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Join us in this raw and insightful episode as we dive into the world of emotions, sobriety, and the challenges of navigating life's big feelings. 

Our talk on vulnerability sparks a discussion on how individuals with addiction issues often struggle with handling their emotions. From workplace anxiety to the fear of failure, we explore the impact of emotional struggles and how it relates to our journeys in recovery.

The episode delves into the challenge of dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, and the constant need for self-improvement. Matt's recent career shift becomes a focal point as he grapples with anxiety and the fear of disappointing others.

Tune in for an authentic conversation on the highs and lows of dealing with big feelings, finding balance in life, and the ongoing journey of personal growth. If you've ever struggled with emotions or are curious about the intersection of sobriety and mental well-being, this episode is a must-listen. Discover practical insights, share a few laughs, and gain inspiration for your own emotional journey.

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In this episode, Matt and Steve discuss how character defects, such as fear, dishonesty, jealousy, and being transactional, can lead to problems in our relationships and our lives, and how they can trigger us to drink or use drugs. They share their personal stories and insights from working the 12 steps of AA, and how they learned to identify and overcome their character defects.

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Is AA all about following the straight and narrow, or is there room for nuance in recovery? This week, Steve and I break free from the black and white thinking that can trap us in sobriety. We tackle the "one drink = start over" dogma, explore the beauty of personal choice, and celebrate the power of tools over rigid rules. Buckle up for a thought-provoking discussion about finding your own path and making recovery work for you, not the other way around.

Highlights:

• Black & white vs. grey: Rethinking the "all or nothing" mentality in AA.
• One-drink slips: Should a minor misstep erase your entire journey?
• Picking your tools: Using the program as a toolbox, not a straitjacket.
• Attraction, not promotion: Embracing diversity and individual paths to sobriety.
• Learning from everyone: Accepting different experiences and finding inspiration in unique journeys.

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Join us in this insightful episode where we unpack the challenges and strategies surrounding Dry January.

Matt and Steve share personal anecdotes and reflections on their own relationships with specific types of alcohol, the triggers that led them to eliminate certain beverages, and the psychological aspects of cravings versus the mental obsession with alcohol. Engage with their candid conversation about the early days of sobriety, navigating the transition, and recognizing the difference between physical cravings and the mental urge to drink.

Drawing from their experiences and lessons learned from Alcoholics Anonymous, they shed light on practical coping mechanisms to tackle cravings during Dry January. From indulging in sweets as a temporary substitute to channeling energy into physical activities like running or exercise, discover effective ways to divert attention away from the desire to drink.

The power of community support is highlighted, emphasizing the significance of having a network of individuals who understand and empathize with the struggles of sobriety. Explore the role of accountability partners, friends, or apps like the Dry January app in creating a sense of companionship and shared commitment, crucial for successfully navigating the challenges of abstaining from alcohol.

For those venturing into Dry January or seeking support in their journey towards sobriety, this episode offers invaluable insights, practical tips, and encouragement. Whether it's finding solace in exercise, leaning on a supportive community, or exploring alternatives to curb cravings, discover effective strategies to embrace a month of abstinence and beyond.

Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of cravings, coping mechanisms, and the strength derived from a supportive community while embarking on the transformative journey of Dry January. Join the conversation and share your experiences using #DryJanuaryReflections. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and connect with us for more resources and discussions on our platform.

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Feeling bloated after the holidays? Ready to hit the reset button on your health and habits? Then join us as we dive headfirst into Dry January: the global phenomenon that's not just about giving up booze, but about rediscovering your relationship with alcohol and taking charge of your well-being.

In this episode, you'll:

• Uncover the surprising origins of Dry January: From a solo running challenge to a global movement, we explore the inspiring story behind this annual reset.
• Get the facts on the benefits: Discover how a month without alcohol can positively impact your physical and mental health, from better sleep and clearer skin to sharper focus and improved mood.
• Learn tips for success: Whether you're a seasoned abstainer or a Dry January newbie, we'll share practical strategies to navigate social situations, stay motivated, and make the most of your alcohol-free month.

So, whether you're curious about Dry January, already committed, or just looking for a healthier way of life, this episode is for you. Tune in and get ready to raise a glass (of sparkling water, of course!) to a happier, healthier you.

Don't forget to:

• Follow us on social media for Dry January inspiration and support!
• Leave a review and let us know what you think!

This episode promises to be informative, engaging, and packed with motivation to help you make the most of your Dry January (or any dry month you choose!).

Resources:

Washington Post: The benefits of ‘Dry January’ last longer than a month, studies show
Alcohol Change UK

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In the final episode of Decoding the Big Book, we explore how Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, wrote the final chapter of the Big Book, the basic text of the AA program. We learn about the challenges he faced, the influences he received, and the message he delivered. We also hear his powerful words of hope and encouragement for the alcoholic who still suffers. Join us as we discover how Bill Wilson envisioned a global fellowship of recovering alcoholics who would help each other stay sober and find a new way of life.

