recovery is not about immediately trying to find some perfect middle ground. It’s about repeatedly going in the opposite direction. Again. And again. And again. In this episode, I talk about why the pendulum needs to swing, why moderation can sometimes become another form of restriction, energy debt, extreme hunger, opposite action, fear foods, mental restriction, and why one challenge is often not enough to truly rewire a rule. The goal is not to live at the opposite extreme forever. The goal is to practise the opposite often enough that the fear, rules and moral meaning around food lose their power. Until food becomes… just food. Fall Reset If you’re listening to this and thinking: “I know what my eating disorder is telling me to do, but I struggle to actually do the opposite,” this is exactly the kind of work I do with my clients. I’m currently offering my Fall Reset — an intensive 10-week coaching journey with me, including regular coaching, personalised support, accountability and work around your specific rules, fears, behaviours and body image struggles. There is likely only one spot left. I don’t expect to run this exact offer again. The value of what’s included is far higher than the investment, and I created it as a one-time opportunity to work closely with me for more than two months. If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle and you’re ready to actually start doing the opposite instead of endlessly negotiating with your eating disorder, head to my website and apply for the Fall Reset today. We can take it from there. Read the blog I also wrote a full blog post on The Pendulum Swing™ if you want to go deeper into the concept and the science behind it. Head over to my blog to read the full post. More of me Do you want some more support to help you get unstuck? Be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠⁠⁠programs⁠⁠⁠⁠, or AI Danie to get more information about coaching spots and sign up! If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
September 22, 202651min
Number 2: #188: The Recovery Advice I DON’T Agree With (And Why It Might Be Keeping You Stuck)
What if some of the eating disorder recovery advice you’re following has actually just become… another set of eating disorder rules? In this episode, I’m sharing my anti-advice: the common recovery approaches I either don’t stand behind or think need WAY more nuance. We’re talking weighing, covering mirrors and body checking, rigid meal plans, stopping exercise completely, “intuitive eating,” balance and moderation, the plate-by-plate approach, calorie counting, and the obsession with overshoot. I also explain why I prefer restorative eating over intuitive eating, why structure should never become rigidity, why I sometimes use a short exercise reset before actively rewiring exercise compulsion, and why recovery should never become a prettier, more socially acceptable version of control. Because the goal isn’t to become really good at recovery rules. The goal is to eventually not need the rules at all. Food becomes food. Your body becomes your body. Movement becomes something you can do or not do. And your life becomes much, much bigger than your eating disorder. This one might ruffle a few feathers. 👀 Do you want some more support to help you get unstuck? Be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠⁠programs⁠⁠⁠, to get more information about coaching spots and sign up! If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
September 15, 202642min
Number 3: #187: Is a Little Restriction Really That Bad?
In this episode, I’m responding to a post from a recovery content creator with over 100,000 followers who argued that maybe we’ve become a little too afraid of restriction — that perhaps we say “yes” to food too often, and that sometimes wanting more food but deciding you’ve had enough can be completely fine. And I have… thoughts. Because there is a HUGE difference between what might be neutral food decision-making for someone without an eating disorder and the kind of message you give to someone who is actively trying to recover from restriction. When your audience is full of people whose eating disorder is already desperately looking for permission to eat less, move more, choose the “healthier” option, or convince themselves they’ve had enough… telling them that restriction isn’t necessarily a problem can be incredibly dangerous. So in this episode, I’m unpacking the nuance that I think is missing from this conversation, why recovery advice needs to be recovery-specific, and why I will continue to be the person telling you that your eating disorder probably does NOT need another reason to say no to food. If you’d like personal support from me, I have a few one-to-one coaching spots opening here and there throughout September and October. And if you need support in between sessions — or one-to-one coaching isn’t accessible to you right now — you can try AIDanie® for free at www.aidanievankay.com. I’ll see you back here next week. 🤍
September 08, 202635min
Number 4: #185: Why “Weight Restored” Does NOT Mean Nutritionally Rehabilitated
AIDanie ⁠has officially launched and I could not be more excited. AIDanie is your real-time eating disorder recovery support system, trained directly by me and built around action-oriented, goal-focused recovery guidance. You can start with a free trial that includes 20 free messages to experience the support for yourself. After that, you can choose from:Basic Tier Plus Tier VIP Tier The Plus and VIP tiers also include voice note support, so you can receive recovery guidance in an even more personal and supportive way. AIDanie is available in any language and designed to help you navigate recovery moments in real time — whether you're struggling with meals, body image, urges, anxiety, motivation, or staying committed to your goals. This is not just information. It’s practical recovery support designed to help you take action and move forward. I’m so excited for you to experience it. Start your free trial today and meet your recovery support companion: AIDanie. And use ⁠AIDANIELAUNCH ⁠for 30% off. Offer expires on June 9th! ---------------------------------- Many of my clients struggle with gaining weight, especially gaining weight past a certain, pre-set target weight that would make them 'weight restored'. Once you've reached that weight, you may find yourself freaking out about the fact that you're still experiencing with extreme hunger or still not feeling your best (cue your eating disorder telling you that's evidence of the fact that weight loss is not bad for you)... Well, that's because being weight restored does not mean you're nutritionally rehabilitated. So when are you nutritionally rehabilitated? How do you get there? And how do you cope while you work to get to that point? All that and more in this week's episode - tune in! -------------------------------- Are you not yet ready to recover, but are you sick of living this way? Then I've got a perfect match for you: This summer, I have coaching spots available specifically for those who are not yet ready to recover, but do not want to continue living this way either. So be sure to follow me on ⁠Instagram ⁠and check out my new ⁠website⁠ with new ⁠programs⁠, to get more information about coaching spots and sign up! If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
May 30, 202632min
Number 5: #82: "Feasting" after being recovered
I've talked about feasting in recovery more often - on why it's not only logical but necessary to fuel your body with A LOT of food that's easily digestible (aka 'processed foods') and foods that you've restricted for so long. But what if you feel like you're there - you've recovered from your restrictive eating disorder, be that anorexia, bulimia or OSFED, and you're still "stuffing your face"?! In today's episode I talk about why feasting after recovery is not to be feared, why it doesn't mean you've developed 'binge eating disorder' (and why that is in no way 'worse' or 'less desirable' than any other eating disorder), and how to deal with it. Tune in for some comforting words as well as my personal (current!) experience with feasting, and learn how to be okay with 'feasting' before, during, and after recovery. My new program, The Booster Intensive, is starting soon! Besides this program, I've got some other programs as well. If you are interested in working with me, feel free to take a look at my website and sign-up or contact me. You can also find me over at Instagram at @Daniellevankay and can always send me a DM with a question.
December 11, 202324min