Everyone loves to get pumped up and excited about how great they and their lives will be after infidelity or divorce. But "You Go Girl!" spirit isn't always healthy. Sometimes, when life returns to “normal,” you feel like you have failed. While bursting through the pain of infidelity and shining brightly on the other side sounds great, what does success look like for you? If you sometimes feel the pressure to be a certain way, or act like you have it all together after betrayal, then this is the show for you. No, you do have to do something spectacular after infidelity, you just need to be true to who you are and what you want. For you, finding quiet and calm might be more than enough. Or not… Join Lora as she unpacks what it really means to reclaim yourself and take back your life after infidelity.

• Step One – Stop Doing & Start Being: Unhook, unplug, and spend a day quiet and alone with nothing to do. Let your mind wander, let thoughts come up, and just allow yourself to be.

If it feels right, make gently inquiries into the masks you wear and all the ways you have been seeking to please, conform, and perform for others instead of being who you are.

• Step Two – Remove the Mask & Reveal Yourself: Take slow steps to reveal yourself without your mask. Whether it’s going to the grocery store without makeup or hair done, telling someone no, or choosing a different route for yourself, begin searching within for the answer that suits you best.

Place one hand on your heart, one on your solar plexus, take a few breaths, and tune into what you really want in each moment. Honor the wisdom of your body and soul.

• Step Three – Practice Being You!: While it might seem self-evident, your life is about you and you deserve to make yourself happy. You deserve to learn new relationship skills, you deserve to give, take, and flow in your relationships and in your life. Will you get it perfect every time? NO! And that’s okay. That’s why we practice.

Continue to self-reflect, learn, feel, and most importantly trust in yourself, your intuition, and the perfection of your crazy, imperfect life! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

BONUS! What makes you feel amazing? Whether it’s serious or silly, I want to know! Let’s put together a list of the top ways we feel most like ourselves, and what we do to reconnect o our own hearts and souls. Who knows, you might make some new friends or learn some new trick and activities that bring you joy and make your heart sparkle! Share your ideas at [email protected] and you might be one of our lucky winners who wins a copy of Lora’s award-winning book!

Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love!

Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

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