Sharing your child's expenses with your ex post-divorce can be a minefield on so many levels. It leads to disputes over what expenses should be incurred, what should be shared, what's the fairest way of sharing them, how to get reimbursed and on it goes ....

It can also fuel competition between parents with each parent having their preferred activity or their philosophy on what their child needs for school and and how much to spend. That competition is rarely good for the child.

It's easy for one parent to feel they're carrying the responsibility for these expenses especially when the reimbursements don't come. The debts accumulate and that can mean having to go to court to collect which is never fun.

One key to managing the conflict is planning ahead and including some solid agreements in your divorce papers but to do that, you have to first know what to expect. Joining Mandy for this Conversation is family law attorney Alan Plevy from the law firm SmolenPlevy in Virginia. Alan has been practicing family law for over 30 years and has a wealth of knowledge to share in this area. Check out their website for some helpful videos and resources in divorce.

And ... checkout Mandy's Since My Divorce blog for a synopsis of this show and everything else you need to know about divorce.