This is the first part of a two-part series that's all about healing reframes. I'll break down the first of four super helpful reframes, or mantras, that can totally change how you look at your healing journey.

In this episode, we’ll take a deeper look at how these reframes—originally shared in a parenting context—can be applied to all of us trying to live more regulated lives. We’ll explore how understanding your past can shine a light on your present behaviors and, most importantly, figure out what you can actually do about it with our "So now what?" approach. Trust me, you won't want to miss out on these insights and practical steps to start making some real changes.

Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1.  This healing reframe of "how appropriate of me to [INSERT A GIVEN BEHAVIOR OR TENDENCY YOU HAVE THAT FEELS ANNOYING OR UNHELPFUL] Given that I [INSERT THE CONTEXT HERE]"
2.  When you're ready, add to the end of that reframe statement "So now what?"
3.  An invitation to join us in our Regulated Living Membership if you're looking for support in this work.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

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Episode 73

Today’s conversation is a direct response to the following listener request:

"I am a parent to 4 young kids (one with special needs and another with some extra needs). I struggle immensely with keeping myself regulated and calm with their big emotions. I wondered if you might explore in further episodes about how to let go of the need for control as a parent and how that need for control influences feeling dysregulated when the kids are rough housing and noisy/chaotic. I struggle so much to just relax into parenting, I constantly try to control things to avoid big emotions and meltdowns. If you might also touch on the topic of hypervigilance and the need to control as a trauma response? I’d love to learn how we can sit with life happening without trying to micromanage it as a way to avoid something unexpected happening, kid meltdowns, chaos, etc…

I’m struggling so much with this right now as a mom, but really it’s been a theme for much longer than that. I realize the work ahead for me as I am learning your tools to regulate my nervous system."

What I'll share doesn't just apply to regulated parenting, but in how we all approach these things in our healing. Hit play for the full conversation!

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

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Episode 72

If you feel like you can't rest until everything is done - this conversation is for you. I also talk about functional freeze and how this do do do without knowing how or when to allow yourself proactive rest creates overwhelm and overloads the system into a state of freeze. Hit play for more!

• Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1.  Catch: Notice this week the urge to do more, when you decline your brain or body's request for rest because you feel like you can't until you get it "all" done.
2.  Challenge: Notice the urge of, "I can't sit down until X, Y, Z is done" and respond with, "but what if I can? What if I can take a moment to rest and just be?" & if you're feeling spicy - "what if I can just leave that task undone? Or at least undone until tomorrow?"
3.  Change: Do differently, take that 1 or 10 or 15 minutes to rest & let yourself be uncomfortable in that rest.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 71

Have you ever found yourself rushing to do something or rushing get somewhere when you really didn’t actually need to rush? You weren’t running late, there wasn’t a timeline, no one was waiting on you and yet you felt this urgent need to move faster. If so, this episode is for you. 

We all have default patterns, default ways of responding to the world around us because of our past lived experiences. Join me for a conversation about why these patterns take hold, but more importantly what it looks like to begin to rewire and repattern these default responses if they're no longer serving you. Hit play to learn more!

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1.  Catch: Notice this week anytime you feel rushed when you might not need to be?
2.  Challenge: Pause, and ask “can I slow down?” (& know that your brain will immediately scream "NO!"at you, pause again, maybe asking, "but what if we just try?")
3.  Change: Do differently. Maybe you keep driving, doing the dishes, or walking but can you do  just 1% slower, with 1% less urgency, 1% less tension. If you do differently enough times, and things work out, you reset your baseline responses.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Episode 70

If you've ever felt frustrated by a therapist or coach responding to your request for tools with something like, "Well, what do you think a helpful tool would be?" then today's chat is for you. in this episode I share what I learned in attending my first ever ecstatic dance class and how it demonstrated for me the importance of suggestions in our healing journeys. When you've lived so much of your life inside a specific box, it can be really hard to see anything else. 

Join me as I discuss the balance between being client-led and offering guidance in therapeutic practices, emphasizing the importance of context, choice, and connection for creating a sense of safety; and as I reflect on my desire (and maybe yours too) to feel more free.

Here's the 3 takeaways:

1. If you, like me, don’t have a practice of moving your body, of dancing freely, here's my invitation to start. Remember, "the weirder I move my body, the more I fit in."
2. Healing requires action and changes in daily living. Seek out practitioners and spaces that offer practical tools and suggestions to support your journey.
3. I’m sending you my love and support as you also figure out how to learn to feel more free. As always, we would love to support you. My calendar is open for those of you interested in booking a discovery call to learn more about our 1:1 coaching program, doors to the membership are always open, as is my inbox ([email protected]). I love love love hearing from you.

