Speak Your Mind Unapologetically Podcast

Are you a chronic procrastinator? Get science-backed insights into procrastination with Rev. Dr. Joseph R. Ferrari, Ph.D. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ Are you a real procrastinator?

✔️ What percentage of people are chronic procrastinators?

✔️ How do procrastinators really think?

✔️ Why indecisiveness is a form of procrastination and what makes people indecisive.

👉🏼Listen to part 2 of this interview:

How To Stop Procrastinating And Handle Procrastinators PART 2 (With Rev. Joseph Ferrari, Ph.D.): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating-and-handle-procrastinators-part-2-with-rev-joseph-ferrari-phd

👉🏼Check out other episodes of the Speak Your Mind Unapologetically podcast: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/

ABOUT DN. JOSEPH R. FERRARI, PH.D.

Dn. Joseph R. Ferrari, Ph.D.; Professor of Psychology & St. Vincent dePaul Professor

DePaul University; Dept. of Psychology

2219 North Kenmore Avenue; Chicago, IL 60614; (773) 325-4244

& Permanent Catholic Deacon; Diocese of Joliet, IL [email protected]

Rev. Dr. Ferrari is a Fellow in six psychological organizations, including APA, APS, and Div.27, Soc for Community Research and Action. He is editor in chief of the Journal of Prevention and Intervention in the Community since 1995. DePaul University awarded Dn. Joe its highest honor for research in 2001 and for public service in 2009, (has been nominated for excellence in teaching six times), and the APA awarded him its "Distinguished Italian-American Psychologist" award in 2016. He is the author of over 430 scholarly publications and 550 professional conferences.

BOOK Still Procrastinating? The No Regrets Guide To Getting It Done:

https://www.amazon.com/Still-Procrastinating-Regrets-Guide-Getting-ebook/dp/B00DNKYN2U

BOOK Procrastination and Task Avoidance: Theory, Research, and Treatment (The Springer Series in Social Clinical Psychology):

https://www.amazon.com/Procrastination-Task-Avoidance-Treatment-Psychology/dp/0306448424

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Reshmi realized she wanted to learn how to be a good leader when she became the victim of her boss's leadership mistakes. And she did. She realized that the answer was not running away from delivering negative news, but to face it head on and do so with respect and humanity. In this episode Reshmi Nair, Sr. Director Software Engineering at Magnite, shares:

✔️ 5 critical mistakes leaders make when delivering bad news to team members.

✔️ The honorable way to deliver bad news to a team member and the results it can have.

✔️ The importance of not making assumptions about others.

✔️ 3 ways to find the courage to push back on people 2 or 3 levels above you in seniority.

Other Interview Episodes:

Who Is Grooming You For A Promotion? (With Gina Hope): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/who-is-grooming-you-for-a-promotion-with-gina-hope

Speaking Up As A Female Leader In A Male-Dominated Workplace (With Shelly Jairath): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/speaking-up-as-a-female-leader-in-a-male-dominated-workplace-with-shelly-jairath

Is It Good To Take Career Risks? (With Preeti Karnik): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/is-it-good-to-take-career-risks-with-preeti-karnik

Why Holding Yourself To Lower Standards Helps You Take More Risks (With Liya Aizenberg): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/why-holding-yourself-to-lower-standards-helps-you-take-more-risks-with-liya-aizenberg

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Marie Kondo, the highly successful author of The Life-Changing Magic To Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, is a Japanese decluttering consultant sensation in the United States and even has a show on Netflix!

She is mellow, soft spoken with a soothing voice, introverted, calm, kind, gentle, lady-like, friendly, empathetic, and cheerful. And she always wears a smile on her face.

Even though people often associate those traits to a more passive and agreeable communication style, Marie Kondo has shown assertive qualities several times. In this episode you'll discover:

✔️ 6 ways in which Marie Kondo is very assertive.

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10 Practical Examples Of Empathetic Assertiveness At Work: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/10-practical-examples-of-empathetic-assertiveness-at-work

5 Reasons Why Being More Assertive Actually Makes You Kinder: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-reasons-why-being-more-assertive-actually-makes-you-kinder

10 Secrets to Heart-Centered Assertive Communication: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/size/5/

A New Way To Think About Being Nice: Why Niceness Is The 51st Shade Of Grey: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/047-a-new-way-to-think-about-being-nice-why-niceness-is-the-51st-shade-of-grey

Are You Introverted, Shy, Anxious, Or Passive? How To Tell The Difference: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/are-you-introverted-shy-anxious-or-passive-how-to-tell-the-difference

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Speaking up is not just about making presentations, dealing with toxic behavior, and speaking up in meetings. It's a lot more than that. And successful people know how to create opportunities by leveraging speaking up opportunities. In this episode you'll discover 24 ways you can speak up to fuel your career and your success.

