An honest consideration of the indecision between choosing your spouse or your affair partner, based on the personal experience and professional work of Tim Tedder, LMHC.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
02:05 A Story of Indecision
05:45 The Damage of Indecision
07:35 What Keeps You Stuck?
11:30 What I Wish I’d Known
12:40 Questions to Ask Yourself
14:40 Making Space to Consider
16:05 Regret and Opportunity

LINKS & EXTRAS

Need personal help? Set up a video session with Tim: https://www.affairhealing.com/tim-tedder-coaching

Download: Reclaiming a Marriage Perspective (exercise for Involved Partnters): https://www.affairhealing.com/blog/reclaim-perspective

Tim’s full affair story: https://www.affairhealing.com/affair-stories/tim-affair-story

Article: Is It Affair Fog or Real Love? https://www.affairhealing.com/affair-recovery-articles/affair-fog-or-real-love

Article: Making Change that Lasts (motivated by who you will BE) https://www.affairhealing.com/affair-recovery-articles/change-that-lasts

A conversation about gaslighting: What is it? Where does the term come from? How does it show up in affair recovery? What should you do if you’re being gaslighted?

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
01:25 What is gaslighting?
03:15 Origin of the term - exerpts from the movie, Gaslight
05:40 What gaslighting is not
8:00 Gaslighting in affair recovery
21:50 What to do if you’re being gaslighted
31:15 Recommended resource

LINKS

Links to the resource and other recommendations can be found on the podcast page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/006

The song “This Healing Place” is discussed by Tim Tedder, LMHC, and Suzanne Janke, LCSW, who consider the creative process and the song’s message of healing from the wounds of infidelity.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
02:45 Tim & Suzanne discuss the song
30:50 Entire song: This Healing Place

This Healing Place Lyrics
written by Tim Tedder

Come as you are, bring pieces you’ve saved,
Fragments of you—so broken, so brave.
We’ll sit with the sorrow, release all the shame,
Restoring what’s shattered, reclaiming your name.

(Chorus)
In this healing place, there’s room to feel,
To breathe through the hurt, believe wounds can heal.
Faith over failure, hope over pain,
Finding the courage to love once again.

It’s okay to stumble and question the path,
Feel the pain of the loss, but not let it last.
There’s strength in the waiting, grace in the fall,
We’re building back bridges and breaking down walls.

(Chorus)

This is a heartache that hollows your soul,
Making you doubt if you’ll ever be whole.
But others have come here, in much the same way,
Opening doors to a new, brighter day.

(Chorus)

LINKS & EXTRAS

Download the song (mp3 audio file) at: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/005

Find out more about Suzanne Janke and her practice on her website: https://www.suzannejanke.com

Need personal help? Set up a video session with one of our coaches: https://www.affairhealing.com/infidelity-recovery-coaching

Part 3 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. She discusses dealing with her children and with the affair partner. This is part 3 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
01:30 Elisa and her children
18:40 Elisa and her husband’s affair partner
25:00 The struggle and the hope

EXTRAS

If you need help working through infidelity issues, our coaches are available to work with you: https://affairhealing.com/infidelity-recovery-coaching.

Part 2 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 2 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder. Elisa talks about gaining a clearer perspective of her husband’s infidelity, experiencing grief and pain, and making hard choices for her future.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
00:50 Preview of Part 3
02:15 The Interview, Part 2

EXTRAS

If you need help working through infidelity issues, our coaches are available to work with you: https://affairhealing.com/infidelity-recovery-coaching.

Part 1 of Elisa’s story, seven months after discovering her husband’s affair. This is part 1 of a 3-part interview conducted by Tim Tedder.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
00:50 Preview of Part 2
02:10 The Interview, Part 1

EXTRAS

If you need help working through infidelity issues, our coaches are available to work with you: https://affairhealing.com/infidelity-recovery-coaching.

Listen to our official welcome to an all-new season of our podcast, focusing on affair recovery issues.

EPISODE NOTES

00:00 Introduction
01:00 Opening comments between Tim Tedder, Sharon Barbour, and Jennifer Gingras
02:10 Previewing the “Elisa” interviews
03:38 Previewing the This Healing Place song discussion
06:27 The three coaches discuss changes they’ve made in their affair recovery work

LINKS & EXTRAS

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