The Confidence Chronicles

This one is personal.

In this episode, I share something that happened in real time… I received an email from someone connected to my childhood abuse.

And it brought up things I thought I had already processed.

I talk about what it actually feels like when old trauma resurfaces.

What happens in your body.
What happens in your mind.
How healing isn’t linear.
And why forgiveness is not something you owe anyone.

This isn’t a polished “look how healed I am” conversation.

It’s real.
It’s layered.
It’s complicated.

Inside this episode I share:

• What it feels like when the past reappears unexpectedly
• How I handled the email without betraying myself
• Why boundaries matter more than being “nice”
• The truth about forgiveness
• Why healing doesn’t mean you won’t get triggered again
• How storytelling has been part of my healing

You don’t owe anyone closure.
You don’t need to be strong all the time.
And you don’t have to perform healing for the world.

If this resonates, comment below and let me know.
And if it helps you, share it with someone who might need it.

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Authenticity is trending.

Everyone is talking about it.
Everyone is selling it.
Everyone is suddenly “real.”

And yet… most personal brands still feel fake.

In this powerful, no-filter conversation with Jill Stanton, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about authenticity in business today.

If you’re using authenticity as a strategy, you’ve already missed it.

In this episode, we break down:

• Why “authenticity” as a marketing tactic is backwards
• The difference between being authentic and performing authenticity
• How people-pleasing is emotional manipulation
• Why many entrepreneurs are still hiding behind polished personas
• The identity work required to truly stand in your power
• Fear of success, shadow work, and why it’s rarely about success
• Why sovereignty is more magnetic than strategy
• How to stop outsourcing your voice and direction
• The performative era online, and why it’s collapsing

This is not about oversharing your trauma.
It’s not about telling the internet your secrets.
It’s not about being controversial for attention.

It’s about freedom.

Real freedom.

The kind that happens when you stop managing how people perceive you and start leading yourself from alignment.

If you’ve felt exhausted by the noise online…
If you’ve questioned who to trust…
If you’ve wondered whether you’re blending in without realizing it…

This conversation will challenge you in the best way.

Authenticity is not a trend.
It’s an identity shift.

And identity work is the real game.

• 00:01:57 From Web TV to Online Empire: Jill's Origin Story
• 00:05:47 The Bold Move: Closing a Profitable Business
• 00:11:10 Personal Power Over Strategy: The Missing Piece
• 00:14:22 The Authenticity Trap: Why Performative Energy Fails
• 00:15:56 Becoming Uncancellable: Standing in Your Power
• 00:27:11 Finding Your Values: The Foundation of Authenticity
• 00:37:34 The River of Misery: Forging Your Next Level Identity
• 00:52:36 The Smart Enough Wound: Jill's Identity Breakthrough
• 00:59:28 Shadow Work and Healing: The Uncomfortable Path
• 01:08:12 From Teaching to Coaching: Jill's Next Evolution

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For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

Becoming Magnetic — Chapter 7 is all about creating your Alter Shego
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
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If you’re constantly editing yourself, holding back your opinions, or trying to be liked by everyone, this episode is your wake-up call.
Caring what people think doesn’t make you professional.
It makes you invisible.
In this video, I’m breaking down why people-pleasing is quietly killing your authority, confidence, and personal brand, and what actually changes when you stop shrinking to stay safe.
If you want to stand out, lead, and build a brand people trust, this conversation matters.
🔥 IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:• Why people-pleasing keeps you stuck and unseen
• How fear of judgment shows up in your content and messaging
• The difference between being liked and being trusted
• Why neutral brands don’t become authorities
• How confidence is built through clarity, not approval
• What happens when you stop diluting your voice
• Why standing somewhere is the key to real influence
🎯 THE TRUTH MOST PEOPLE AVOIDIf no one disagrees with you,
no one deeply trusts you either.
Authority isn’t built by blending in.
It’s built by having a point of view.
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💬 Comment below and tell me what landed
📲 Share this with someone who’s still hiding
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I’m paying attention to who’s ready.

