Ever notice how one small mistake turns into days of distance?

Not because the issue was huge, but because repair never actually happened.

In this episode, Eric and Kate break down why most couples think they’ve “fixed” things… but still feel disconnected. You’ll learn the difference between resolving a problem and repairing the relationship, and why skipping repair quietly erodes trust over time.

If you tend to shut down, get defensive, over-explain, or promise to “do better” without ever feeling close again, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why avoiding the conversation makes things worse, not better

• The critical difference between repair vs. resolution

• How shame and blame block connection after conflict

• The 4A Repair Framework that helps couples reconnect within 24 hours

• What to say when you mess up without justifying or minimizing

• How unresolved resentment keeps resurfacing in future arguments

• Why kids need to see repair, not just conflict

• How to move forward without dragging the past back into every fight

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What if the problem in your marriage isn’t conflict, but control?

In this episode of The Evolved Marriage Podcast, Eric and Kate break down how control shows up in long-term relationships and why it slowly kills intimacy, trust, and desire.

They explore the difference between influence and control, how fear and self-protection keep one foot out the door, and why surrender is not weakness but grounded leadership.

If your marriage feels tense, flat, or disconnected, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening and how to lead differently.

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Betrayal can shatter more than trust. It can dismantle your sense of safety, self-worth, and emotional stability in a relationship.

In this episode of The Evolved Marriage Podcast, Eric breaks down what betrayal actually is, why it hurts so deeply at a nervous-system level, and how to heal in a way that doesn’t cost you your boundaries, dignity, or sense of self.

This episode is for anyone dealing with infidelity, emotional betrayal, broken trust, or ongoing relationship disconnection and wondering how to move forward without losing themselves in the process.

What you'll learn:

• What betrayal really means (and why it’s more than cheating or infidelity)
• The difference between micro-betrayals, mid-level betrayals, and major betrayals
• Why betrayal activates the nervous system like physical pain
• Why you can’t think your way out of betrayal
• The 4 most common post-betrayal traps that keep people stuck
• Why self-blame feels logical but destroys self-trust
• How numbing out, chasing repair, or withdrawing blocks healing
• A 4-step framework to heal betrayal without losing yourself
• How to speak your truth without begging, exploding, or shutting down
• What actually rebuilds trust and emotional safety over time

If you’re currently navigating betrayal, emotional distance, or uncertainty in your relationship, take our FREE relationship assessment: https://form.jotform.com/ericmacdougall85/EMcouples

Ever notice how you know what to do… but you just can’t make yourself do it?

You’re not broken. You’re not “undisciplined.” You’re probably stuck in what we call the Shame-Procrastination Loop.

In this episode, Eric and Kate break down why procrastination is often a control and soothing strategy, how it quietly kills self-confidence and connection, and the simple “5 N’s” framework you can use to get unstuck fast.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The real reason procrastination shows up (hint: it’s not time management)

✅ How toxic shame turns “I made a mistake” into “I am a mistake”

✅ Why procrastination feels like relief… but creates more pain long-term

✅ How procrastination slowly drains confidence, then wrecks connection

✅ The difference between shame vs guilt, and why that matters in marriage and parenting

✅ Why “fix-it mode” is often just procrastination wearing a suit

✅ The 5-step tool to break the cycle and take action today

Want help applying this to your relationship?

Take the FREE relationship assessment and Eric and Kate will create a 30-day game plan with specific actions to improve connection, communication, and intimacy.

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If your partner shuts down, goes quiet, or pulls away when things get emotional, this episode will help you finally understand what is going on inside them. Avoidant behavior is not rejection. It is protection. And when you learn how to meet that pattern with steadiness instead of pressure, everything changes.

In this episode, I break down what avoidance really is, why your partner retreats when things get intense, and the four moves that help them feel safe enough to come closer again.

No chasing. No fixing. No losing yourself.

You will walk away with real tools you can use tonight.

• Why avoidant partners shut down even when they care

• How nervous system overload creates the push-pull cycle

• The biggest mistakes that make avoidance worse

• How to stop chasing and start leading with calm strength

• The four moves that help an avoidant partner re-engage

• How to build safety, not pressure

• Why consistency beats intensity every time

• How agreements and predictable energy rebuild trust

• What to do when both of you shut down• How to break the avoid-chase cycle for good

If you want a personal action plan for your relationship, take my free couples assessment.

I will read your answers myself and send you a custom 30 day plan to help you reconnect.

Take it here: https://form.jotform.com/ericmacdougall85/EMcouples

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Corey Allen, host of Sexy Marriage Radio, one of the longest-running marriage podcasts in the world with over 750 episodes.

Corey brings decades of experience helping couples navigate desire differences, emotional gridlock, loss of spark, and the hard truth that marriage isn’t designed to be “fair” — it’s designed to grow you.

