The Feminist Dating Show

Ever wondered why you often overlook the self-care you desperately need? This week, Lily chats with the amazing Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite who drops some serious knowledge on managing stress, building habits that stick, and incorporating practical self-care into our everyday lives. Get ready for some game-changing insights straight from her awesome books!

We get into:

• The three must-have types of self-care for ultimate well-being
• How to spot the red flags that scream you're neglecting self-care
• Handling high-stakes pressure in dating and staying grounded
• Why stress isn't all bad—it's all about balance and self-compassion
• How inequality affects self-care for Women of Color and how everyone can be co-conspirators in making a change
• Fun and easy activities to seamlessly weave self-care into your daily routine

Links:

Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite's website

You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!

My first book, Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love, is out in the world right now. I'm SO EXCITED! My business manager Jayla Rae joins me to reveal the little-known, lesser-discussed pieces of my book-writing journey. She's leading me through questions about what I learned while writing the book, what I am most looking forward to, and thought-provoking questions about the book from Date Brazen clients! Join us on this behind-the-scenes book journey!

We get into:

• Getting real and raw while writing the book and the juicy stories within
• The feels and the fun of sharing my book with friends and family for the first time.
• Answering burning questions from the Date Brazen community about the book, future plans, and beyond!

Links: You can pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold right now and sign up for our book club at datebrazen.com/book!

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/book-pub-day-qa

How can embracing your main character energy and taking up space transform your journey? In this episode, Lily sits down with Krishan Trotman, VP and Publisher of Legacy Lit Books, to discuss the exciting journey of co-creating Lily's new book 'Thank You, More Please,' which hits shelves next week, June 11th. 📚✨ Tune in to hear Krishan's own main character energy story, behind-the-scenes details about Lily's book, and a deep dive into the world of publishing diverse voices.

Don't forget to pre-order 'Thank You, More Please,' coming out June 11th. Your pre-orders mean the world and help ensure the book gets the recognition it deserves. 🌟 Your support is immensely appreciated!

We get into:

• Krishan's main character energy story and her role as VP and Publisher at Legacy Lit
• The co-creation of Thank You More Please
• Advice for aspiring authors on writing, getting published, and maintaining the motivation needed for long-term projects

Links: Lily's book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link! Krishan on InstagramLegacy Lit Books

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/mce-taking-up-space-with-krishan-trotman

Do you ever feel trapped by outdated dating rules and wonder if there's a better way to attract more? The amazing Damona Hoffman joins Lily to dismantle the four big dating myths and introduces the four pillars of lasting love for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Damona helps to outline these myths and paves a clear path with actionable next steps, making the dating process easier and helping you find what you desire. Damona says, "You have more control over what happens in your life than what you allow yourself to believe. How deep are you willing to dig?"

Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps, including Bumble and Match, and she was named the Official U.S. Dating Coach of OkCupid in 2021. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona's first book F the Fairy Tale, was released January 2, 2024.

We get into:

• Using dating apps with intention + why Damona says to take notifications off your dating apps and track what is going on in your dating life.
• The three C's when designing your profile: Color, Context, Character.
• The four BIG dating myths and how to ditch them! Including the preferences list myth, the chemistry myth, and the soulmate myth.

Links: F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite The Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story Damona's website The Dates and Mates podcast

Damona on Instagram @damonahoffman Damona's Date Tracker

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/shedding-dating-myths-with-damona-hoffman

Want to reclaim your self-worth and challenge societal norms? Then, get ready for a fantastic episode because we've got Kara Loewentheil, the powerhouse behind the School of New Feminist Thought, on this week's podcast! Kara's new book, 'Take Back Your Brain,' just dropped, and I can't wait to share our conversation with you.

In this episode, Kara and I dive into romantic socialization's history and social impacts. We bust myths about love, marriage, and self-worth and discuss the difference between empowerment and true personal power. We urge you to root your self-worth in yourself instead of seeking external validation.

Kara's insights are a game-changer. She offers a roadmap for embracing self-compassion, challenging patriarchal norms, and building mindsets that lead to a more fulfilling life.

Don't miss out on this powerful conversation! Tune in now and start taking back your brain!

We get into:

• The brain gap: what it is and how to overcome it.
• Why the goal is to be grounded in your self-worth and not your relationship status
• The four traps of romantic socialization
• Body positivity vs body neutrality
• The beauty and power in the phrase "How human of me…"

Links:

Take Back Your Brain

Unfuck Your Brain Podcast

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/take-back-your-brain-kara-loewentheil

If you date men and have ever wondered if the feminist partner you want exists, this episode is for you! This week, we explore the Brazen Breakthrough tools, mindset shifts, and strategies that Client Julianne applied to attract a feminist man and is now building an epic partnership.

Lily and returning guest Julianne dive into the evolution of Julianne's love life since her last podcast appearance. They discuss the importance of self-trust, essence-based preferences, and the empowering shift from muscling through dating to co-creating a fulfilling relationship.

This is a must-listen episode for anyone wondering if their ideal partner exists.

We get into:

• How Julianne used the Brazen Breakthrough tools to attract a proactive, feminist man her way

• How attraction is an essence-based preference

• Co-creating a relationship with someone can be fun!

Links:

Lily's book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!

The Brazen Breakthrough

Show notes:

http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-julianne-attracted-a-feminist-man

How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨

You'll learn:

• Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts.
• "Messy progress forward is okay."
• "Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself."
• The goal is never to feel anxious again; it's to increase your capacity for resiliency so that when you feel anxious, you know what to do about it.
• Even if you have anxiety, you can still make massive changes in your life.

Links:

Free Training With Lily Womble TODAY, May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Lily's book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!

Psychology Today Dr. Kristin Neff

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski, Amelia Nagoski

Show notes:

http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-date-with-social-anxiety

Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi's journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of connections you desire.

We get into:

• How Mishi learned to rediscover herself after enduring two challenging breakups
• The most significant difference in Mishi's dating life today
• The act of listening to your intuition and embracing self-trust
• Some of the Brazen Breakthrough strategies that Mishi found helpful, including Bless-Release and the Dating Feedback System
• What it's like to be in a proactive and loving relationship

Links:

Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life

Lily's book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!

Show notes:

http://datebrazen.com/blog/attracting-proactive-loving-partner

In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment.

This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! 🔥

You'll learn:

• Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be with
• Owning your EBPs is a feminist act. It's about flipping the script and putting yourself at the center of your dating universe. Bye-bye, antiquated norms!
• EBPs are the answer to attracting the best partner in your life
• Under vs. Over-Functioning Preferences: It's all about finding that sweet spot. Too little? You're selling yourself short. Too much? You're losing sight of your true desires.

Links:

Lily's book, Thank You More Please, is available for preorder right now and you can grab it and the preorder bonuses with this link!

Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life

Creating Your Essence-Based Preferences Comprehensive Guide

Show notes:

http://datebrazen.com/blog/owning-your-preferences

Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy.

We get into:

• How Danielle realized she wasn't getting what she truly wanted in dating
• Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you want
• Shifting from second-guessing yourself to trusting your intuition
• The lessons and takeaways from Brazen Breakthrough that help Danielle show up and support others (and herself)
• The impact on Danielle's dating life, including creating stronger boundaries and dating with intention
• The act of reclaiming your sense of Self

Links:

Free Training With Lily Womble on May 7th! 3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner With a Joyful as Fuck Dating Life The Brazen Breakthrough Waitlist

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/hard-breakups-to-joyful-af-dating-life