The Affair Recovery Room

By AffairHealing.com

Honest conversations about affair recovery, with practical guidance and real hope. The Affair Recovery Room is a podcast for anyone reeling from infidelity: the betrayed, the unfaithful, a

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Number 1: Beyond Stay or Go: Who You Become after Betrayal
In this episode, I talk with psychotherapist and author Lauren LaRusso about her new book, Beyond Infidelity. Lauren's perspective is both professional and personal: her marriage ended after her husband's affair. Mine ended after I was the one who broke trust. We come at this experience from opposite sides, and that contrast shapes much of our conversation.Lauren makes a claim that may shift how you see your situation: the moment infidelity is revealed, the original version of your relationship is already gone. Whether a couple rebuilds or parts ways, they're no longer deciding about the marriage they had. They're deciding whether something new is possible. And the relationship isn't the only thing that changes. Who you thought you were inside that relationship changes, too.We talk about:What people are really asking when they ask "Should I stay or go?"Why that decision rarely becomes clear in the middle of a crisis—and what to focus on insteadLetting go of the need to control the outcome, whether you're fighting to save the marriage or certain you'll leaveHow betrayal shatters identity, and why so much of our self-worth is tied to how others see usLauren's story of a local magazine featuring her family on its cover just weeks after she discovered the affairLooking honestly at your role in the relationship—not in the infidelity—and why that matters for trusting yourself againRefusing to let the way a marriage ended erase everything that was real in itWhat Lauren looks for as evidence that someone who broke trust is actually doing the workWhether you were betrayed or you broke trust, and whether you're staying or going, this conversation is about the work that belongs to you—work nobody can take from you, no matter how your relationship turns out.LINKS and EXTRASEpisode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/073Lauren’s Book: Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your LifeReview of Lauren’s bookLauren’s Website: laurenlarusso.com | Instagram: @laurenlarussoNeed personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.
September 11, 202631min
Number 2: Bonus: Beyond Infidelity
This bonus episode is an introduction to Tim Tedder’s upcoming interview with therapist and writer Lauren LaRusso, author of the book Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life. In this episode, Tim talks about the book, explains why he recommends it, and plays clips from his conversation with Lauren.LINKS and EXTRASEpisode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/072Buy Beyond Betrayal on AmazonRead Tim’s review of Beyond Betrayal
September 05, 20267min
Number 3: The Patterns We Learn: Attachment Styles, Infidelity, and the Road Back
Long before we could think about it, we learned how close was safe to get. Those patterns (researchers call them attachment styles) quietly shape how we handle conflict, disappointment, and closeness for the rest of our lives.Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved, joins Tim to explain the four attachment styles and how they show up in infidelity: why the dismissive-avoidant pattern carries the highest risk of cheating, why betrayal cuts so deeply for the anxious-preoccupied partner, and why fixing the marriage without examining the pattern rarely holds. Tim shares his own story, and Bev names his pattern before he reveals his quiz results.Understanding the pattern is not the same as being excused by it, and if these patterns were learned, they can be changed.LINKS and EXTRASEpisode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/071Bev Midelman’s Website: https://securelyloved.comTake the free Attachment Quiz!Understanding WHY Course & CoachingNeed personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.
August 27, 202641min
Number 4: When Betrayal Begins Before an Affair
In this first PageTalk episode of the podcast, Tim revisits his recent article The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair, which was posted on AffairHealing.com. Written after the release of the previous episode (Unshakeable), the article explores how betrayal often begins long before an affair, in the quiet erosion of a couple's emotional connection. Tim shares his own reflection on breaking his marriage promises years before his affair began, then makes room for another side of the story: a conversation with Steve, a client who felt the article told only half the truth. Steve describes years of feeling emotionally shut out by his wife before his own affair, and Tim uses the conversation to explore Esther Perel's insight that "the victim of the affair is not always the victim of the marriage," suggesting that both partners in a struggling marriage can find the humility to look back and the hope to move forward.LINKS and EXTRASEpisode Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/065Article: The Betrayal Often Begins Before the AffairBuilding US Course & CoachingPodcast Episode: A Conversation with My Ex, part 1Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.
July 09, 202615min
Number 5: The Betrayer’s Pain
Most people who follow this podcast are betrayed partners, and understandably so. The pain of being cheated on is acute, disorienting, and often traumatic. The Recovery Room is committed to honoring that experience.But genuine recovery, the kind that produces lasting change and real safety in a relationship, requires more than behavior management from the person who had the affair. It requires something harder with more work “on the inside.” And in this episode, we go there.Dr. Monique Thompson, a psychotherapist in the Dallas Metroplex with more than a thousand couples in her clinical background, joins Tim to talk about the side of infidelity that rarely gets examined: the inner wounds of the involved partner.This isn't about generating sympathy for someone who broke trust. It's about understanding what actually needs to happen for change to be real.In this conversation, Tim and Monique explore:Why the person who had the affair experiences a genuine fracture of identity, and why that matters for recoveryThe problem with treating behavior change as the finish lineHow shame keeps the involved partner stuck and why it actually increases the risk of repeated harmThe concept of "seemingly unimportant decisions" and how people drift toward betrayal through a long chain of uncaptured thoughtsWhy self-compassion isn't self-excuse; it's the gateway to authentic inner changeA breathing & thought practice that helps regulate the nervous system and access honestyHow EMDR therapy is being used not just for betrayed partners, but for involved partners carrying shameThe difference between trauma-informed self-care (including something as simple as a daily walk) and formal trauma treatmentWhere to start if you've had an affair and haven't yet done any real inner workDr. Thompson is direct, warm, and grounded in current science, and she brings a genuinely non-judgmental lens to a topic that is easy to oversimplify. Whether you're the person who was betrayed, the one who broke trust, or a couple trying to figure out what real recovery looks like together, this conversation offers something worth sitting with.LINKS and EXTRASEpisoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/062Dr. Monique Thompson’s Website: doctormoniquethompson.comMonique’s Book: Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples: Tools and Exercises to Rebuild Your RelationshipThe Understanding WHY Course & Coaching: AffairHealing,com/why
June 17, 202635min