This conversation is for men and couples who want a deeper, stronger, more mature relationship. If your marriage feels disconnected, heavy, or stuck, this will give you a whole new lens on how long-term love really works.

What You’ll Learn

• Why marriage exposes your insecurities and growth edges

• How to move beyond fairness and build real partnership

• The role of emotional maturity in long-term marriage success

• Why desire differences (especially sexual desire mismatches) are normal

• How to break gridlock when one partner wants change and the other doesn’t

• Why communication problems are rarely about communication

• What it looks like to become a “full-functioning person” in relationship

• How to rebuild connection when the spark fades

• Why you need a brotherhood, mentors, and support — not just effort

• What keeps couples growing together instead of growing apart

This episode is deeply practical, deeply grounding, and will challenge the narratives that keep couples stuck.

About Dr. Corey Allen

Relationship therapist, author, and host of Sexy Marriage Radio (SMR) — a top podcast in the marriage and intimacy space for over 14 years.

Find him here: https://smr.fm/

Or search Sexy Marriage Radio on any podcast platform.

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Most couples don’t lose the spark because they stop loving each other. They lose it because they slowly drift. Life gets busy, conversations get shallow, play disappears, and emotional safety quietly slips away.

In this episode, I break down exactly why the drift happens and how happy couples bring the spark back on purpose. You’ll get real examples, simple habits, and practical shifts you can start using tonight.

• Why loving couples drift without noticing• The small moments that slowly erode emotional safety• How functional conversations kill connection• Why play is the most underrated relationship skill• The habits that rebuild closeness and desire

How to feel like lovers again instead of roommate

• Share one real feeling a day

• Switch one convo from tasks to connection

• Add daily micro-play to melt tension and create warmth

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In this episode, Eric and Christa unpack how the Enneagram can help couples understand each other on a deeper level, move through conflict with more compassion, and work with their differences instead of fighting them.

Eric and Kate recently took the Enneagram and were shocked by how accurate it felt. Christa helps decode their pairing and shows how any couple can use this tool to grow.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What the Enneagram is and how it is different from other personality tests

• The 3 main centers: heart, head, and gut types

• How your core fears and motivations shape the way you show up in your relationship

• How stress and health affect each type

• How to introduce the Enneagram to your partner without making it heavy or “clinical”

• Practical ideas to turn insight into action so you can actually change how you connect

Connect with Christa:

• Website: enneagramandmarriage.com

• Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage

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What do you do when you still love your partner, share a life, a home, kids, routines… but deep down you do not feel desired anymore?

In this episode, Kate and Eric get honest about a conversation we had at our own kitchen table. I told her I wanted to feel more desired. She shared how unworthy and "too much" she sometimes feels. We realized we were both carrying quiet stories that slowly kill desire.

We talk about the very real gap between being needed and being wanted.

Between being the "safe, useful partner" and being the one your spouse actually chooses, notices, and craves time with.

If you have ever thought:

• "My partner appreciates me, but I do not feel wanted"

• "We live together, but we feel more like teammates than lovers"

• "I do not even know how to ask for what I want without feeling needy"

  
  

We share simple, real ways to:

• Own the stories that block you from feeling desirable

• Start asking for what you actually need

• Bring back playful, present energy without forcing big romantic performances

You will leave with questions you can bring straight into your own marriage tonight, so you can start feeling more chosen, more seen, and more deeply desired right where you are.

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Feeling distant? Stuck in the same fight on repeat?
Today’s episode is your roadmap out of the loop. In this conversation, Kate and I break down the real skill that keeps long-term marriages strong: repair.

Not avoiding conflict. Not pretending everything’s fine.
Repair. Clean, honest, connected repair.

You’ll hear us dig into:

➡️ What makes repair the backbone of a healthy marriage

Most couples aren’t struggling because they fight.

They struggle because they don’t repair.

➡️ Why so many people avoid repairing

Is it pride? Shame? Fear of being wrong?

We get raw about what stops each of us from stepping in.

➡️ The 5-Step Repair Map we use in our own marriage

This is the exact framework we teach inside Evolved Marriage and EMC.

Simple. Clear. Repeatable.

You’ll learn how to:

➡️ Own what you did without excuses

➡️ Attune to your partner’s experience even when it’s uncomfortable

➡️ Show real remorse (not the “fine, sorry” version)

➡️ State one specific thing you’ll do differently next time

➡️ Invite reconnection in a grounded, low-pressure way

These steps will help you:

➡️ Break disconnection cycles

➡️ Build trust that lasts

➡️ Strengthen emotional and physical intimacy

➡️ Feel like a team again

And you’ll hear us use real examples from our own marriage… the messy ones included.

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