Freedom from alcohol isn't found in white-knuckling or temporary breaks — it emerges when you stay engaged with the process of transformation.

In this episode, I share a powerful moment from a recent family reunion where, for the first time, everyone had shifted their relationship with alcohol. What came from that wasn't awkwardness — it was deeper connection, true presence, and genuine joy without needing a single drop.

This is what happens when we stop performing and start participating in our own change.

You’ll hear:

• Why temporary breaks often reinforce the desire to drink
• The truth about alcohol and connection (it’s not what you think)
• How the Sacred Pause Method “front-loads” your healing — and shortens the timeline
• What one client said that changed everything for her: “This finally feels real. And sustainable.”
• How lifting the veil on your habits gives you a completely new perspective — one you can’t unsee

✨ Download the 60-Second Urge Codes for instant relief from your next craving — in less time than it takes to pour a drink.

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This is your sacred pause. Let’s make it count.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ever wonder why “just have one” never actually works?

In this no-fluff episode, we unpack the deeper truth behind that tiny phrase—and why your body already knows alcohol doesn’t feel good anymore. If you're tired of the start-stop cycle and craving a way of living that actually supports your goals, your energy, and your feminine power… this one’s for you.

Sobriety isn't just about saying no to alcohol—it’s about saying yes to yourself. To living fully expressed, in your truth, and from a place of deep connection and intuition. We’re flipping the script on outdated advice and taking back our authority.

Inside, we dive into:

• Why your body’s wisdom always wins over external opinions
• How sobriety becomes the path to so much more than not drinking
• What to do when others question your choice to quit
• The sneaky ways alcohol dulls your potential
• Why not knowing what's possible is more painful than failure
• The #1 rule: don’t take advice from people who don’t have the results you want
• How feminine leadership begins by trusting yourself—fully

✨ You don’t need to justify your sobriety. You just need to embody it.

🌿 Ready to handle urges without willpower or deprivation?
Download the free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com
Five minutes. Total shift. Deep relief.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine?

In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower farm. And what I thought would be found through achievement, I discovered through simplicity, presence, and letting go of alcohol.

Midlife sobriety is more than just quitting drinking—it's a rite of passage we were never taught to honor. And when you pair it with the hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause, something magical happens: you reclaim your energy, your intuition, and your power.

We explore:

• What it really means to meet your future self
• Why letting go of outcomes opens the door to unexpected joy
• How sobriety teaches you to trust your desires more than your conditioning
• Using perimenopause as a sacred portal, not a problem to fix
• Replacing perfectionism with consistency and self-compassion
• Optimizing energy (not balance) as a woman in transition
• Tapping into your intuition as your ultimate guide

✨ The woman who confidently orders iced tea instead of wine?
She’s the wise one. The whole one. The next evolution of you.

🌿 Download the free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com
Five minutes a day is all it takes to begin transforming your relationship with alcohol—for good.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Have you ever caught yourself pouring a glass of wine just because you were “bored”? Let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that go-to excuse — and why it matters so much to your feminine wellbeing.

In this episode, we get real about how our culture conditions women to fear stillness and how alcohol has become a sneaky permission slip to rest. But what if you could grant yourself that permission — no wine required?

✨ This one’s for the woman who’s ready to reclaim her energy, her creativity, and her right to just be.

We’ll explore:

• Why “boredom” is often a mask for your body’s need to rest
• How productivity culture suppresses feminine creativity
• The real shift that happens when you drink — and why it’s not what you think
• How alcohol has become a socially acceptable way to pause
• What it feels like to build the muscle of receptivity instead of numbing
• The feminine magic waiting for you on the other side of the “antsy” feeling

Your feminine energy doesn’t thrive in constant doing — it thrives in presence, in play, in permission to follow your own rhythm.

🌹 Ready to experience rest and relief without deprivation?
Download your free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com

Your creative spirit is waiting. Let’s set her free.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Women are wired to handle a lot. It’s our superpower—but it can also be our kryptonite. The mental load we carry—anticipating needs, managing tasks, and caring for everyone around us—can easily become overwhelming, especially during perimenopause and beyond.

Takeaways:

• The mental load is both a gift and a curse for high-achieving women
• Overwhelm often peaks during perimenopause, turning our superpower into burnout
• Setting clear boundaries and dividing tasks creates clarity and peace
• Letting go of control and practicing surrender is essential for mental health
• Alcohol often becomes a coping mechanism when we feel mentally overloaded

In this episode, I break down why women, especially during life transitions, get caught in the trap of doing everything. I share a powerful exercise to help you reclaim your mental space: drawing a line between what's truly yours to hold and what's not. Plus, I’ll show you how to protect your peace by honoring your non-negotiables—like my 10pm bedtime rule—while letting go of what isn’t serving you.

