Sex for Saints

Rather than dwelling on the questions your brain is offering to you, answer them. Thoughtfully think about them and answer them. You have the answers already inside of you. I'm so excited to share this teaser from my subscription podcast with you. In this episode, I talk to Jen and Floyd about taking things to the next level. I've been working with them for a couple of years now and the change has been amazing. But now they're ready to go to the next level with their sex life. Listen in to see what that means for them and what questions they have as they do it. Are you ready to go to the next level?

How do I get my wife to develop her sexual self? That is probably one of the most common questions I get from husbands. This question makes the assumption that if I just say the right thing in the right way their eyes will be opened and all will be right in my world. But that is not usually the case. And what it actually ends up doing is creating more unhealthy pressure. So, how do you create healthy pressure? Listen to this episode to find out.

In this episode, I'm speaking with Dr. Cami Hurst about her research into consenting to unwanted sex. This research is ground breaking in understanding why so many middle aged women have no libido. I am so happy to be able to share both what she found in her research and also what to do about it.

Cami Hurst, LAMFT, is a sex and relationship therapist in Meridian, ID. Cami operates a private practice offering therapy, coaching, and online small group education. She is a founder and current President of the Idaho Association of Sexual Health Professionals (ISHP). She holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology and a Master's Degree in Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy. Cami is passionate about helping couples and individuals improve their sexual health.

You can find the slides that we reference in the show here.

Find Cami on:

Her website - https://camihurst.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.camihurst/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/camijill/

Her podcast, Sex Therapy 101 - https://camihurst.com/sex-therapy-101-podcast

My clients often have transactional relationships with their spouses without even realizing it. In this episode, I want to explain what a transactional marriage is, why we don't want it and what we want instead. I was recently reminded that people often think of our relationship with our Heavenly Father as transactional when all He wants is a relationship with us. As we pattern our lives after our Heavenly Parents, we can come to realize that the relationship is the most important part of our marriages as well. Let's talk about transactional vs relational marriages.

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What is empowerment? More importantly, how can we be sexually empowered? In this episode, we're going to not only answer these questions, but also how to know if we are sexually empowered or if we're just seeking outside validation. Sexual empowerment feels differently for everyone which is why it's something we evaluate for ourselves rather than have someone else tell us. Listen to find out how to be empowered sexually.

In this episode, I'm speaking with Joey Mascio. He is a fellow life coach and good friend who normally works with teens helping them become the hero of their own story. But today we're taking it a step further. A lot of what we think about ourselves comes from when we were teenagers. So we too need to find a way to become the heroes of our stories! Whether you were a teenager once or are raising a teenager, this is a must listen episode!

You can find Joey at:

His website: http://www.sidekicktohero.com/

His Instagram account just for teens: https://www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero/

His Instagram account for parents: https://www.instagram.com/joey_sidekicktohero/

Or his podcast, Secrets for an Awesome Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/secrets-for-an-awesome-life/id1504492900

I'm excited to share with you a teaser for my new subscription podcast, Embracing You. In this Embracing You episode, I talk to Emily about how shame is affecting her sex life. We discuss where this shame comes from and some ways to get over it. Sexual shame is something I see a lot in my clients, especially in our conservative Christian culture, even though we don't always see it as shame. Listen in as I teach Emily what she can do to stop letting the shame keep her from getting what she truly wants.

If you like what you hear, join me in the Embracing You podcast by going to amandalouder.com/embracingyoupod

What is enthusiastic consent and why do we need to talk about it? That's what we're going to delve into in this episode. We have to enthusiastically consent to sex every single time. Just laying there and letting him do whatever he wants isn't enthusiastic consent. Listen in to see how to give enthusiastic consent and how much better it can make your sex life.

In this episode, I am talking to my friend and mentor, Aimée Gianni, about how to have a covenant marriage. So often we stay in our broken marriages because we made a covenant. But what if doing that is actually breaking your covenant?

Aimée offers some amazing things to think about if we are at the point where we are thinking about divorce. Even if we're happy in your marriage, her advice can help us progress along the path.

You can find Aimée Gianni at:

https://aimeegianni.com/

Instagram: @aimeegiannims

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