• 00:00:00 The Personal Brand Wake-Up Call
• 00:00:25 The Authenticity Origin Story
• 00:01:16 The Attention Crisis: Why Everyone Is Blending In
• 00:03:04 The Visibility Problem vs. The Sameness Problem
• 00:04:30 Personal Branding 101: What It Really Means
• 00:07:47 Fear Is Making You Copy Everyone Else
• 00:10:19 You're Hiding Your Magnetic Difference
• 00:12:37 The Professional Perfection Trap
• 00:15:30 The Secret Sauce: Finding Your X-Factor
• 00:18:37 Personal Branding Masterclass
• 00:19:35 The World Needs Your Voice👑 WORK WITH ME♟️ *The Queen’s Table*

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→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

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If you’re holding back, second-guessing yourself, or diluting your message so you don’t upset anyone… this episode is for you.

Caring what people think doesn’t make you professional.
It makes you forgettable.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why people-pleasing is the fastest way to kill your authority, your confidence, and your personal brand, and what actually happens when you stop editing yourself for approval.

This is a real conversation about visibility, courage, leadership, and the cost of staying small.

If you’ve ever thought:
• “What if they judge me?”
• “What if I say the wrong thing?”
• “What if I’m too much?”

You’re going to want to hear this.

• Why caring what people think keeps you invisible
• How people-pleasing shows up in your content and messaging
• The difference between being liked and being trusted
• Why neutrality does NOT equal authority
• What actually happens when you stop playing it safe
• How your personal brand grows when you stop shrinking
• The mindset shift that changes how you show up online and in rooms

If no one disagrees with you, no one deeply trusts you either.

Your job is not to be liked by everyone.
Your job is to stand somewhere.

If this episode hit, I want to hear from you.

• DM me on Instagram or comment on Spotify and tell me what landed
• Share this episode with a woman who needs to stop hiding
• And if you know you’re ready to stop blending in and start leading, let me know 👀

I’m watching who’s ready.

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♟️ The Queen’s Table
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

Wow mi gente, I can’t even 😭

I had to share this with you in the moment because damn it was massive. This is a moment we will never ever forget.

Benito Gracias, por TODO!

If you are Rican and living down under hit me up!

Watch my episode with Yadi on being Puerto Rican Down under here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Z3D36sK4fI&t=5542s

• 00:00:58 The Benito Bowl Halftime Show Reaction
• 00:02:19 Living Without Your Culture: 16 Years in Australia
• 00:03:30 Bad Bunny's Global Impact on Culture and Connection
• 00:04:53 From Kidnapped at Seven to Celebrating Puerto Rican Pride
• 00:05:13 The Power of Self-Belief: Bad Bunny's Message
• 00:05:43 Don't Stop Believing in Yourself
• 00:07:37 Uniting People Through Music and Love
• 00:08:01 Bad Bunny Is Coming to Australia
• 00:09:51 It's More Than Music: A Cultural Celebration
• 00:10:33 Thank You Benito: Final Thoughts and Gratitude

🇵🇷 What does it mean to be Puerto Rican in Australia when there are barely any Puerto Ricans here?
In this deeply personal conversation, I’m joined by my friend *Yadi,* an anthropologist and fellow Puerto Rican living in Australia, to talk about diaspora, identity, displacement, and keeping culture alive far from home.
With *Bad Bunny* bringing his sold-out global tour to Australia, we felt called to have this conversation, not just about music, but about culture, belonging, and what it means to carry your roots when your environment doesn’t reflect them.
This episode is for immigrants, first-generation kids, third-culture humans, and anyone who has ever missed home while building a life somewhere new.
🔥 WHAT WE TALK ABOUT:• Being Puerto Rican in a country that doesn’t understand Puerto Rico
• Living in diaspora and navigating cultural grief
• Anthropology, culture, and identity beyond borders
• Reclaiming traditions our ancestors passed down
• Raising culturally connected children abroad
• Finding community when your people are rare
• Why representation and music matter so deeply
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If you’re an immigrant or part of the diaspora, you’re seen here.

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Tag us on Instagram and tell me what landed https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
These conversations matter.
👉🏽 And if you are down under and going to see Benito in Sydney hit us up! We’d love to see you there 💃🏻

• 00:00:00 Welcome to Puerto Ricans Down Under
• 00:02:04 The Day Two Puerto Ricans Met in Melbourne
• 00:09:58 Growing Up Puerto Rican: From the Bronx to the Island
• 00:10:11 The Anthropologist Who Travels the World
• 00:33:29 Kidnapped at Seven and Finding Her Way Back
• 00:53:30 Bad Bunny and the Cultural Revolution
• 00:59:09 Understanding the Puerto Rican Diaspora
• 01:07:07 The Song That Connects Generations
• 01:14:15 Building Community in a Country Without Your People
• 01:33:40 The Concert That Will Break Sydney: Final Thoughts

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Build your confidence, audience and income.
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⭐ *If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.*

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Yadi, an anthropologist and fellow Puerto Rican living in Australia, to talk about what it really means to live far from your motherland and still keep your culture alive.

There are less than 1% Latinos in Australia.
There are even fewer Puerto Ricans.
No restaurants. No food. No community hubs. No shared language in the streets.

And yet… here we are.

This conversation was inspired by Bad Bunny bringing his global tour to Australia, selling out two massive shows, and reminding us how deeply culture lives in the body, especially when you’re far from home.

We talk about diaspora, displacement, identity, grief for the motherland, and the responsibility of keeping culture alive for our children when it’s not reinforced by the environment around us.

This episode is for anyone who has ever:
• Left their home country
• Missed their people, food, music, or language
• Felt invisible in a dominant culture
• Had to become the culture carrier
• Built family and community from scratch

• What it’s like being Puerto Rican in a country that doesn’t know Puerto Rico
• The grief and beauty of living in diaspora
• Relearning what our grandmothers knew instinctively
• Raising children with cultural pride far away from home
• Why music, food, and language matter more than we think
• Finding each other when “your people” barely exist
• Celebrating Puerto Rican identity in a non-latin country

If you’ve ever felt homesick for a place that shaped you,
If you’ve ever had to explain who you are, again and again,
If you’ve ever worried about your kids losing their roots…

This episode is for you.

You’re not alone.

• 00:00:00 Celebrating Puerto Rican Culture Down Under
• 00:02:05 The Miracle Meeting: Finding Family 16,000 Miles From Home
• 00:09:12 Seeds Planted: How a Mother's Dream Sparked a Journey
• 00:12:51 From the Bronx to the World: A Puerto Rican Upbringing
• 00:14:47 The First Flight: Italy at Fifteen and Finding Identity
• 00:33:35 Kidnapped at Seven: Erica's Traumatic Puerto Rico Story
• 00:34:51 Bad Bunny's Gift: Music as Cultural Healing
• 00:59:31 The Diaspora Experience: Living Between Worlds
• 01:07:19 Bailé Inolvidable: The Quinceañera Dance That Connected Generations
• 01:23:08 Building Community in Foreign Soil
• 01:33:40 The Concert Countdown: Bad Bunny Comes to Australia

If this conversation resonated, share it with someone who needs to feel seen.
Tag us on Instagram and tell me what landed https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
These conversations matter.

👉🏽 And if you are down under and going to see Benito in Sydney hit us up! We’d love to see you there 💃🏻

♟️ The Queen’s Table
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/
LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

If you’re showing up, posting, being consistent…
but still feel overlooked, invisible, or like you’re blending in,
This video is your wake-up call.
Caring what people think doesn’t make you more professional.
It makes you forgettable.
P.S. *I’m considering running a *live personal brand workshop* teaching my full authority and visibility method.
If you’d want that: 👉🏽 Comment *BRAND* below
The responses will decide if I run it!

In this episode, I’m breaking down why *approval-seeking kills authority,* how people-pleasing waters down your message, and what actually makes a personal brand magnetic, trusted, and unforgettable.
This is not about being loud or controversial.
It’s about *owning your voice without apology.*
🎯 IN THIS VIDEO, YOU’LL LEARN:• Why being “liked” keeps you invisible
• How people-pleasing erodes trust and confidence
• The real reason neutral brands don’t convert
• How authority is _felt,_ not performed
• Why the brands that lead always polarise
• What shifts when you stop managing perception and start leading
If you’ve ever thought:
“What if I upset someone?”
“I should probably tone this down…”
“I don’t want people judging me…”
This episode will challenge you in the best way.

• 00:00:00 The Courage to Be Disliked
• 00:04:11 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts
• 00:06:41 When Strangers Trigger Your Core Wounds
• 00:10:15 Owning Your Mistakes and Moving On
• 00:11:15 It's Not Confidence, It's Freedom
• 00:12:00 Go Out and Practice Being Disliked
• 00:12:55 Thank Your Critics
• 00:13:25 Don't Let Strangers Stop Your Mission
• 00:15:06 Living FWOT in Real Life
• 00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass Announcement and Final Words

JOIN THE CONVERSATION👇🏽 *COMMENT BELOW* and tell me:
What’s one way you’ve been holding back because you care what people think?
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👑 WORK WITH ME♟️ *The Queen’s Table*
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy
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👑 *The Next Level*
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/
📚 MY BOOKS*Becoming Magnetic + Confidence Feels Like Sh*t*
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

👑 *READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?*
♟️ *The Queen's Table*
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 *MORE WAYS TO WORK WITH ME*
✨ *The Next Level*
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

📖 *My Book – Becoming The One*
→ https://www.amazon.com/

🎙 *Listen to the Podcast*
→ https://podcasts.apple.com/

📱 *Come Say Hi on Instagram*
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⭐ *If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.*

If you’re doing all the “right things”
Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional…
But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in,

This episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading.

This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless.
It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology.

• Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistency
• How “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respected
• The subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safe
• Why neutral brands are forgettable brands
• How confidence and trust are felt, not forced
• What shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspective

If you’ve ever thought:
“I don’t want to upset anyone”
“What if people judge me?”
“I should probably tone this down…”

This episode will challenge you in the best way.

You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere.

I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember.

If that’s something you’d want:
👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram
or
👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.”

Your responses will decide if I run it.

• 00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand
• 00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts
• 00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There
• 00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise
• 00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically
• 00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice
• 00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions
• 00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics
• 00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass
• 00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet

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What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions?

Because the moment you stop performing for approval…
Your brand starts working for you.

You Don’t Need to Be Loud to Be Powerful | Energetic Presence Explained
👉🏽 *Before you try to speak louder, sell harder, or show up more… watch this.*
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing “all the right things” but still not being fully felt, trusted, or taken seriously, this episode will land.
Because presence isn’t about volume.
It’s about energy.
In this video, I’m breaking down *energetic presence,* how to be felt without saying a word, and why the most powerful people in the room are often the quietest, most grounded ones.
This is for the woman who doesn’t want to perform, overcompensate, or become someone she’s not just to be seen.

🎯 IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:

* What _presence_ actually is, and why people feel you before they hear you
* How silent authority really works
* Why 93% of communication is non-verbal, and how your body leads
* How insecurity pulls you out of the present moment and leaks your power
* The difference between grounded confidence and overcompensating energy
* Why introverts can often have the strongest presence
* How posture, breath, stillness, and eye contact change how you’re perceived
* Why people trust what they _feel_ from you more than what you say

This teaching comes straight from my *Show Up, Stand Up, Speak Up* work and is foundational for leadership, visibility, sales, and confidence.
You don’t need to be louder, you need to be anchored.

• 00:00:00 The Energy You're Broadcasting Right Now
• 00:00:22 You Don't Have to Be Loud to Be Felt
• 00:01:15 What Is Presence? The Lion in the Room
• 00:03:15 The Internal Safety That Creates Presence
• 00:05:03 When Insecurity Pulls You Out of the Present
• 00:06:42 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal
• 00:08:02 Your Nervous System Doesn't Lie
• 00:09:55 Are You Leaking Your Power or Anchoring It?
• 00:10:47 Commanding Attention Without Overcompensating
• 00:11:38 Stillness Will Speak For You
• 00:12:21 Body Language: Posture, Movement, and Eye Contact
• 00:16:00 Breathing as Your Anchor
• 00:16:37 Where Are You Shrinking? Step Into Your Power

REFLECTION QUESTIONS (Pause + Journal)
👑 What energy do I usually bring into a room, grounded, rushed, anxious, performative?
👑 Where do I physically shrink or rush when I feel unsure?
👑 What would it feel like in my body to be calm, steady, and fully present?

WORK WITH ME♟️ *The Queen’s Table*

High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 *The Next Level*
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

📚 MY BOOKS*Becoming Magnetic*
Chapter 7 dives deep into embodiment, identity, and presence.
*Confidence Feels Like Sh*t*
The work behind real confidence, not performative bullshit.
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

👑 *READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?*
♟️ *The Queen's Table*
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 *MORE WAYS TO WORK WITH ME*
✨ *The Next Level*
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

📖 *My Book – Becoming The One*
→ https://www.amazon.com/

🎙 *Listen to the Podcast*
→ https://podcasts.apple.com/

📱 *Come Say Hi on Instagram*
→ https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/

⭐ *If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.*