Single Mother Survival Guide

In this week's episode, I talk about the four biggest mindset mistakes single mums can make when making decisions and some tips on how to avoid them. Do you recognise one or more in yourself right now?

It's something I've identified in many of my single mum coaching clients.

It is my hope that this episode helps you overcome these mindset mistakes, helps you explore all your options, and ultimately directs you to the best possible outcome for your situation.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join the Thrive Tribe waitlist HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week's episode is very special for two reasons –

1. It's my 300th episode, woohoo!
2. This is the first time I have my partner Greg joining me on the show!

In this episode, Greg and I chat about dating, new relationships, and the blending of families.

We cover:

• How we got back into dating after separation.
• Things to consider before dating again.
• Setting boundaries when dating.
• The top 3 words to describe what we're looking for when dating.
• The importance of having a thorough discussion on blending two families as the relationship progresses.
• The challenges I encountered with making big changes in life such as moving in together.
• Sharing parenting responsibilities in blended families.
• And our top tips when it comes to dating and relationships.

In this raw and natural episode, you'll hear unfiltered parts of me and Greg just having fun talking and sharing stories and experiences with one another.

I hope you can relate to the things we discuss and that it helps you gain new perspectives when it comes to dating and relationships.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Join Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

What many people don't understand is the importance of having the right mindset. Going through separation or divorce can really bog you down; it is a difficult time. But know that you have a choice. Your ex is not in control of what you do with your life now. Your ex is not determining your current state of mind. You are in a position to keep your chin up, find your sparkle and ride the waves as you work on improving your circumstances, or be engulfed with negative thoughts and energy. No matter what your situation. Be kind to yourself.

In this episode, along with talking about the importance of having the right mindset, I also discuss the importance of forgiving yourself and practising gratitude. Finally, I share a couple of strategies that will help you develop the positive mindset that will make a big difference in your single mum journey.

I hope that this episode gave you a new perspective and an understanding that what you focus on becomes your reality. Whatever your circumstances, make a conscious daily decision to choose joy.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about understanding our conflict triggers.

A trigger is something that gives us an immediate, intense reaction. They come from within us and are about how we react to a situation. Generally, they come from a real threat, or more commonly, a perceived threat; a FEAR (false evidence appearing real).

Conflict triggers are strong emotions that can cause rifts, resentments, and conflict when handled in an unhealthy manner. But when handled in a positive way, they can become an opportunity to grow, avoid potential conflicts and strengthen relationships.

It's beneficial to know when we are being triggered, especially when we're dealing with an ex, our kids, our work, and other areas of our lives.

Today I summarise nine different triggers and a variety of different personality types that might trigger you.

I hope that this episode helps you be more aware of your own feelings and encourages you to respond more instead of reacting, and lastly, to communicate clearly and be eager to find solutions to resolve disagreements.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about the ten steps to take when embarking on the divorce or separation journey and becoming a single mum.

Navigating life as a single mum can be, at first, overwhelming. You might be feeling sad, scared, or even relieved. I know it can be scary tackling a new and uncertain future. But life can get even better and you can be fulfilled and thrive in life, even as a single mum!

If you want to hear more, check out a past episode entitled, Top Tips to Look After Yourself As a New Mum (Episode 255).

I hope these tips will help you and give you courage as you embark on your single mum journey.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Episode 144 - How to find or start a local single mums group HERE.

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE. Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about what steps to take when taking the high road when going through a divorce or separation.

In last week's episode, I talked about taking the high road after separation whilst dealing with heartbreak at the same time. In this episode, we go deeper into the topic of taking the high road.

This is really hard to do when emotions are high, especially as you go through the stages of grief.

Today I provide you with some action steps to help you take the high road so you can walk away with your integrity intact and head held high as you move forward.

I hope these tips help you regardless of whether you have been a single mum for years or if you're a brand new single mum.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

In this episode, I talk about taking the high road after separation whilst dealing with heartbreak and going through the grief cycle at the same time.

This tough phase is something I help my one-on-one clients with. I get it, emotions can become intense when communicating with your ex after separation.

There are benefits to choosing your words carefully and respecting your ex (even if they don't deserve it). Not only does this preserve your dignity, but all communication can be used against you when you go to court.

Taking the high road is operating from a place of being at your best self and choosing to walk away from conflict; it's focusing on what you have and what you want. It's about looking at yourself and taking responsibility for your actions rather than playing the blame game.

If you want to hear more about this topic, check out Episode 194 and Episode 293 where I talked about heartbreak.

Links mentioned in the episode:

Jump on the waitlist for Thrive Tribe HERE.

Download the E-book – Thirteen single mothers share their struggles, top tips, and their favourite things about being a single mother – HERE.

To contact Julia, email: [email protected].

Visit us at Single Mother Survival Guide. And join the email list there too.

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest.

This week, I discuss holistic healing. Nowadays it is important to have a healthy approach to all aspects of our well-being - spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional. This is where we can make a change and a lasting improvement in our quality of life.

A holistic approach to healing is something I offer to my clients. This is also something I share with my Thrive Tribe family. Today I will share what has worked for me and the people I work with - the 8 pillars of holistic healing. I hope they help you to live a balanced life too.

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In this week's episode, I have Vikki Stark joining me. Vikki is an internationally known psychotherapist, speaker, author, divorce recovery expert, and the director of the Sedona Counselling Centre of Montreal. She's particularly known for her groundbreaking book, Runaway Husbands, which has led her to mentor a worldwide community of women recovering from unexpected divorce.

She has written two other books (My Sister, My Self, and The Divorce Talk: How to Tell the Kids) and edited a fourth, Planet Heartbreak, which is a compilation of 62 stories written by women from the Runaway Husbands community.

She's a blogger for Psychology Today and has often been a guest on radio and television, and a speaker at conferences worldwide. She is devoted to helping the women in her community and loves leading retreats, either online, in Montreal, or in Sedona, Arizona.

In this episode she talks about:

• Her own story of sudden wife abandonment.
• How this experience pivoted her on a path in life of helping other women going through the same thing.
• The ten hallmarks of sudden wife syndrome.
• The link between sudden wife abandonment and covert narcissism.
• The transformational healing stages after going through something like this.
• How to learn to see this experience as an opportunity for growth and change.
• How to talk to your kids when this happens.
• And so much more!

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In this episode, I discuss:

• The difference between a "normal" divorce and a high conflict divorce.
• What it is like dealing with a spouse who has a high-conflict personality.
• Signs for you to look out for if you suspect you are dealing with a high-conflict personality in your divorce.
• How I've helped coach and guide my clients that are going through this.
• The most common high-conflict personality types (borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder).
• Practical advice to people going through this highly emotional situation.
• And so much more!

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