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If you’re a high achiever, you may be dealing with what I call pedestal relationships — where people place you on a pedestal, expect you to always have it together, and then don’t show up for you the same way they show up for others. In this episode I share how I realized this was happening in my life, the signs I ignored at first, and the changes I’m making so my relationships aren’t built on me being the “strong one” all the time.

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Hyper independence doesn’t come from nowhere. For a lot of high achievers, it’s learned. It’s survival. It’s what you do when you realize no one is coming to save you.

In this episode, I’m opening up about how 2025 forced me to confront my hyper-independence and self reliance—and why God allowed it to break me down instead of letting me power through it like I’ve done in the past.

We talk about:

• how “strength” and independence can become a stronghold
• why I grew to avoid depending on people and being vulnerable
• what happens when you’re the “strong friend” who finally runs out
• what happened when I finally started opening up
• why God had to break the stronghold of hyper independence in my life
• and why community isn’t optional for the next chapter of your life

This is the first episode in the series for the month of February where we talk about Shedding—letting go of what can’t come with you into the next chapter.

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• Read the post on Pedestal Relationships here

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In this episode we'll discuss both why you self sabotage and how to stop self sabotaging. If you don't do these things you run the risk of sabotaging your 2026 goals.

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This is your year end pep talk to get your life together before 2026. These are 5 things I need you to keep in mind as you start planning for 2026.

If you struggle with self-sabotage and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclass

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Authenticity episode: #221. How to be Authentic AND believe that YOU are enough

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In today's episode, we'll discuss why you struggle to consistent when working on your goals and how to be consistent so you can become the best version of yourself.

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Personal conviction episode: #214 - You've come too far to give up now

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In today's episode, we'll discuss how you can start being more comfortable in just being yourself. We'll start with a pep talk, then I'll give you some questions to do an authenticity audit, and lastly, you'll get some homework so you can start being who you are 100% AND knowing that you are ENOUGH.

If you struggle with procrastination and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclass

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If I knew these things ahead of time it would have saved me a lot of agony and confusion so I'm going to give you a heads up.

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Today, we'll discuss the 6 things I learned (that humbled me) over the last 2 years of being in a wilderness season with God. This is the rough BTS of what it's like when you're committed to becoming the best version of yourself.

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Stop looking at everyone, go for the things they want in life, while you stay behind and watch your life pass you by.

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In today's episode, we'll discuss my #1 strategy I've been using to accomplish my goals. I'll tell you how to apply it in your life to level up before 2026.

Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself!

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