Ready to reclaim your energy, mental space, and freedom without alcohol? Tune in to find out how.

CTA:
Join our monthly women's circle on the first Thursday of every month at 5pm Pacific. Grab the Zoom link in the show notes! And, don’t forget to download my free urge guide to break the cycle of cravings in just five minutes—no deprivation needed. Your nervous system will thank you.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Are you wondering why alcohol doesn't work for you the way it used to?
Your body might be signaling a profound transformation – perimenopause. As a holistic alcohol coach working with women for over five years, I’ve discovered that this transitional phase requires a sacred pause from alcohol to truly understand what’s happening within.

Perimenopause literally means "the time before the pausing of the month/moon" – it’s a threshold experience inviting you into an unbothered, unapologetic era of your life. 

But here's the crucial insight: you cannot navigate this transition effectively while alcohol is in your system. It creates an imbalance on top of an already fluctuating hormonal landscape, making it impossible to gather accurate data about your changing body.

Key Takeaways:

• Perimenopause is a transformational phase that alcohol can distort.
• Alcohol disrupts hormonal balance, masking the signals your body is trying to send.
• Shifting your perspective from "problem" to "possibility" helps you navigate change with ease.
• The same tools that help you quit alcohol also support you through perimenopause: awareness, body literacy, and perspective shifts.
• Taking a sacred pause from alcohol allows you to reconnect with your true self in this new phase of life.

Ready to discover what your changing body is trying to tell you?
Grab my free urge guide in the show notes to find relief without a drink—no deprivation required. Your unbothered, unapologetic era awaits.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste.

We talk about how to:

• Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be present
• Use discernment to practice your sacred yes and no
• Shift from controlling circumstances to mastering your mindset
• Build belief brick by brick until alcohol becomes irrelevant

🔗 And if you’re ready to create predictable, sustainable results, click here to book a  1:1 consult with Mary to identify exactly where you're holding yourself back—and build the bridge to change.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Hey beautiful listener 💋

This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency.

Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm hug and a nudge to try one thingthat shifts you back into alignment with the woman you want to be.

Take yourself on a coffee walk. Smile at strangers. Put on some music and dance in your kitchen. Seriously—sometimes it’s that simple. You’re not solving for alcohol. You’re solving for aliveness, regulation, and the space to hold your realemotions—yes, even the exciting ones.

✨ Here’s what we get into:

• Why your hangover isn’t really about alcohol
• What “throw a better party” means and how to do it today
• The nervous system's role in holding pleasure, excitement, and desire
• A personal DJ win that made me feel like I could explode with joy (and how I did it without a drink)

💌 Tell me how you throw a better party! Did you take the coffee walk? Did you try the happy juice? Did my DJ set make you cry tears of joy?! Email me at [email protected] or drop into my DMs on Instagram @marywagstaffcoach. I live for your shares.

Let’s make this week a vibe. You’re not just here to get through it—you’re here to feel it all.

With so much love,
Mary

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

You don’t have to quit drinking to start changing your relationship with alcohol. In this episode, I share why the process might already be working in your favor—even if it doesn’t look like it yet. I talk about what’s been helping me lately: from gut health and hormone shifts to the supplement that’s actually making a difference. Plus, the one mindset shift that changes everything: asking yourself what you’re really reaching for before the drink.

Takeaways:

• Why mindset is only half the story
• How physical support (like healing your gut and regulating hormones) can reduce cravings
• The supplement that helped stabilize my moods
• How to shift from black-and-white thinking to real progress
• The question that puts you back in control—without needing to be “perfect”

Give your body a chance to balance and optimize your efforts:

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• nervous system–calming phrases to instantly shift your perspective
• A simple yet profound tool to use when you feel that "screw it" moment rising
• A sneak peek into how The Sacred Pause Method helps you create freedom without deprivation

DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.

Your craving for alcohol isn’t about the drink — it’s about what you think the drink will give you. Connection. Joy. Freedom.

Over time, your brain has fused alcohol with emotional relief, narrowing your perspective. You believe drinking is the only way to get what you want — but it's actually blocking you from it.

The key is knowing the difference between desire and attachment. Desire is the emotional state you long for. Attachment is insisting alcohol is the only way to get there. That grip keeps the cycle going — even when the drink stops delivering.

Breaking free isn't about willpower. It’s about nervous system regulation, aligned values, and radical self-honesty. Next time you’re triggered, ask: What am I really seeking? Why does it matter?

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.