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In this gripping episode, join Matt and Steve as they delve into the profound world of speaker meetings within Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Steve recounts his recent experience speaking at a detox center, unraveling the chaos, challenges, and invaluable moments of connection that transpired. Discover the underlying reasons why individuals engage in public speaking within the AA community and how it plays a pivotal role in their recovery journey.

Steve passionately shares the dual purpose behind his speaking engagements, reflecting on the program's emphasis on reaching out to those grappling with alcoholism. The discussion delves into the raw realities of detox centers, shedding light on the critical medical and emotional support required during this vulnerable stage of recovery.

Moreover, they explore the nuances of honesty and trust within the recovery process, drawing from personal experiences and interactions with newcomers. Unraveling the layers of self-deception and the initial steps toward truthfulness, this candid conversation offers insights into the complexities of rebuilding trust, both internally and within relationships.

Join the conversation as they highlight the significance of fellowship, support, and the profound impact of sharing personal stories in fostering hope and healing for those navigating the tumultuous journey toward sobriety.

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Join us for an eye-opening journey into the hidden history of Alcoholics Anonymous and the untold story of Hank Parkhurst, the unsung hero of AA's foundational text. In this episode, we delve into the intriguing revelation that challenges the widely held belief of Bill Wilson as the sole author of the iconic Big Book. While Bill Wilson often publicly acknowledged the collective efforts of AA members in composing the book, our exploration uncovers a different truth.

Contrary to popular belief, Bill Wilson wasn't the exclusive author of every chapter. Discover the pivotal role played by Hank Parkhurst, Bill's right-hand man and a driving force during the book's creation. Despite his significant contributions, Hank's legacy has been overshadowed, even erased from AA history due to a tragic relapse into alcoholism shortly after the book's publication.

With insights from William Schaberg and Matt, we unravel Hank Parkhurst's background—a successful businessman with a visionary mindset, recognized as a forgotten co-founder due to his subsequent struggles with alcohol. Explore the pivotal chapter he penned addressing employers, shedding light on alcoholism as an illness and advocating for the rehabilitation of alcoholic employees.

Dive deep into the chapter's compelling arguments, where Hank utilizes his business acumen to articulate the financial benefits of supporting alcoholic employees and challenges prevalent misconceptions about alcoholism in the workplace. Uncover anecdotes and powerful statements Hank used to persuade employers to view alcoholism through a lens of compassion rather than condemnation.

Join us as we illuminate Hank Parkhurst's vital yet overlooked role in shaping AA's history and explore the significant impact of his contributions to the Big Book. This episode sheds light on a forgotten figure whose influence was integral to the foundations of Alcoholics Anonymous and whose story deserves recognition.

Tune in to this revealing episode as we bring to the forefront the untold narrative of Hank Parkhurst, the forgotten co-author whose legacy continues to resonate within AA's history.

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In this episode, Matt and Steve share their personal stories of how they struggled with comparing themselves to other alcoholics, both in and out of the program. They discuss how this comparison can keep you from accepting your reality and your potential, and how to overcome it by identifying with your own journey of recovery. They also talk about the importance of finding support groups that can help you work through your challenges and celebrate your successes. Whether you are a high-bottom or a low-bottom alcoholic, this episode will inspire you to embrace your own path to recovery and stop judging yourself or others. Tune in and join the conversation!

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Decoding the Big Book, is sourced from "Writing the Big Book, by William Schaberg.  We highly recommend this book.  Click here to purchase the book on Amazon.

The episode delves into the myths and realities surrounding the authorship of the renowned "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous. Contrary to popular belief, it wasn't collectively written by the first 100 members; rather, Bill Wilson was the sole author, except for minimal input provided by Hank Parker.

Bill, despite frustration at the lack of feedback, perpetuated the myth of collective authorship to highlight the solution as a result of shared experiences rather than one person's journey. He also aimed to downplay his leadership role to prevent ego inflation and possibly called the movement the "BW movement" once.

The discussion then shifts to the Family afterward chapter, where Bill discusses the family's role in a recovering alcoholic's life. He highlights the importance of family members meeting with tolerance, understanding, and love, warning against the demand for concessions.

Furthermore, the chapter addresses challenges the family might face, including dealing with past escapades, handling economic concerns, and the newfound religious faith of the recovering alcoholic. Bill advocates for patience, understanding, and acceptance within the family while cautioning against potential pitfalls.

The chapter concludes with a story emphasizing the importance of prioritizing a recovering person's sobriety, suggesting that failure to do so may lead to unfortunate consequences, even relapse.

Overall, the episode explores the dynamics between recovery, family roles, and the challenges faced by both the recovering individual and their family members.

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