Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

"Oh, we're just friends." You want to believe that, but how do you know if it's true. Here's how to tell if that "friendship" IS emotional infidelity, an emotional affair, and/or just plain cheating. Don't be fooled. See & believe these signs!!!

It's tempting to believe them, especially because then you don't have to feel the feelings or take action. BUT, doing so is unhealthy!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What an emotional affair really is
• Is it cheating?
• Why Hijackals (relentlessly difficult people) are often emotionally unfaithful
• 10 BIG differences between "being friend" & having an emotional affair
• What emotional infidelity looks and sound like
• Things people say when they're actually cheating emotionally

I'm here to help

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Introductory session for new clients,only $97

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WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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#emotionalaffair #emotionalinfidelity #emotionallyunfaithful #emotionalcheating

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Find yourself afraid you're not good enough? You won't be hired? You won't be wanted? Loved? Accepted? Fear of rejection may be the culprit underlying those thoughts. SO IMPORTANT to recognize so you can overcome the fears that may be holding you back from healthier relationships with yourself and others...including the NASTY Hijackals!

Recognize the limitations that the fear of rejection creates in your life, so you can reject it! No need to allow that fear to rule. See it. Reject it. Change it!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Dr. Shaler's definition of emotional abuse
• How you feel when you fear rejection
• How fear of rejection limits your life & relationships
• How Hijackal (narcissistic) parents control you with this fear

I'm here to help

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Introductory session for new clients,only $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

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YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

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Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#fearofrejection #definitionofemotionalabuse #narcissisticparent #whereIgotfearofrejection

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Bit by bit, you start to second-guess yourself, and even question your sanity. Gaslighting will do that! Learn what it is and how to recognize even the most subtle forms. ALSO, gaslighting is emotional abuse. So, see it so you can stop it from making you crazy!

Gaslighting is emotional abuse and psychological manipulation. NOT GOOD! The sooner you see the more subtle forms as well as the more obvious forms of gaslighting, the sooner you'll step back and reclaim your self-confidence. May not happen overnight, but it will happen!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Obvious & subtle examples of gaslighting
• How repeatedly gaslighting you wears you down
• Hijackals want to define your reality for you

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#crazymaking #gaslighting #intentiallycrazymaking #manipulation #definingmyrealityforme

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Lies of any kind undermine trust. Big difference between folks who decide to lie and those who don't.

Learn how you can respond effectively, though it may not stop the lying.

Learn the distinction between natural & pathological liars. It's a big one! But, does it make a difference when you're on the receiving end of it?

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why people lie
• Why Hijackals think you'll finally believe their lies. (Do you?)
• How they lie about the most important thing: love
• Differences between natural liars and pathological liars
• Why you may not be willing to pay the high cost of uncovering deceit...but need to!

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#naturalliars #pathologicalliars #costofdeceit #believinglies #IknowImbeingliedto

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Can you trust a smile? How do you read a smirk? What's the difference? What do they mean? When dealing with narcissistic Hijackals, you REALLY need to know! Learn about detecting signs of danger. Know when you need to protect yourself. Know when it's safe to connect (and, it rarely is when you have a Hijackal partner, parent, sibling, or adult child, sadly)

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• The confusing clash of non-verbal cues from Hijackals
• The difference between a genuine smile and a "social" smile
• Why Hijackal smiles are often forced, and their laughter is hollow
• 8 nasty reasons Hijackals smirk

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#mixedmessages #manipulativecommunication #manipulatingmessages #mixedmessagesofanarcissist

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Yes? No? Maybe? Someday? Your head can be spinning! What to believe? How to decide? What to pay attention to? MIXED MESSAGES keep you hooked, questioning your sanity, and second-guessing yourself. One thing you CAN BE CLEAR about: you need to see those mixed message for what they are: CONTROL.

It's tempting to focus on the parts of a mixed message that you SO want to be true. You can fool yourself that way. And, you'll suffer. Hopefully, this episode will help you with insights to stop all that.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• What kinds of mixed messages there are
• How mixed messages can be delivered over time and/or in one sentence
• Examples of mixed messages from parents & partners
• How you decide what part of a mixed message to believe

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#mixedmessages #manipulativecommunication #manipulatingmessages #mixedmessagesofanarcissist

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Whether you have a Hijackal parent, partner, sibling, or other of the narcissistic variety, knowing how they manipulate you with their voices is important to recognize. AND, they only do some of that manipulating consciously. Once you're aware of these important cues, you can refuse to be affected. GREAT!

This episode will help you see how you're being subconsciously affected by the tone, pace, volume, and other cues that a Hijackal gives through their voice.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• How your body reads the Hijackal
• Why your mind argues with your body
• Why you need to know you can trust your body's wisdom
• How Hijackals manipulate you with their voice
• Know what you're actually taking in...and
• Know to trust your body

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#polyvagaltheory #neuroception #subconsciouslymanipulated #voicemakesmefeelunsafe #readingvoicecues

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Relief! Yes, you think you'll feel it when you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, and you will...in some ways. Then, in too many ways, the Hijackal is likely to do everything possible to exert continued control over you...and, over your children. Eight ways Hijackals continue to exert control. Is it happening to you?

(NOTE: This episode ends abruptly due to technical issues.)

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• How domestic violence and domestic abuse can continue after separation
• What post-separation abuse is
• 6 ways to prepare for after leaving a Hijackal ( or anyone who is narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, psychopathic, or sociopathic)
• How ACEs--Adverse Childhood Experiences--often follow separating from a Hijackal
• Preparing to be safe after leaving an abuser

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#postseparationabuse #violenceafterIleave #narcissisticabuse #whathappensafterIleave #abuseafterleaving #leavinganabuser

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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Who has told you what to do and how to do it? Who told you who you are and what you're worth? Did it include "shoulds" and shame? So important to recognize because it may be still playing a part in your life. Also, others can still tap into it, especially Hijackals.

So many ways that narcissists and other Hijackals want to exert power over you, and do it by continuously shaming you, making you wrong, small, guilt-ridden, and diminished! Toxic shaming is one of those ways. See it clearly so you can reject it!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why you may not realize how many times you've been told you "should"
• Why "shoulding on yourself" is toxic
• The myth of perfectionism
• What toxic shame is
• How toxic shame is perpetrated
• Internalizing toxic shame

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#shoulds #toxicshame #whatistoxicshame #hownarcissistsusetoxicshame #hijackalstoxicshame

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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People have learned that making another person feel guilty is a quick way to control that person's emotions...negatively. You may be so used to it and you haven't questioned whether or not you've actually done what you are being accused of. OR, even more sad, you've been blamed so many times you've begun to feel that EVERYTHING IS YOUR FAULT.

That's what happened when a healthier human spends to long with a Hijackal parent, partner, OR WORSE, both! Clearly see this damaging tactic for what it is, and why it is effective SO you can say NO!!! to feeling guilty any longer.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

• Why narcissistic folks want to manipulate you with guilt
• Difference between guilt and feeling guilty
• Reasons people want you to feel guilty
• How to stop feeling guilty

I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta

Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Emerging Empowered Community now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 

#wantyoutofeelguilty #makesmefeelguilty #guiltyisnotafeeling #guiltisaverdict #guiltproducing

#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders

#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse

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