Sex for Saints

This is part one of an amazing interview I did with fellow life coach Julie Balkman. I really wanted to do this interview with Julie because I think a lot of our young adults are really struggling in dating and moving into relationships and into sexual relationships. Whether you're a young adult, either single and dating or newly married or you have young adults, even if you have been married a long time, I think you're going to find some really good, valuable insights into why things are the way they are for you in this episode. Don't miss part 2 coming next week.

Julie Balkman, founder of the 100 Interviews Project and expert panelist for the LDS dating app Mutual, is a dating expert and certified life coach who helps young adults get out of the dating game and into a real relationship that lasts. The dating game often continues into engagement and marriage, so she also works with newly married couples, helping them build a relationship based on real love and intimacy. With eight years experience working with hundreds of young adults (single and married), she has seen firsthand the desire and need for clear answers, actionable steps, and real results. You can find her at juliebalkmancoaching.com and @lifecoach.julie on Instagram.

Have you noticed that the passion in your sex life has disappeared? It's time to ignite it again, don't you think? I was recently on Ashlee Sorenson's podcast called A Bit Better Everyday and I loved our conversation so much that I asked Ashlee if I could share it with you and she graciously said yes. So, join us as we talk about how we ignite that passion again both in our lives and in the bedroom.

Our definition of sex can really affect how much sex we're getting. So, how do you define sex? Is sex just penetration and orgasm? Or are there other activities that you define as sex? This isn't a one-size-fits-all answer but it's important to ask yourself how you define it and why. Listen as we discuss what a broad definition of sex can do for your sex life.

Have you heard about sleep divorce? "Sleep divorce" is a situation where couples sleep separately on a regular basis to improve their sleep quality due to issues like snoring, different sleeping schedules, or personal preferences. Studies show that it can help save relationships, but it may also cause problems. Listen to this episode to find out what those problems may be and how to make it work in your relationship.

Have you ever been jealous in your relationship? Around 77% of people report feeling at least an occasional jealousy in their relationships. In this episode, we're talking about jealousy and how a little jealousy in a relationship can be a good thing, but too much jealousy can damage a relationship. Let's discuss why you're feeling jealous and what you can do about it.

Sources:

Journal of Personal and Social Relationships Study

Through my own experience and coaching women for five years, I have come to know what the sexual conditioning of women is in our Christian faith, and how to help them. But women aren't the only ones affected by our teachings. Men hear that they are the head of the household and women are there to nurture them, including giving them what they "need". Men hear that they are to push down their emotions to be manly. Along with so many other damaging things. So in this episode, we're going to talk about those misconceptions and, more importantly, what you can do about them.

How does your body image affect your partner? That's what my guest Amber Price and I are talking about in this episode. Even though body image issues is something you see a lot in women, men have body image issues too. Listen in as we discuss what we do, why we do it and what we can do about it.

You can find more information about Amber at:

Her website

Instagram

In this episode, we talk about the top 4 reasons for low desire in women that I see in my clients. I break down why women have low desire and what to do about it. So if you want to want sex, but you just don't, this is the episode for you! I also have a lot of men coming to me to help their wives. Let's talk about that too.

Here are the episodes referenced in this episode:

Taking Care of your husband's "needs"

Episode 253 - Consenting to Unwanted Sex

Episode 167 - Is Sex a Need?

Episode 195 - Need-Based Sex

Episode 210 - Blue Balls & Blue Beans

Episode 229 - Duty Sex

Body Image:

Episode 74 - How Body Image Affects Sex

Episode 162 - Attraction & Self-Objectification

Stress:

Episode 226 - The Mental Load That Is Affecting Your Sex Life

Episode 101 - Sex Under Stress

Episode 190 - Creating the Space for Desire

Gender Norms around Initiation

Episode 169 - Initiating Ideas and Styles

Episode 34 - Cultivating Connection & Desire

Episode 86 - Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire

Episode 98 - Embracing Your Sexuality

Episode 109 - Higher Desires and Lower Desires

Episode 217 - Reclaiming Desire & Eros

In this episode, I'm talking to Sheri Brasier about how to gain more confidence in the bedroom. Sheri is a life and style coach which means that she empowers women to have great style and in turn gain confidence. In our discussion, we talked about how to improve how you look at yourself in order to improve how you feel about yourself and sex. This really is an interesting discussion on style and how it makes us feel. Listen in and tell me what you think.

You can find Sheri on:

Instagram

Facebook

Her website

Her podcast: Creating Unshakable Self Confidence

You can get a freebie called Style Basics Every Woman Should Have in Her Closet by going to this link.

In this episode, I'm speaking with Katie Runyan of Faithful Fling, a subscription role-playing website. We talk about how to easily add role-play into our marriages. This is such a fun episode! Katie talked about how she created her business because it's what she was looking for when they first started role-playing. Listen to this episode, and then sign up for a free fling.

Katie resides in Kansas City, Missouri with her husband and four children who have all flown the coop! She's left with an empty house but not an empty marriage yet she spends a lot of time begging them to come home for the weekend! You can find her outside doing a lazy run, visiting local donut shops, taking naps or with her nose in a book.

In the Spring of 2022 she finally took the leap and started her own business where she creates role-play dates for you and your spouse to do together, so Katie is the role-play expert! She named her website Faithful Fling because all of her role-play scenarios will be just between you and your spouse, hence the Faithful part, and she named these fun role-play dates "Flings" because she wanted to apply a fun and flirty word for your role-play date night. She loves what she does and can't wait for the moment when Faithful Fling becomes a common name for date night!

Katie is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints who encourages everyone to embrace their God-given sexuality, improve their intimacy and connection with their spouse and learn to have fun in the bedroom! She's been married for 24 years and they still date each other every week.

You can find her:

On Instagram

On her website

Or email her at [email protected]

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