Recovery Rocks

Tawny and Lisa talk about “glimmers,” mini-moments of calm and even joy. Glimmers are the opposite of triggers. They create a subtle, but meaningful mood shift. Think of how you feel when you pet a dog or hear a song you love. They also talk about “golden shadows,” which, similar to glimmers, are small bright spots that break through when doing difficult shadow work. 

Music Minute features Bleachers, Ashlee Simpson, and Fleetwood Mac

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Tawny and Lisa talk about creating a home that supports your recovery. This can look different for everyone. It can range from clearing out anything you might find triggering, to setting up a space that makes you feel calm and content, to changing up your routine on arriving home. Like everything in recovery, it’s a process that doesn’t happen overnight, but is created and adjusted over time. 

Music Minute features Talking Heads, CSNY, Phillip Phillips, Madness, and Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros

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Tawny and Lisa talk to Raam Roch Hai and Dr. Anthony Foster, Co-CEOs and Founders of AHA! Recovery, a new approach to treating substance use disorders. They discuss the effectiveness of therapists who are themselves in recovery working with others seeking recovery or supporting a loved one. AHA! Recovery blends three evidence-based therapeutics practices: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfulness-Based Relapse Prevention and Shame Resilience Therapy.

Music Minute features sober techno festivals and Gordon Lightfoot

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Tawny and Lisa talk with Alex Kosinski, a 20-something sober friend, who’s building a new life in his adopted city of San Diego. They talk sober dating, healthy habits, and being open to new experiences. Alex finds connection through pursuing passions like fitness, chess and studying Spanish, as well as leaning into the local recovery community. 

Music Minute features Chance the Rapper

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Tawny and Lisa talk codependency, something many folks in recovery grapple with. Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More, defines codependency as, “The concept of losing one’s self while taking care of another.” Anticipating other people’s needs all the time leads to anxiety, projection, and manipulation. The answer is to stop trying to control others, set firm boundaries, and figure out how to handle people who sap your energy and pull you into chaos.

Music Minute features Gin Blossoms, Madonna and Stone Temple Pilots

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Read about Energy Vampires and Chaotic Friends 

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Tawny and Lisa talk to Jolene Park, founder of Healthy Discoveries. Jolene is a functional nutritionist and a pioneer in the area of “gray area drinking,” the kind where there’s no rock bottom, but where one drinks to manage anxiety and later regrets how often or how much they drink. They talk about Jolene’s recent Substack piece on the online sober community and how it’s changed over time, including the problems with over commercialization and misrepresentations. 

Music Minute features Dolly Parton, Miley Cyrus and Bon Jovi

Find all things Jolene:

 Gray Area Drinking website 

Gray Area Drinking coach training for coaches

Substack

30 day sober choice program

Sober AF bundle

Private coaching 

Instagram

Check out the Burnout Workbook

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Tawny and Lisa catch up on what’s been going on so far this year. They also share some of their latest picks for reading and watching. Tawny has finally had some time to decompress from all of the book tour craziness. Lisa has been diving into all kinds of distractions to try to keep things light in a challenging year.

Music Minute features Taylor Swift and Beyonce

Read Tawny’s article on post-partum publishing in Lit Hub

Books:

Yours For the Taking by Gabrielle Korn

Margot's Got Money Troubles (pre-order) by Rufi Thorpe

Acid Christmas  

Jo Nesbo's Scandanavian noir books

Hope by Andrew Ridker  

Television/Movies:

Read about Loudermilk

 Capote vs. The Swans

May December

 Past Lives

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Tawny and Lisa talk to Paulina Pinsky (she/they), a writer, writing coach, and figure skater living in Los Angeles. She writes the Substack newsletter "newly sober" and she is the co-author of the teen guide to consent IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE AWKWARD. They talk about Paulina’s experience and recovery, including incorporating TCB (Trust, Compassion and Boundaries) as a way to help manage all the things we struggle with. Whether it’s alcohol, drugs, sex addiction, disordered eating, perfectionism, or anything else, practicing TCB can help.

Music Minute features Bachman-Turner Overdrive, Elvis Presley and Elvis Costello.

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Listen to us talking about cannabis in recovery here.  

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Now that Dry January is in the rearview mirror, what comes next? Tawny and Lisa discuss how taking a break from booze gives us an opportunity to be intentional and consider what a dry or damp month can provide. Maybe it helped to identify triggers and stressors – including people – and how you might handle them without alcohol going forward. Maybe you picked up some new habits and friends you’d like to keep up with. Who and what made you feel good and provided support during this month? The biggest takeaway is to give yourself grace. Whether or not you hit your Dry January “goals,” you decided to go for a reset. That’s a big deal!

Music Minute features The Beatles, Sheryl Crow and Natalie Merchant.

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Tawny and Lisa talk to Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, an author, TV personality, and cohost of the popular podcast For Crying Out Loud, about her new book, DRUNK-ISH: Loving and Leaving Alcohol. She is the co-host of the podcasts, For Crying Out Loud, Rose Pricks, and Bored A.F. She co-created and hosted the late-night comedy parenting show Parental Discretion with Stefanie Wilder-Taylor for NickMom on Nickelodeon. She’s the author of Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay; Naptime Is the New Happy Hour, among others. 

Music Minute features yacht rock classics like Michael McDonald and Styyx. 

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