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5 Myths That Hold You Back From Adding Value and Being Heard In Meetings: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-myths-that-hold-you-back-from-adding-value-and-being-heard-in-meetings

7 Tips To Confidently Speak In Large Meetings: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/7-tips-to-confidently-speak-in-large-meetings

How To Gain Support In Meetings By Building Strategic Relationships (with Diana Dreyer): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-gain-support-in-meetings-by-building-strategic-relationships-with-diana-dreyer

How To Disagree Respectfully Without Being Disagreeable: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-disagree-respectfully-without-being-disagreeable

Discover How To Make People Listen To You When They Try To Ignore You (With Guest Vishwaa Vaidya): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/discover-how-to-make-people-listen-to-you-when-they-try-to-ignore-you-with-guest-vishwaa-vaidya

How To Get The Upper Hand When A Jerk Disparages You Publicly: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-the-upper-hand-when-a-jerk-disparages-you-publicly

5 Steps To Respond To Dismissive Comments: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-steps-to-respond-to-are-you-on-your-period-and-mistakes-to-avoid

Do You Make These Mistakes When You Praise People At Work?: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/do-you-make-these-mistakes-when-you-praise-people-at-work

5 Better Ways To Say Good Job: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-better-ways-to-say-good-job

What Is Your Appreciation Language At Work?: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/what-is-your-appreciation-language-at-work

Confidently Say No In A Respectful Way (In 7 Easy Steps): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/confidently-say-no-in-a-respectful-way-in-7-easy-steps

32 Ways To Take Up More Space And Get Noticed At Work: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/32-ways-to-take-up-more-space-and-get-noticed-at-work

5 Easy Ways To Self-Promote Without Bragging: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-easy-ways-to-self-promote-without-bragging

Do You Feel Invisible At Work? It's Time To Leave Obscurity: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/do-you-feel-invisible-at-work-its-time-to-leave-obscurity

How To Get Noticed At Work If You Are A Minority, Underrepresented, or Underprivileged: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-noticed-at-work-if-you-are-a-minority-underrepresented-or-underprivileged

7 Compelling Reasons You Need To Start A Bragging Ritual: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/7-compelling-reasons-you-need-to-start-a-bragging-ritual

9 ways to maintain your professional network without being awkward: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/9-ways-to-maintain-your-professional-network-without-being-awkward

8 Real Life Examples On How To Deal With Difficult Coworkers: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/8-examples-on-how-to-deal-with-difficult-coworkers

10 Real-life Incredible Examples of How Assertive Communication Can Boost Your Career: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/044-10-real-life-inspiring-examples-of-how-assertive-communication-can-boost-your-career

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In this episode, you'll discover 15 assertive rights that you need to protect so that you can be happy and successful.

Episodes referenced

Confidently Say No In A Respectful Way (In 7 Easy Steps): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/confidently-say-no-in-a-respectful-way-in-7-easy-steps

How To Express Your Emotions And Feelings To Persuade Others: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-express-your-emotions-and-feelings

4 Examples On How To Get The Promotion You Want: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/4-examples-on-how-to-get-the-promotion-you-want

How To Find The Courage To Ask For What You Want: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/the-most-selfish-and-unreasonable-request-ive-ever-made-to-my-boss

5 Reasons Why Being More Assertive Actually Makes You Kinder: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/5-reasons-why-being-more-assertive-actually-makes-you-kinder

The Assertive Script That Will Forever Change Your Hard Conversations: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/the-assertive-script-that-will-forever-change-your-hard-conversations

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These 8 assertive professional leaders share how they deal with difficult coworkers, from disrespectful comments, ignoring you, trying to put you down, and not collaborating with you, or inferring that you are not competent, or refusing to work with you. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ A strategic power move that gets even the most uncollaborative coworker to collaborate without any conflict.

✔️ The right mindset to have when someone tries to put you down or tell you that you didn't belong there.

✔️ The secret Socratic question that disarms people who disrespect you.

✔️ How to respond to a coworker who says "You don't know what you are doing. You're wrong."

✔️ How to persuade a senior person ignoring you to apologize and want to listen to you.

✔️ How to handle people who question your right to be there or credibility, "I don't want to talk to you."

✔️ How to assertively respond to disrespectful insulting public comments by coworker.

✔️ How to deal with non-supportive coworkers even if you are scared of their reaction.

Episodes included

How You Can Assemble a Powerful Advisory Team To Support Your Career (with Sabeen Syed): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-you-can-assemble-a-powerful-advisory-team-to-support-your-career-with-sabeen-syed

How To Gain Support In Meetings By Building Strategic Relationships (with Diana Dreyer): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-gain-support-in-meetings-by-building-strategic-relationships-with-diana-dreyer

How To Get The Job When You Don't Meet The Requirements (With Director Jess Sahagian): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-the-job-when-you-dont-meet-the-requirements-with-director-jess-sahagian

Speaking Up As A Female Leader In A Male-Dominated Workplace (With Shelly Jairath): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/speaking-up-as-a-female-leader-in-a-male-dominated-workplace-with-shelly-jairath

