The Feminist Dating Show

Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That's right! We're diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution! 🚀

Lily breaks down why bragging isn't just a power move but the key to attracting more fulfilling relationships. She gets real about her journey, tackles the societal BS that holds us back and gives you the ultimate guide to celebrating your awesomeness. Plus, there's exclusive bonus content waiting for you if you snag her book from her website.

You'll learn:

• Why hiding your full awesomeness leads to uninspiring dates
• Why it feels weird to brag and how to get over it
• How to choose your bragging support and community wisely
• Mastering the art of brazen bragging
• Real-life examples of what you can start bragging about today

Links: Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/brag-more-find-love

What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mindset has leveled up not just Allyson's dating game, but her whole life.

Tune in for some real talk on how to attract meaningful relationships while staying true to yourself, taking your shot, and feeling all kinds of empowered.

We get into:

• The struggle of feeling behind in dating – "It felt like a mountain I couldn't climb."
• Why it's okay to be uncomfortable, and how to find safety even in the discomfort.
• Owning the fact that you are in complete control of your love life.
• How Allyson found the courage to shoot her shot and ask someone out
• Allyson's new beliefs about her future, and how it's all coming together

Links:

Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough)

Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shooting-your-shot-with-allyson

What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted.

Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going through the motions without real progress. Miriam shares their journey from feeling frustrated and scared about dating to radiating confidence and truly enjoying the experience! We get into:

• The dating hamster wheel: How to break free from the endless cycle of dating without progress and finally make things happen.
• Tips for overcoming those nagging thoughts like "I'm too much" or "All the good ones are taken" and boosting your dating confidence
• Dealing with fears of settling, picking the wrong partner, or just getting started in the dating world
• How Miriam mastered the art of blessing and releasing when there was a values mismatch, rather than sticking around to "see where this goes."

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ Main Character Dating (formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough) Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Date Brazen on YouTube Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/bless-and-release-confidently-with-miriam

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that's okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time.

This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major difference in clients' ability to attract the right partner. Tune in to learn how to transform your dating life with bold confidence and get the deets on more resources to help you along the way.

You'll learn:

• How to embrace the awkwardness, recognize your inner power, and remember you're resilient AF.
• "You can't say the wrong thing to the right person."
• Take Your Shot: Every attempt brings you closer to what you want because you're actively attracting and asking for it.
• Use the S.O.F.T. method to move through rejection: Self-compassion, Own Your Needs, Feel Your Feelings, and remember that Thoughts Are Not Facts.
• Creative and practical suggestions to help you take that first step!

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ Main Character Dating Lily's book: Thank You, More Please 162. The Complete Dating Detox Guide Kristin Neff's Self-compassion.org Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/make-the-first-move-every-time

Are you wondering, "How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?" This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust.

Together, Lily and Liz explore the transformative process of becoming your main character through the work of Main Character Dating, formerly known as Brazen Breakthrough. Returning to the podcast after her first appearance in 2023, Liz brings a full-circle perspective, offering wisdom and insights for anyone navigating post-breakup life or re-entering the dating world.

Listen in as Liz reflects on how the principles of Main Character Dating have evolved with her, revealing how embracing self-discovery and vulnerability can be your greatest strengths.

We get into:

• Picking up the pieces after a shitty breakup
• Liz shares her raw experience: "I had to fully feel all my pain," emphasizing the importance of embracing and processing emotions to heal
• When you show up with your feelings, the right people show up for you as well
• Navigating the desire/shame see-saw means trusting your gut and understanding there's no perfect timeline for getting back into dating
• Liz explores, "What does self-trust look like for you now?" sharing how she found courage and rebuilt self-trust

Links:

✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/self-trust-and-love-after-a-breakup-with-liz

Are you feeling like a "late bloomer" in your dating life? This week, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by "late bloomers" and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily's insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.

Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.

You'll learn how to:

• Embrace self-compassion and connection
• Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts
• Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey
• Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning
• Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!)
• Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you're whole as you are
• Redefine what "blooming" means to you

Links: ✨RSVP for Lily's Free Training - 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a "Late Bloomer" ✨ Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/late-bloomer-guide-to-releasing-worry

Ever wondered how to heal from a toxic relationship and truly thrive? Lily is joined by licensed psychotherapist Ginger Dean, the genius behind the book, Loving Me, After We. They dive into the journey of healing from toxic relationships, highlight the importance of self-soothing, and chat about how to rebuild self-trust.

Ginger shares her personal and professional experiences, drops some wisdom on emotional recovery, and introduces her latest book, 'Loving Me After We,' packed with practical steps to go from hurting to thriving. They also get into what it means to be the 'green flag' in relationships and the power of self-care practices like yoga, massages, and somatic work.

You'll hear about:

• The inner work needed to become the best version of yourself, focusing on baseline levels of emotional availability and self-awareness.
• Practices and shifts, in addition to therapy, to come home to yourself and create a self-care plan after a hard breakup.
• Self-care practices and ideas to take care of your well-being.
• Building or rebuilding self-trust after being in a toxic or the wrong relationship.

Links: ✨ Get Lily's Free Training: Creating a Confident and Joyful-as-fuck Dating Life That Makes the Right Relationship Inevitable ✨

Ginger's website Ginger's book, Loving Me, After We

Episode link: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-after-a-hard-breakup-ginger-dean

Why do we always feel awkward asking our friends for help with our love lives? Imagine the game-changing power of having a trusted squad of co-conspirators in your corner, ready to support you. This episode dives into how to ask your friends to be your co-conspirators in love—one of the top three ways to date IRL!

Now, it's not that your friends are clueless about dating; they just need to learn how to help you in a way that matches your wants, needs, and desires. In this episode, Lily guides you through a co-conspirator invitation, so your friends can really be there for you.

Here's what you'll learn in this juicy episode:

• Learn how to spot the friends who are perfect for this role and how to prepare for that all-important invitation
• Asking someone to be your love-life co-conspirator is an honor—here's how to make sure you're ready to have that convo.
• Not every friend will be a good fit as a co-conspirator, and that's okay.
• Discover creative solutions to avoid dead-ends and establish boundaries.
• FAQ on Co-Conspirators: Everything from the best personality types for this role to how to figure out if your friends are mentally available, and overcoming the shame of asking for help.

Tune in and transform your dating life with the help of your very own dream team! 🎙️✨

Links: You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and then sign up for Date Brazen Listening Guide at datebrazen.com/book! Friend Forward Podcast Fighting for Our Friendships, Danielle Bayard Jackson

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/invite-friends-to-be-co-conspirators

Ever dreamed of writing a book or want to share your story and ideas? If so, this episode is for you. Lily welcomes Richelle Fredson, her incredible book proposal coach, on the show. Without Richelle, Thank You, More Please would still be a dream! We're diving deep into main character energy and how to bring it to your writing and publishing journey. We're talking about what it takes to get published, the importance of sharing your story, and how to boldly step into the world with your unique voice.

For nearly 20 years, Richelle has been a powerhouse in the book publishing industry. Known as the "six-figure book coach," she's worn many hats: publishing guide, guest teacher, and marketing strategist for bestselling authors. Now, she's here to help aspiring authors develop standout book concepts, killer book proposals, and vibrant online communities. Get ready to embrace your main character energy and share your story with the world, even if you don't think you're ready yet.

We get into:

• Conquering the anxiety of "shooting your shot"
• Flipping the script on imposter syndrome: embracing bold, messy action
• Richelle's take: "Who gets to write a book and who gets published?"
• Diving in: "You can start before you think you're ready"
• The real talk on getting a book published
• The book proposal: your golden ticket to traditional publishing and ultimate self-advocacy
• Overcoming comparison and self-doubt to start telling your story

Links: Richelle's website Richelle's podcast Bound + Determined Lily on Richelle's podcast You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now, and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/write-a-book-richelle-fredson

Struggling with self-doubt or negative self-talk? This week's episode is a game-changer! Lily's got Katie Horwitch as her guest, and they're diving deep into how inner dialogue shapes our lives. Katie's not just any guest—she's a rockstar author, speaker, and self-talk activist with over a decade of experience flipping the script on negative self-talk.

In this episode, you'll get the lowdown on how to recognize and shift negative thoughts and discover the hidden issues behind them. Katie's the founder of WANT: Women Against Negative Talk and the voice behind The WANTcast. Plus, her debut book, "WANT YOUR SELF: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth The Strength in Who You Were All Along," is out now and ready to inspire.

Don't miss out—tune in and start transforming your inner dialogue to reshape your life!

We get into:

• How our self-talk shapes our view of ourselves and the world.
• Recognizing when self-talk negatively impacts your life and how to change it.
• Building the skill to confidently accept your answers when facing tough questions about what you truly want.
• Figuring out the underlying beliefs behind your self-talk, such as "I'm not allowed to want this"—what's driving that thought?
• Exploring, understanding, and shifting not just your self-talk, but your whole self.
• Hot-take: "Be as fully you wherever you go. That's how you learn, grow, and become the truest version of yourself."

Links:

Katie's website Katie's book: WANT YOUR SELF: Shift Your Self-Talk and Unearth The Strength In Who You Were All Along Lily on Katie's podcast: 178: Revamp Your DATING LIFE + FIND LOVE For Real with Lily Womble of Date Brazen

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/negative-self-talk-with-katie-horwitch