#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With Yourself

COMMITMENT ONE: Honesty with yourself and safe others.  This involves being willing to acknowledge what you feel, what you are experiencing, and what is actually happening. This involves the end of fantasy making and toxic hope.

This means acknowledging the pain you're feeling, their abusive and neglectful behavior, and any habits of denying the patterns of behavior and impact in the relationship.

This also includes confronting fantasies of changing them, of their potential, and it means being honest with what is actually happening.


COMMITMENT TWO:  Loyalty to your well-being and safety first.  Relationships do not require the loss of your Self, your well-being, your sanity.  The real work in healthy relationships is building connection and understanding.   This starts with loyalty to yourself. 

Put your well-being first, respect your pain, choose according to what adds to your well-being, say no to what doesn't, and stay loyal to your boundaries and values.


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