Looking for more personalized support?

• Book a FREE consultation for RESTORE, our 1:1 anxiety & depression coaching program.
• Join me inside RISE, a mental health membership and nervous system healing space.
• Order my book, Healing Through the Vagus Nerve today!

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

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One of my deepest beliefs is that “I’m too much” – I’m too loud, I’m too energetic, I ask too much, need too much, my idea’s or dreams or plans are all too much, my pace is too much, etc… It’s a wound that gets triggered a lot in my friendships, entrepreneurship, and especially in my marriage. It's also a belief that holds me back from fully showing up in a lot of areas of my life.

Join me for a conversation about how all our beliefs, while well-meaning and self-protective at one point, may no longer serving us anymore and when left unchecked they'll hold you back in your healing journey and keep you stuck in patterns you don't want anymore.

CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!

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Looking for more personalized support?

•  1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)
•  Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.
• Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve

*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

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When you’re not sleeping, eating, breathing, moving, resting, playing, or connecting enough — you should expect to be sick, your mental health will suffer because your brain and overall health are suffering. 

When we, or life, expects us to sacrifice the very habits that nurture our nature of being human — we suffer and there's no amount of talk therapy or meds (while possibly helpful) that heals symptoms caused by a dysregulated nervous system or daily habits that rob you of general health.

You cannot heal when continuing to live in chronic stress.

So, what is regulated living? It’s about living with routines, habits, and practices that support a regulated nervous system, habits that support healthy mental, physical, emotional, and relational health. It involves the habits that make up your daily life as well as cultivating the skills necessary to effectively self-regulate and manage stress.

Today’s conversation acts like a wrap up to the 8 episode Essential 8 series, providing moments of invitation and reflection to step into some aspect of more regulated living.

CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!

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Looking for more personalized support?

•  1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)
•  Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.
• Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve

*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

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Essential 8 Series (Part 8)

Do you struggle to feel connected or at home in your body? Do you often feel ungrounded? Do you have anxiety or lack self awareness? When someone is having a hard time are you overly empathetic - is it almost like you absorb their hard emotions? Do you struggle to easily feel when you're hungry or full? These are all signs of low or impaired interoceptive awareness.

Interoception is the ability to fell and understand what's happening on the inside of your body and it is a foundational skill to somatic healing. Hit play to join me for a longer conversation on what it is, why it matters, and how to cultivated stronger interoception.

CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!

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Looking for more personalized support?

•  1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)
•  Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.
• Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve

*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

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Essential 8 Series (Part 7)

Today we’re taking a deep dive into how community helps you heal & I would go as far as to say how and why community is a non-negotiable for healing, how it’s the cornerstone to it. Humans are hardwired for connection. You were never meant to carry or navigate as much as you have on your own. Hit play to learn more!

CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!

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Looking for more personalized support?

•  1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)
•  Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.
• Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve

*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

Essential 8 Series (Part 6)

Today we’re chatting about nutrition and its impact on mental health, specifically anxiety, depression. Treat today’s episode sort of like you and I were casually chatting and I said, “Hey, did you know…”

"Did you know that blood sugar regulation (or lack there of) has been linked to anxiety and depression?"

"Did you know your gut is often referred to as your “second brain” and that research shows that emotions play out in your gut and gut issues can create mental health symptoms?"

"Did you know that the quality and quantity of food we eat matter?  If you’re under-eating or under-nourishing yourself then you’re likely nutrient deficient and those deficiencies stress out the nervous system contributing to living in survival mode?"

To which, you’d look at me with awe and wonder and reply, “OMG Amanda, I didn’t know that - tell me more?”

Wonderful, that’s the conversation we’re having here - let’s chat through blood sugar, mind-gut connection, and nutrients needs that can impact your mental health.

CLICK HERE for the full show notes, resources, and 3 tangible takeaways!

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Looking for more personalized support?

•  1:1 Coaching (RESTORE):  Learn more or book a free discovery call (HSA/FSA eligible & includes comprehensive bloodwork)
•  Regulated Living Membership:  A mental health membership and nervous system healing space (sliding scale pricing available). Join here.
• Order my book: Healing Through the Vagus Nerve

*Want me to talk about something specific on the podcast? Let me know HERE.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Website: https://www.regulatedliving.com/podcast

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @amandaontherise

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise