You know the type of sex I'm talking about, where the amazing intensity keeps you hooked, and you can't seem to let go no matter what! Abandonment, emptiness, and not feeling your life (or your value on a deeper level) can make this a toxic and anxious place to stay stuck. No matter what your life looks like on the outside, the inside feels controlled by this relationship.

But it’s not just the fear of abandonment that makes the sex great, it may also be the only place where you have intimacy in your life. That connection of being seen and validated. You crave it, and sex is where you get it, leaving a crack open for vulnerability. But then it closes up again.

So what can you do? Unless you understand these deeper drivers, you can stay stuck here forever. And it’s not about words or even action in this case… it’s about how you FEEL. Many of us don’t know our true feelings. Because we’re so caught up in the sex, we’re not connected to our truth.