The BPD Bunch

Xannie, Hak Ja and Jack are joined by special guest, Kiah to unpack the challenges of living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) while navigating the turbulent waters of unemployment. From candid discussions about the emotional toll of job searching to the strategies that help maintain hope and resilience, this heartfelt conversation explores the intersection of mental health and work life. Hear personal stories about the struggle to find stability in a chaotic job market, the impact of BPD on daily life, and the importance of community support. Whether you’re facing similar challenges or seeking to understand the experiences of others, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement.

Ever felt overwhelmed at work? You're not alone! In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Melanie, André and Raf discuss the challenges of navigating workplace stress when living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).

Whether you're someone who identifies with BPD or a friend or family member trying to support someone who does, this episode offers valuable insights and relatable experiences.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can make navigating the workplace especially challenging. In this video, Xannie, Georgette, Melanie, André, and Raf open up about their struggles and triumphs managing BPD on the job. We also explore how BPD affects workplace relationships and share strategies for effectively handling symptoms in professional settings.

Link to DEAR MAN https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IKdqVrQWsJ4PcCIWWN54P?si=V1wo-_FCQV6TZR0KKhaTaA

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Terms from the episode:

1. Mindfulness: The practice of being fully present in the moment and paying attention to what’s happening right now without judging it.

2. Coping Ahead: Planning and preparing for tough situations by imagining how to handle them and practicing skills in advance.

3. Distress Tolerance: A group of skills that help you handle intense emotions or tough situations without making things worse. These skills focus on surviving the moment until the distress passes. Examples include: radical acceptance, self-soothing and distracting.

4. STOP: A quick strategy for staying calm:

- Stop what you're doing.

- Take a deep breath.

- Observe what's happening inside and around you.

- Proceed mindfully with your actions.

5. DEAR MAN: A method for asking for what you need or saying no:

- Describe the situation.

- Express your feelings.

- Assert your request clearly.

- Reinforce why it matters.

- Mindfully stay calm.

- Appear confident.

- Negotiate if needed.

6. PLEASE: A way to keep your mind and body balanced:

- Accumulate positive emotions.

- Build mastery by doing things you’re good at.

- Cope ahead for tough situations.

- PhysicaL illness: Take care of any health problems.

- Eat: Maintain a balanced diet.

- Avoid mood-altering substances: Stay away from alcohol or drugs that can make emotions worse.

- Sleep: Get enough rest to feel refreshed.

- Exercise: Move your body regularly to boost your mood.

Xannie and Katja are joined by Kylee  @KyleeRackam  and Jake  @antisocialtheatre  to share impactful relationship stories and how they impact those with personality disorders, focusing on borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic, personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), and schizotypical personality disorder (STPD).

Can the labels we wear change the way we see ourselves and each other? In this episode, Xannie and Katja are joined by Kylee and Jake to discuss societal stigma surrounding personality disorders, focusing on borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic, personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), and schizotypical personality disorder (STPD).

When you're living with both BPD and another personality disorder, the world can feel overwhelming—like you're constantly navigating a maze with no clear way out. In this episode, Xannie and Katja are joined by guests Kylee and Jake to explore the complex and often misunderstood experience of living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) alongside another personality disorder. Our guests open up about the unique challenges of managing multiple diagnoses, from navigating different forms of self expression to building relationships with others who may not fully understand their struggles.

We'll explore how these overlapping disorders impact day-to-day life, mental health, and relationships, offering honest insights for coping. Whether you're living with BPD, another personality disorder, or you support someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable perspectives and tips for managing your mental health journey.

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*CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy): A type of therapy that helps people change negative thoughts and behaviors to improve their feelings and mental health.

*DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy): A therapy that teaches skills to manage emotions and improve relationships, often used for people with intense feelings.

*Shadow Work: The process of exploring the hidden or ignored parts of ourselves to understand and accept our full personality, including our flaws.

*Inner Child Healing: A method that helps people connect with and heal their younger selves to overcome past hurts and emotional pain.

*Psychodynamic Therapy: A therapy that looks at how past experiences and unconscious thoughts affect our current feelings and behavior.

*Somatic Healing: A healing approach focusing on the mind-body connection, helping individuals release stress and trauma stored in their bodies.

*EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): A therapy that helps people heal from traumatic memories by using eye movements or other techniques to process those memories.

00:01:08 - BPD, NPD, ASPD and STPD

00:01:42 - Differentiating NPD from BPD

00:02:21 - BPD vs NPD Split

00:03:17 - NPD Split Triggers

00:03:50 - Differentiating ASPD from BPD

00:05:08 - ASPD Resentment

00:06:15 - Differentiating STPD from BPD

00:06:55 - BPD vs STPD Paranoia

00:08:30 - NPD Life Challenges

00:10:35 - ASPD Life Challenges

00:13:12 -STPD Life Challenges

00:15:52 - STPD Magical Thinking

00:18:57 - NPD, ASPD, STPD vs Relationship

00:26:44 - Therapy/ Treatment

00:31:44 - Strengths

00:34:59 - How the PD Community Can Support Eachother

00:37:52 - Outro

In this episode, Xannie, Mo, Solène, Jack and Darren confront some of the mean comments we've received from viewers. Join us as we react to these challenging remarks about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and share our thoughts on the stigma that often surrounds our experiences.While these comments can be hurtful, we believe in turning negativity into strength. Together, we’ll unpack these misconceptions, highlight the realities of living with BPD, and show that we can stand strong in the face of judgment. This episode is all about resilience, empowerment, and finding humor even in tough situations. Whether you’re in recovery or looking to understand more about BPD, we invite you to join the conversation and stand with us against stigma.

What happens when your childhood wounds never heal? In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja explore the roots of borderline personality disorder (BPD) and how growing up with unmet emotional needs, difficult family dynamics, and trauma shaped their lives.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be especially challenging for teens as they navigate emotions, relationships, and the pressures of adolescence. In this video, Xannie, Georgette, Céline, Madhurima, Jack and Hak Ja share their earliest memories of BPD symptoms during teenage years. We also discuss the relationships most impacted by BPD in adolescence, and the advice we wish we could give to our teenage selves! If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD in their teenage years, this video offers valuable insights for navigating this challenging period.

Navigating Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is challenging enough, but what happens when you’re seeking help across borders? In this episode, Xannie, Solène and special guest, Fio, share their personal experiences living with BPD while navigating mental health care systems around the world. They talk about seeing therapists across countries like the UK, France, China, and the UAE, and the challenges of finding competent therapists who truly understand BPD.