Would you change if someone asked you to? Asking people to change is common human behavior, but it can be problematic in our most intimate relationships, such as those with our children, parents, and partners. Tune in to this week's episode to hear Jayson's thoughts on his Instagram DMs and asking people to change.

Timestamps:

• 1:50 - Why asking others to change is problematic
• 16:37 - Q&A with Jayson

Links:

• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email

Why are women-run companies more successful than male-run companies? If you are a woman, do you ever feel like the workplace is unfair? How often? This interview was completely eye-opening for Jayson, and very humbling, and we invite you to tune in. 

Timestamps:

• 1:00 - Guest introduction
• 6:02 - How Julia decided to focus on gender differences in When Women Lead
• 9:36 - Julia's career so far
• 13:20 - What statistics say about inequality
• 31:07 - The benefits when women lead companies
• 39:53 - Do women need to adopt stereotypically masculine traits to succeed?

Links:

• Julia’s website
• Take the empathy test (“reading the minds eye test”)
• Follow Julia on 
  • Instagram @juliaboorstin 
  • Twitter @jboorstin
  • LinkedIn @Julia Boorstin
• Buy Julia’s book → When Women Lead
• Review Julia’s Recommended Reading & Resources
• CNBC Disruptor 50 (an annual list she oversees, highlighting the private companies transforming the economy and challenging companies in established industries). 
• Stay Tuned…The Future of TV (documentary)
• Closing the Gap (initiative covering closing gender gaps)
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
• Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email

In this episode, Jayson shares his personal experience living with this mentality around partnerships/relationships for years. He unpacks what this mindset is really about and what you can do to get through it, which could potentially reframe your experience and help you commit to the one you’re with.

Timestamps:

• 1:56 - The grass is greener mentality
• 5:42 - Two factors that contribute to the grass is greener mentality
• 13:05 - When is the grass actually greener?
• 18:37 - Jayson's personal experiance

Links:

• Episode's Transcript
• Ep 18 – How Therapist Bruce Tift Helped Me Have the Balls to Marry My Wife
• Ep 31 – 2 Valid Reasons For Divorce
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
• Apply to Relationship Coach Training

What is my life's purpose? 

How can I find health and happiness? 

Many of us ask these common questions and Dr. John Demartini, one of Jayson’s mentors, shares his thoughts with us.

Dr. Demartini is a polymath with four decades of research and expertise exploring over 200 disciplines in pursuit of what he calls the Universal Principles of Life and Health. In addition to his work as a researcher and best-selling author, Dr. Demartini travels the globe as an international educator/speaker.

This episode traverses the great plains of modern medicine to symptomatology, enlightenment to reincarnation, cryptocurrency to financial advice, and the interpersonal/relational aspects of our human experiences. 

Tune in to this week’s episode to learn from this incredible man.

Timestamps:

• What we do vs. what we say [8:30]
• What’s your strategy for achieving your goals? [11:30]
• So you think your job sucks, but does it really? [16:30]
• Illness, symptoms, and the mind [18:30]
• Thoughts on reincarnation [24:30]
• Demartini’s theories on the rise in autoimmune disease [30:30]
• Is social media making us physically ill? [32:30]
• Demartini’s opinions on Attachment Theory [36:30]
• No such thing as a dysfunctional family [45:00]
• Beware of the “all-enlightened” person [49:00]
• Can we train our bodies to sleep less? [1:10:00]
• Cryptocurrencies and financial advice [1:14:00]

Links:

• Dr. John Demartini’s website
• The Breakthrough Experience
• Dr. John Demartini on iTunes
• Keys to Mastering Relationships & Life with Dr. John Demartini
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"

If you plan on getting married, make sure you are willing to do these three things... You won't want to miss this.

Timestamps:

• 0:57 - Don’t get married unless…
• 2:58 - How should we define success in marriage?
• 5:34 - Only get married if you do these 3 things
• 11:07 - Takeaway

Links:

• Read the transcript to this episode here
• Loneliness, Social Isolation And Living Alone – Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad – 301
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Masterclass Library

On this week’s episode we speak with relationship coach, author, TedX speaker, and host of the Man Alive podcast, Shana James about her newly released book, Honest Sex. We explore the intersection of sex, spirituality, authentic relating, and creativity, and she offers her expanded definition of sex: Tune in to learn about co-creating a deepened honesty to enhance sexual and relational connection/gratification.

