In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Remy shares her story of being in a long-term relationship with a jealous and hypocritical abuser. What began as intense attention from someone she remembered from high school slowly became a relationship shaped by accusations, projection, infidelity, physical intimidation, monitoring, and control.

Remy talks about being accused of cheating while her partner was secretly pursuing other women, the way his jealousy made her defend herself again and again, and how the good times kept making the bad times harder to name. She also shares what happened after she finally left, including the post-separation harassment, the rebuilding of her life, and the complicated grief that followed when her abuser suddenly died.

It’s a story about trusting your instincts, projection, the strange mix of grief, relief, and anger, retraumatization, the death of the abuser, coercive control, jealousy, road rage, rage, infidelity, cheating accusations, being hypocritical, double standards, lies, fear, obligation, guilt, being chosen, intimidation, post-separation abuse, trauma bonds, intermittent reinforcement, hoovering, gaslighting, support, and shame.

*** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss Physical Abuse in this episode. ***

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