Single Mother Survival Guide

Today I talk with you about emotions. How we live and interact with others is influenced by our emotions. It could even be said that we are ruled by our emotions. We make decisions based on whether we are happy, angry, or sad. It's important to understand how your emotions are expressed and the impact they have on your actions because they can help us navigate life with ease.

In this episode, I talk about the eight basic emotions that we are born with, and how they can stimulate a response in our body that influence our actions, behaviour, and decision-making. I also talk about blending emotions to produce a new emotion.

I want you to know that it's okay to experience any type of emotion, even those that can be difficult to cope with like anger or fear. Understanding your emotions helps us learn how to manage them, and it helps build healthy, satisfying relationships.

Listen to the episode to know more!

Links mentioned in the episode:

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Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

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You can probably recall situations in your life that have made you uncomfortable. Right now, you may already be trapped in a cycle of avoidance without even knowing it. Avoidance in general are actions a person takes to escape from difficult thoughts and feelings. It may cause panic and anxiety when not managed properly. And you may find yourself restricting your life as you avoid people, events, and opportunities in an attempt to keep anxiety at bay. This can create an unhealthy and vicious cycle which intensifies over time.

In this episode I will discuss what exactly avoidance is. In order to change anything, you must first start becoming aware of when it's occurring, so I will also share different types of avoidance coping, graded exposure therapy and other strategies for healthy emotional coping techniques plus breaking the cycle of avoidance.

I hope it helps you!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about emotions, managing emotions, and how they can affect our body if we avoid dealing with them.

When emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with the emotions effectively or avoid them. For many people, avoidance becomes their primary coping mechanism, because the trauma is too painful to deal with at the time. Or it may be because there isn't the capacity to deal with it at that time.

Instinctively we want to avoid pain and discomfort and would very much rather avoid facing these emotions head-on. But emotional avoidance, if left unchecked over time, can extend suffering and, in the long run, may do more harm than good. What you resist, persists.

In this episode, I talk about what suppressed emotions can do to our body and mind when we don't release them. Listen as I share some tips on how to identify your avoidance coping mechanisms and take steps toward making changes to help you heal.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

Moving forward after a crisis can be really tough. And becoming a single mum can definitely be a crisis. A crisis can also be something such as struggling with anger, loneliness, fatigue, financial worries, and a whole array of emotions that you might be going through. And when we're dealing with a crisis, we might be carrying all the stress ourselves, carrying it on our shoulders, as we embark on this new chapter of our life.

In this episode, I share a few tips that can help you move forward when crisis hits. I hope that what I discuss will help you move forward with a plan and with confidence.

Know that there are many other single mums grappling with exactly the same issues, and many have come up with creative solutions and are now thriving in life. Build a support system of family and friends that you can turn to for encouragement and support. You've got this!

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about asking for help. As single mums, we often struggle to ask for help. You might feel you want to do it all, but it can be very exhausting. Others may not have trouble asking for help. But for those of us who do, I share my thoughts on why many of us are reluctant to ask for help. I also talk about practicing discernment on who to ask and when the appropriate time to ask for help is, plus some obstacles that stand in our way when asking for help.

I hope that what I shared today helps you. If you truly are struggling, please ask for help. A lot of people love helping others, be grateful to accept the help you need and pass it forward someday.

Links mentioned in the episode:

To listen to my podcast episode on boundaries, click HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week on the show, I have Isabelle Silbery joining me.

Isabelle is a reality TV star who shined into the limelight as one of the members of 'The Silberys' in Gogglebox Australia. She is the youngest member of 'The Silberys' alongside her mother (Kerry) and grandmother (Emmie), bringing multi-generational women's relationships and voices to TV screens every week.

They have recently written a book called Out of the Box, a memoir where they share their most personal memories and lessons learned. She also writes for Body+Soul, Mamamia and Kidspot about all the things people are thinking, but not saying. Sex, motherhood, love, divorce, and relationships – nothing is off-limits.

Isabelle is a social commentator, writer, and philanthropist. She is an investor in social impact projects, driven by collaborative, purpose-driven thinking that leads to connection and social change. Day to day, she is a domestic goddess and mumma to her seven-year-old son – her most important job of all.

In this episode, Isabelle talks about:

• How her book, Out of the Box, came to fruition.
• How through the process of writing the book, her mother, grandmother and herself learned so much about each other and how it brought them much closer together.
• Dealing with PTSD.
• Co-parenting with her ex-husband, and now transitioning into a blended family as a newly married woman.
• Her recent miscarriage and how it also affected her husband.
• Stories about married life.
• And so much more!

Links mentioned in the episode:

You can check out Isabell's book, Out of the Box HERE. The book is also available as an audiobook.

You can also connect with Izzy on Instagram.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about boundaries from a single mum's perspective. This is a very difficult time for many single mums as they transition to single or co-parenting after separation. Having healthy boundaries enables you to learn to say no to situations that do not align with your values.

Today I discuss some traits of someone with rigid boundaries and someone with healthy boundaries and I talk about the types of boundaries.

I know it can be tough at first to put boundaries in place, especially if it is new to you, but if you do it right, boundaries will allow you to set your priorities and it will give you time to do the things that are more important, resulting in a more manageable life PLUS help your self-esteem.

I hope this episode encourages you to set your boundaries and helps you gravitate toward people who respect your boundaries.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about worry and how to manage it. As mums, we can all relate to feeling worried at one time or another. We tend to have a lot of things on our plate as we juggle issues that come with separation, home, and work-life.

In this episode, I talk about the different things we often worry about and I share tips on what we can do to deal with worry, and specifically five ways we can manage our worries. I also talk about the difference between rumination, anxiety, and worry.

I hope that this episode helps you turn your worries into more productive thoughts and helps you realise that you have the power over how you handle the stress that comes with being a mum.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about habits and how they can be used as part of your goal-setting process. I believe that setting goals can help create the life that you want. These habits that I talk about have helped me achieve many of the goals I have set for myself, and because of that, I am able to live life more purposefully toward the life I want to live.

Today I introduce ten habits that will help you align your intentions with your future vision, so you become the person you want to become. May you put all these habits into action and keep yourself on track with your eyes on the prize – becoming the best version of yourself.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Episode 88 – Goal setting for single mums – HERE.

Join Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this week's episode, I talk about decision-making and the questions you can ask yourself to help you reflect when you are making your decisions.

Getting into the habit of asking yourself these reflection questions can help you gain clarity and creates that inner dialogue to help you examine your own thoughts and feelings before making the tough and big decisions that will need to be made when you are going through divorce or separation.

Along with sharing these questions for you to ask yourself and reflect upon, in this episode I also share what to be mindful of so you can avoid self-sabotage, along with some actions that support decision-making.

It is my hope that this episode helps you become more intentional about setting aside time for reflection in order to help be aware and build confidence when making big decisions.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Ep 301 – Four biggest mindset mistakes that can affect your decision-making - HERE.

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.