Discover How To Make People Listen To You When They Try To Ignore You (With Guest Vishwaa Vaidya): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/discover-how-to-make-people-listen-to-you-when-they-try-to-ignore-you-with-guest-vishwaa-vaidya

How To Get Noticed At Work If You Are A Minority, Underrepresented, or Underprivileged: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-noticed-at-work-if-you-are-a-minority-underrepresented-or-underprivileged

How This Female Lawyer Advocates for Others Without Being "Difficult" or Burning Out: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-this-female-lawyer-advocates-for-others-without-being-difficult-or-burning-out

How Engineer Project Manager Joy Became a Manager For The First Time: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-engineer-project-manager-joy-got-her-first-manager-job

Free Resources:

Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

Are you a people pleaser quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f29f89a6af2ba00140d45d0

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

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Gina Hope worked really hard for years and was still passed over for promotion when an opportunity finally came up. She realized that she had to change her approach. She needed to champion herself, manage up, and get someone to groom her for a promotion. In this episode Senior Director of Engineering Gina Hope explains:

✔️ How to become one of the lucky few who are "groomed" for a promotion

✔️ How to strategically build relationships for future sponsorship

✔️ How soon is it ok to request for a career conversation with your new boss

✔️ How to strategically choose the right people to be your allies, sponsors, and mentors

Other episodes:

15 Ways To Groom Yourself For A Promotion When Nobody Else Does: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/15-ways-to-groom-yourself-for-a-promotion-when-nobody-else-does-0

How To Get The Job When You Don't Meet The Requirements (With Director Jess Sahagian): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-get-the-job-when-you-dont-meet-the-requirements-with-director-jess-sahagian

How To Gain Support In Meetings By Building Strategic Relationships (with Diana Dreyer): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-gain-support-in-meetings-by-building-strategic-relationships-with-diana-dreyer

How You Can Assemble a Powerful Advisory Team To Support Your Career (with Sabeen Syed): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-you-can-assemble-a-powerful-advisory-team-to-support-your-career-with-sabeen-syed

Speaking Up As A Female Leader In A Male-Dominated Workplace (With Shelly Jairath); https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/speaking-up-as-a-female-leader-in-a-male-dominated-workplace-with-shelly-jairath

Free Resources:

Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

About Assertive Way:

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An important part of assertiveness is knowing how to express your moods, feelings and emotions. In many assertive techniques, you use "I" statements such as "I feel..." to educate the other about what is going on inside you so that they can empathize with your perspective. Most of us have difficulty finding the right words to express how we feel. In this episode you'll discover:

✔️ The difference between emotions, feelings, and mood

✔️ Why expressing your feelings makes you more persuasive

✔️ How to increase your emotional vocabulary

Other episodes:

The Assertive Script That Will Forever Change Your Hard Conversations: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/the-assertive-script-that-will-forever-change-your-hard-conversations

Free Resources:

Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

Are you a people pleaser quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f29f89a6af2ba00140d45d0

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

About Assertive Way:

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It's easy to fall into the people-pleasing trap and not even know it. We think our kindness drives our behavior, but often fear does instead. In this episode, you'll discover:

✔️ The problem with people pleasing

✔️ 18 signs that you may be a people-pleaser

✔️ How to stop people pleasing

Other episodes:

How To Disagree Respectfully Without Being Disagreeable: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-disagree-respectfully-without-being-disagreeable

Confidently Say No In A Respectful Way (In 7 Easy Steps): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/confidently-say-no-in-a-respectful-way-in-7-easy-steps

How To Receive Feedback Gracefully (And What Not To Do): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-receive-feedback-gracefully-and-what-not-to-do

10 Steps To Be Both Assertive And Likable When You Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/10-steps-to-be-both-assertive-and-likable-when-you-speak-up

Important Assertiveness Skills You Need At Your Job Level: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/042-assertiveness-skills-you-need-at-your-job-level

Training How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, Or A Jerk: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/042-training-how-to-be-assertive-without-being-rude-aggressive-or-a-jerk

Free Resources:

Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

Are you a people pleaser quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f29f89a6af2ba00140d45d0

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

About Assertive Way:

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A lot is said about trust – how to earn trust, build trust, trust employees, why trust is important. But little is said about what trust is not.

✔️ What people get wrong about trust

✔️ What trust actually is

✔️ How to show trust in the healthy way

Other Episodes

Avoid These 2 Toxic Assumptions That Kill Your Relationships Like Termites: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/avoid-these-2-toxic-assumptions-that-kill-your-relationships-like-termites

How To Discover Your Values And Use Them To Set Boundaries At Work (With PhD Laura Eigel): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-discover-your-values-and-use-them-to-set-boundaries-at-work-with-phd-laura-eigel

10 Secrets to Heart-Centered Assertive Communication: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/10-secrets-to-heart-centered-assertive-communication

Free Resources:

Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked

Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/

Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead

Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter

About Assertive Way:

Website: https://assertiveway.com

Find out about our talks and workshops: https://assertiveway.com/services/

Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915