School of Self-Image

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care

Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed.

The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth.

Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty.

Talking Points:

• 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment

• 00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect

• 00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care

• 00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care

• 00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy

• 00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature

• 00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom

• 00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop

Quotes:

"When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?"

"Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities."

"I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you."

"Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins."

"It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life."

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Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values

Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no:

1. Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.

2. Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.

3. Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.

4. Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.

Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals.

Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.

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Episode Details:

00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No

Quotes:

"Innovation is saying no to a thousand things."

"No is my new favorite word."

"When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life."

"I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am."

"The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality."

"I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying."

"The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary."

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The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You

Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself. Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are.

By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life.

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Episode Details:

00:49 Delighting in yourself

06:52 Prioritize self-care

09:35 Making time for joyful activities

15:31 Being your own best friend

20:14 Quality alone time

21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself

Quotes:

"My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace."

"A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world."

"You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself."

"What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader."

"You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself."

"There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is."

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Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

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Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence

Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior. School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others.

Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly.

Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior.

Episode Details:

00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life

05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control

10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits

13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you"

17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you

Quotes:

"I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions."

"When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support."

"You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love."

"I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing."

"The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention."

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Unlocking the Lessons of Aging: Embracing Your Journey with Gratitude

Embracing your age with joy, purpose, and gratitude at every stage of life is a powerful mindset shift that can lead to a more fulfilling and enriching experience. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of loving your age, regardless of where you are in life. She emphasizes the need to appreciate the present moment and find beauty in every stage of life.

One key point highlighted is the significance of reframing aging from being seen as a burden to being viewed as a blessing. Aging is not a disease but a privilege, offering opportunities for growth, learning, and new experiences. By shifting our perspective on aging, we can approach each stage of life with a sense of gratitude and excitement for what it has to offer.

Join Tonya as she dives into breaking free from societal aging expectations and embracing your unique identity at every age, so you can cultivate a sense of empowerment and self-expression.

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Episode Details:

00:39 Loving Your Age

08:27 Reframing aging as a blessing.

12:26 Intergenerational friendships.

15:18 Creating age loving environments.

19:10 Dressing for desired energy.

25:38 Choosing Positive Aging Narratives.

27:25 Embracing new experiences.

31:37 Overcoming people pleasing and approval.

Quotes:

"You can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old."

"I'm not going to waste time wishing I was 20 again, because I'll never be 20 again."

"Aging is not a disease. It is a privilege, a privilege truly of a lifetime."

"Push against what you've been told older folks can supposedly do or can't do. I mean, who decided that?"

"I love what Iris Eiffel says. She's like, style has no age. It's an attitude, not age."

"I want to chase less and enjoy more."

"I used to think happiness was a fairy tale, forever just out of reach."

Useful Resources:

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Raising the Bar: How to Set Higher Standards for Self-Love

What is your self-love standard? This week Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-love standards and how they can impact our lives. Self-love is not just about fluffy feelings, but about setting expectations for how we treat ourselves. So, how do we raise our self-love standards? By examining how we talk to ourselves, how we treat our bodies, and how we expect to be treated by others. Tonya shares personal experiences and examples to illustrate the power of self-love standards and how this manifests in our self-image. Tonya encourages listeners to align their standards with their future self-image and create a life that reflects their highest potential.

Episode Details:

03:24 The power of self-talk

07:32 Raise the standard of self-love

09:19 Self-love and body image

14:49 Alignment and synergy

17:09 Reevaluate current standards

21:35 Elevating your self-image

Quotes:

"I am so proud of you for trying. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there. You are smart. You are kind. You are beautiful. You have what it takes. Go get it, girl."

"As someone who used to be so mean to the reflection in the mirror, I just refused to do that anymore because nothing good came out of it. It just made me feel terrible, which then led me to take terrible actions that just kept me perpetuating terrible results, truly."

"You will always prove to yourself how you see yourself."

"If you're constantly comparing. to either past versions of yourself or other people, you will not see your own."

"If you don't love yourself, madly, ridiculously, unapologetically, this world will run all over you."

"It is time for you to create your own 'powerfully ever after'."

Useful Resources:

• Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

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• FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

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Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

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Stepping into the Spotlight: Embracing Your Superpower of Visibility

What is fear of being seen? Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh gives valuable insights on the fear of being seen and the impact it can have on women. She shares personal experiences and highlights the societal pressure for women to blend in and not rock the boat. Tonya emphasizes the importance of embracing authenticity and stepping into the spotlight of our lives. She offers tools and strategies for overcoming the fear of being seen, including acknowledging the fear, starting small, building a support network, shifting the narrative, challenging the inner critic, taking action, finding inspiration, and remembering one's why. She also encourages women to celebrate their milestones and to be willing to be judged and fail in order to reclaim their stories and voices. She concludes by reminding listeners that they are worthy, powerful, and meant to be seen.

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Episode Details:

01:01 Fear of being seen

04:54 Blending In

09:45 Harnessing the superpower of visibility

13:22 Imposter syndrome

19:16 Celebrating small milestones and progress.

23:54 Fear of being judged.

Quotes:

"When I think about going after extraordinary goals, one of the things that is required is that you're seen on some level."