Timestamps:

• 0:59 - Guest introduction
• 2:07 - Interview
• 5:56 - Sexual creativity
• 15:07 - Fast food sex
• 23:05 - When should parents talk to kids about sex?
• 29:54 - Dealing with sexual differences
• 36:00 - Exercises for couples

Useful Links:

• Shana’s website
• New book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive (get chapter 6 for free)
• Podcast: Man Alive Podcast
• Instagram: @shanajames
• Facebook: @truesuccessformen
• TRS Podcast episode 348: Men, Pleasure, and Power with Shana James
• TRS Podcast episode 258: How Does a Woman Help a Man Open Up and Do His Inner Work? with Shana James 
• TRS Podcast episode 110: The Healing Power of Touch with Betty Martin
• TEDx Talk: What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women
• How To Play The Three Minute Game
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
• Masterclass Library

Jayson and Ellen discuss relationship skills we should learn (e.g. face reading, empathy, conflict resolution). There's no doubt that we have the capacity to have good relationships, because we know we're innately capable of being loving parents, partners, and positive citizens - that's what we're meant to be as humans - but cultivating our relational capacities is actually a developmental achievement and essential ingredient for health and wellness.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 - Intro
• 1:46 - Relationship as a skill
• 14:38 - Why is a growth mindset important?
• 23:07 - Therapy clients vs. coaching clients
• 31:54 - Action step

Useful Links:

• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"

On this week's podcast, we are joined by Daniel Maté. 

In addition to co-writing recent New York Times bestseller The Myth of Normal with his father, Dr. Gabor Maté, Daniel is a composer, lyricist, playwright, podcaster, artist, musician, and mental chiropractor - a current day renaissance man.  

Hear about how Daniel relates to his father, his experience growing up with Maté privilege, and how he contextualizes the complexities of the parent-child relationship psychologically while providing us with insightful reframes that speak to how we relate to our parents as adults.

A few quotes from the book we feel compelled to share with you in hopes of inspiring you to read/listen to the book:

“Trauma, until we work it through, keeps us stuck in the past, robbing us of the present moment’s riches, limiting who we can be.”

“What joys have you denied yourself out of a belief that you don’t deserve them, or out of a conditioned fear that they’ll be snatched away?”

“Whether we realize it or not, it is our woundedness, or how we cope with it, that dictates much of our behavior, shapes our social habits, and informs our ways of thinking about the world.”

“Time after time it was the “nice” people, the ones who compulsively put other’s expectations and needs ahead of their own and who repressed their so-called negative emotions, who showed up with chronic illness in my family practice, or who came under my care at the hospital palliative ward I directed.”

“Chronic rage, by contrast, floods the system with stress hormones long past the allotted time. Over the long term, such a hormonal surplus, whatever may have instigated it, can make us anxious or depressed; suppress immunity; promote inflammation; narrow blood vessels, promoting vascular disease throughout the body;”

“It doesn’t matter whether we can point to other people who seem more traumatized than we are, for there is no comparing suffering. Nor is it appropriate to use our own trauma as a way of placing ourselves above others—“You haven’t suffered like I have”—or as a cudgel to beat back others’ legitimate grievances when we behave destructively. We each carry our wounds in our own way; there is neither sense nor value in gauging them against those of others.”

“Like our other needs, meaning is an inherent expectation. Its denial has dire consequences. Far from a purely psychological need, our hormones and nervous systems clock its presence or absence. As a medical study in 2020 found, the "presence [of] and search for meaning in life are important for health and well-being." Simply put, the more meaningful you find your life, the better your measures of mental and physical health are likely to be.

Order The Myth of Normal:Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture by Dr. Gabor Maté & Daniel Maté here.

Timestamps:

• 0:00 - Intro
• 2:41 - Daniel describes what he does
• 6:31 - Reawakening the inner artist
• 15:48 - Adult parent-child dynamics
• 34:21 - Special offers
• 35:34 - The Myth of Normal book
• 1:09:32 - Special offers

Useful Links:

• Instagram @danielbmaté
• Daniel Mate's mental chiro website
• Dr. Gabor Maté’s website
• Instagram @gabormatéMD
• Order The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture by Dr. Gabor Maté & Daniel Maté here
• Listen to Daniel read The Myth of Normal on Audible
• Enroll in Relationship Mastery
• Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero
• Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
• U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850
• Apply to Relationship Coach Training

April from Austin asks, “You’re always talking about ‘doing the work’; what does that mean? Also, dealing with ‘inner child work,’ does this mean getting a therapist?”

Lance wonders, “When does inner child work end? And how do we know when it’s finished?”

Tune in for another Ask Me Anything episode where Jayson answers listener questions.

Want to submit a question? Leave a comment in our Facebook Support Group or on Instagram @jaysongaddis or @therelationshipschool

Useful Links:

• https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/
• https://www.gettingtozerobook.com
• read the transcript here

In this week’s episode, Jayson interviews Connor Beaton, author of Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage and Find Freedom. He is the founder of Man Talks, a speaker, a business coach, a lifestyle entrepreneur, a former opera singer, and a husband and father. This episode speaks to the problem that many men experience while practicing vulnerability.

Useful Links:

• https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
• https://instagram.com/mantalks/
• https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/
• https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/
• https://www.gettingtozerobook.com