Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

When you're dealing with narcissistic Hijackals, you think one thing is in place, and the Hijackal thinks another. You think you have agreement and you sadly learn you don't. And, boundaries! SO important. Be clear what they are and how to manage them.

Hijackals constantly move markers, and you need to know how to respond in healthier ways. Refusing to hold agreements or respect boundaries is emotional abuse in a relationship. Not acceptable, right? Know these distinctions and get very good at setting and maintaining boundaries.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why distinctions among expectations, agreements and boundaries are important
• Why boundaries need to be carefully thought through
• The most important thing after clarifying a boundary
• Why boundaries are essential when dealing with toxic relationships and emotional abuse

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Rhoberta

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So confusing to be with a demanding person! Worse to be with a demanding Hijackal who feels entitled to take center stage while walking over you to do so. Recognize the signs of enmeshment and how they serve the Hijackal but fail to serve you. In fact, enmenstment can hurt you terribly, mentally and emotionally..

Beware of people who say "I know you better than you know yourself." Hijackals love to think that, and say it, too! Not only is it gaslighting, but is untrue. BUT, they need it to be true so they feel in control and able to see a clear path to manipulation.and control.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What enmeshment is
• Signs you're in an enmeshed relationship
• How Hijackals and other narcissistic people use enmeshment and pretend it is love
• Why you need strong boundaries, well-expressed and maintained
• Why it's essential to cultivate honest, healthy autonomy

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Rhoberta

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Crazy-making? Oh, yes. Hijackals and other narcissistic folks can create havoc. You start second-guessing yourself, and even questioning your sanity. You can't tell which end is up or where you begin and end, either. Cognitive Dissonance plays a big part!

If your relationship causes you to feel anxious, be paralyzed by self-doubt, or have difficulty making clear decisions, you're likely experiencing frequent moments of cognitive dissonance. Not healthy! It's crazy-making. So important to recognize what's happening, and start saying "NO!"

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How cognitive dissonance can cause you to feel like your head is about to explode
• Examples of cognitive dissonance that narcissistic Hijackals create
• How cognitive dissonance affects you & your view of your relationship
• What to do to reground yourself & stop believing the Hijackal

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Rhoberta

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How do Hijackals make you second-guess yourself and question your sanity? Basic to them doing that is the two patterns in this episode of Save Your Sanity. Recognizing them in all their forms can help you in Escaping the Hijackal Trap.

Hijackals are ALWAYS defending themselves, whether they need to or not. They are ALWAYS DEFENSIVE. Always on the alert for anything that could vaguely pass as shame coming their way. That makes for a volatile, tense person laying in wait to accuse of thing they did not do. Sound familiar?

Emotional intimacy is too much of a threat to a Hijackal, so they use these two big strategies to keep the truth from emerging.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Two HUGE blocks to emotional intimacy
• 5 ways Hijackals deny the truth

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Rhoberta

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Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--like to dish out and scatter disrespect whenever they want to demonstrate power and control. NO! That has to stop!

In this episode, I'm offering you 8 solid ways to work within yourself and say NO TO DISRESPECT. Eight very good ways to reclaim your personal power and give voice to some boundaries. Listen in. These are MUCH NEEDED strategies!

Respect means to have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others. Do Hijackals offer that? NO! That's where your relationship with a Hijackal basically goes off the rails: they have no respect for you...or, for anyone else.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why & how to shift your internal dialogue with yourself
• Why not to buy into their attempts to upset you
• What to say to refuse the abuse
• How to respond to their yelling

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Rhoberta

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Live with someone or raised by someone who was always finding fault? Always against something? Always putting you down? The wear and tear of these kinds of emotional abuse is immense...and continuous. See these ten chronic abuses you may not even realize are happening daily!

Chronic criticism wears you down, tears you down, and gets you used to being put down. None of those are good things! If you had a Hijackal parent, and find yourself with a Hijackal partner, you'll have a lifetime of constant criticism leaving you to wonder if you'll ever be good enough. Have you experienced that?

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• 10 emotional abuses that create constantly feeling criticized
• Why Hijackals, narcissists, etc. have to put you down
• Exhausting ways Hijackals try to make you feel not good enough\
• How Hijackals are defensive and offensive simulatneously

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Rhoberta

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Wonder why you feel so alone even though you're in a relationship? Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic folks--want to affect you, want to control how you feel. Abandoning you while with you creates a very lonely place. Notice these 6 ways so that you will be able to see them coming and not take them as personally.

Hijackals are constantly searching for places to exert power and control. This episode will also help you to recognize that, although Hijackals make these things you're fault, they are NOT YOUR FAULT!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• How Hijackals--narcissists, and other toxic folks--desert you even when they're in the same room with you
• How Hijackals show their lack of interest
• Why it's important to understand feeling abandoned when the person is still there
• 6 ways this abandonment shows up in your relationship

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Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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When you're living in anxiety, you cannot think clearly, right? Hijackals love to cause anxiety. They think it gives them power, and they look for ways to control. In order to make good decisions about the relationship, you need antidotes to anxiety to recognize the emotional abuse. It becomes such an everyday thing, and usually only creates more anxiety.

An antidote is a remedy to counteract, relieve or prevent the effects of something. Just what you need for "Hijackal bites!" And, those can stay open wounds for a long time unless you know how to close them and begin the healing process.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• List of signs of anxiety
• 10 Hijackal ways designed to increase your anxiety
• 10 antidotes that allow you to reclaim your personal power, and shift your toxic relationship
• Some reasons why it is difficult to change your patterns...and, how to do it anyway

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Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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When you recognize that it is emotional abuse that is driving these four debilitatiing --and, therefore, unhealthy-- responses to how you're being treated (or have been treated, particularly from your parents,) you are on your way to seeing your next best steps clearly. Listen in so you won't take the blame, or make excuses for, a person who is driving you to have these feelings.

Being with a Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person--is confusing, chaotic, and disappointing. The emotional abuse can go unnoticed for too long. See it for what it is by recognizing these four response now.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• Why you feel exhausted in a toxic relationship
• 4 ways you respond when being emotionally abused by a Hijackal
• Never mistake possessiveness for protectiveness
• How you internalize emotional abuse & the effects of doing so

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Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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Many Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--make a big statement on Valentine's Day (and, any other day they want to secure your full commitment.) LOVE-BOMBING, strangely, is yet another kind of emotional abuse. Why? Because it's mostly show and no go! In this episode, learn more about love-bombing, recognizing it, and not falling for it. SO important to be aware of what's really going on!

Ever felt so special, so cherished one day, and in short order, felt so devalued, discounted, and dismissed? You may have been love-bombed.

Ever felt so taken care of only to find that you were actually being taken advantage of? You may have been love-bombed. It's hard to admit.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

• What love-bombing is
• Why love-bombing is emotional abuse
• Signs of love-bombing
• Why narcissists and other Hijackals love-bomb
• How love-bombing affects you

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Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

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