"I got over my fear of being seen. I was willing to be judged. I was willing to be ridiculed."

"Remember, and this is really important, visibility isn't about validation."

"What I have known to be true is the more imperfect I am, the more vulnerable I am, the more I share the ins and outs of my life, the more people can connect to that."

"Fear has no control over you in this part of your life. When you're willing to be judged, when you're willing to get it wrong, when you're willing to be imperfect, when you're willing to look stupid, when you're willing to fail, all of a sudden the fear is gone."

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Comfort vs. Strength: Creating a Life of Fulfillment

The importance of finding a balance between comfort and strength in order to live a fulfilling and adventurous life is the focus on this episode of School of Self-Image with host Tonya Leigh. She emphasizes that while comfort can be enjoyable, too much of it can prevent us from pursuing our dreams. On the other hand, strength is necessary for personal growth and achieving our goals. Leigh encourages listeners to embrace discomfort and take small brave steps outside of their comfort zones. She also highlights the importance of mindfulness and self-compassion in navigating the balance between comfort and strength. Ultimately, she suggests that true fulfillment comes from embracing both comfort and strength in our lives.

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Episode Details:

00:22 Finding balance between comfort and adventure

07:25 There's low risk with comfort

09:43 Leisurely hustling

12:47 Setting extraordinary goals

17:04 A beautiful waltz of comfort and strength

Quotes:

"Find a balance between rest and restlessness. Find a balance between the life you dream of and the life you live."

"Strength is that inner knowing that you've got your own back, that you are going to do what you say you're going to do, that you're going to handle the obstacles that come your way, that you're going to have courage."

"True pleasure is the absence of pain."

"There's something beautiful about seeing what you're made of"

"A life that's built from both comfort and strength, because ultimately true fulfillment lies not in choosing one over the other, but in mastering the art of embracing both."

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Learning from the Past and Creating Your Future

Have you ever considered how amazing it would be if you chose to learn from the past intentionally? How this might create a better future? Welcome to this week's episode of School of Self-Image podcast with host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh.

Tonya is all in on the concept of a monthly reset and shares her personal experience of starting a new morning routine. She encourages listeners to tune in to their future selves and take action towards their goals, even if they feel off track. She reassures them that it's never too late to make a change and improve their lives.

Hitting that monthly reset goal is such a part of self-image work and in shaping experiences and outcomes. By changing how individuals perceive themselves, they can create new evidence and transform various areas of their lives, including relationships, finances, and personal growth. This is the power of the monthly reset.

Episode Details:

00:02:46 Never too late to reset

00:06:33 How you see yourself

00:10:15 Monthly reset and review

00:14:08 Celebrating wins and dissecting failures

00:19:07 Creating new evidence of success

00:22:06 The power of self-reflection

Quotes:

"Every moment is a chance for a U-turn."

"I'm a woman who creates her life on purpose."

"Every moment is truly a blank slate, yet we bring all of our old baggage into this moment."

"I already know that the obstacle that I am going to encounter is my own brain."

"Without a mind that is intentional, that is focused, that is disciplined, you're going to struggle in life."

Useful Resources:

• Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

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Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

Finding Fulfillment Through Trusting Your Intuition

Do you struggles with not trusting intuition? Tonya Leigh knows exactly what that feels like and how it has impacted her life. Throughout this episode, she emphasizes the benefits of following intuition. Listening to intuition can lead to a more fulfilling life and make decision-making easier. Intuition is described as an inner compass connected to one's true self and higher purpose. Tonya encourages listeners to pay attention to their bodies and not ignore the signals they receive. Ignoring intuition can lead to suffering and keep individuals in a state of scarcity. Being overly cognitive and overthinking things can override gut feelings and lead to decisions that are not in true service of oneself.

To reconnect with intuition, Tonya suggests asking oneself questions and tuning into the inner voice. "If my highest self could speak, what would she say?" and then imagining the wisest self advising. By removing outside opinions, societal expectations, and the influence of others, individuals can tap into their own inner knowing.

Tune in to discover how you can make decisions that align with your values and priorities and experience a greater sense of flow and fulfillment in life.

Episode Breakdown:

01:09 Overriding that gut knowing

06:32 When intuition is nudging you

09:35 Getting off track

14:09 Listen to your body

19:29 The power of intuition

23:21 Following your inner compass

26:36 Intuition versus fear

33:32 What do I know deep down?

36:04 Elevating the quality of mindset

Quotes:

"Albert Einstein said, the intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the reflective, rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."

"Showing up and sharing and helping and serving and offering value is the greatest way to sell anything."

"They can be saying all of the right things, they can be smiling in your face, on paper they can look like the perfect person for you, but your gut is saying run."

"Learning to listen and decode your intuition is going to lead to a greater, more fulfilling life."

"Sometimes it's pursuing a career path, even though you feel it does not genuinely align with your interests, your soul, or your strengths."

"Intuition usually isn't panicked. It's just this very calm, gentle, subtle voice."

"But what I do know is that you know, and that answer is found within your body, not your mind, but within your body."

"Listening to your intuition requires space. It requires time to just be with yourself."

Useful Resources:

• Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

• FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

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Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

• Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh