The Feminist Dating Show

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential.

You'll learn:

• Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach and bestselling author.

• The Bear process focuses on self-care and body wisdom.

• Environmental detox is crucial for creating a thriving space.

• Mindset work helps break free from diet culture.

• Pleasure is essential for healing and well-being.

• Setting boundaries is key to listening to your body.

• Embracing bold actions can lead to personal growth in midlife.

• New Year energy can be harnessed for goal-setting.

• Creating a pleasure-centered life enhances overall happiness.

• Obstacles are not greater than one's potential.

This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨

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We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight!

This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨

Are you feeling like a "late bloomer" in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by "late bloomers" and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily's insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.

Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.

You'll learn how to:

• Embrace self-compassion and connection
• Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts
• Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey
• Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning
• Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!)
• Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you're whole as you are
• Redefine what "blooming" means to you

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Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and offers practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the belief that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s wisdom will help shift your perspective and give you the confidence to create joyful AF dating experiences.

Feelings of shame and isolation can often weigh heavy for those who feel “behind” in their love lives. This episode is here to help you shed that “late bloomer” identity, bring you relief, and inspire you to take powerful action toward your deepest desires.

You’ll learn how to:

• Embrace self-compassion and connection.
• Distinguish between thoughts and facts.
• Break free from societal and patriarchal dating norms to define your unique journey.
• Heal and neutralize “late bloomer” conditioning.
• Gracefully let go of those who aren’t right for you (bless and release!).
• Celebrate your current stage in life and recognize your inherent wholeness.
• Redefine what “blooming” means to you.

This episode is brought to you by my free training: 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” 

If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" - will help you BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily’s Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer” ✨

Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.

Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.

Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship.

You'll learn:

• Create a 2025 dating plan to make the right relationship inevitable.

• Claim what you want unapologetically in your dating life.

• Essence-based preferences help you define how you want to feel in a relationship.

• Qualifying and disqualifying questions are essential for vetting potential partners.

• In-person dating is still alive and can reduce reliance on dating apps.

• Build a dating profile that reflects your true self and essence-based preferences.

• The Thank You More Please challenge helps you recognize evidence of what you want in your love life.

• Community and support are crucial for a joyful dating experience.

• You are worthy of care and support in your dating journey.

• What you desire in love is possible, no matter your past experiences.

This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season.

If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.

Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season

Get Lily's Book, Thank You More Please HERE.

Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.

Subscribe to Lily's Youtube channel HERE.

In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being.

You'll learn:

• Recognize that loneliness is a hard moment and allow yourself to feel it.
• Emotional granularity helps in understanding and processing feelings.
• Self-soothing is essential for immediate comfort during loneliness.
• Reaching out to friends for support is crucial, even if they can't always respond.
• Creating a joy-building plan can help combat feelings of loneliness.
• Choosing accessible positive thoughts can shift your mindset.
• It's normal to feel lonely, especially during the holidays.
• Building resilience helps in managing future feelings of loneliness.
• You are worthy of love and support, regardless of your current situation.
• Your desire for connection is valid and can guide you towards it.

This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season.

If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.

Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season

Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you. Yes, it's that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don't want to answer!

This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying "pass the peas" to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way.

You'll learn:

• How to spot the self-judgment trap
• Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement
• Boundaries that slay: "You don't owe them your story" becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check
• Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving
• How to build a joy plan that sticks

Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.orgSelf-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life.

Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as "emotional outsourcing," helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions.

We get into:

• How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self
• The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth
• An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses
• Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention
• How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe

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✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season

Victoria's website

Victoria on Instagram

Feminist Wellness

Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina

I'm diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you're feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I'm here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. In this episode, I'll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I'll share practical tools, like Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion meditation, to help you navigate challenging times with more grace.

Whether it's political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support.

Links: Free 5-minute self-compassion medication from Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/

The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/

We're airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you'll want to come back to again and again!

Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode:

• How do you know if you're being too "rigid"

• Essence-based preferences can apply to everything that you want

• Figure out how to get to the root of what you want by crafting your personal love-life vocabulary

Links: Main Character Dating (formerly Brazen Breakthrough)Episode 26: How to navigate money in your dating life Follow Date Brazen on TikTok

"Should I give them another chance, or should I 'just know' if they're right?"

Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a "slow burn" or "spark" to be worth pursuing.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating.

✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking.

✨ When you're just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt!

✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry.

Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it's a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let's make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you!

Links: Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark