The Feminist Dating Show

How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You're in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.

Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations.

You'll learn:

• Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship
• How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework
• Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that "You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person."
• Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being
• Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile
• Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace

Links:

Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold! 121. Dating Apps, AMA

135. How to create your essence-based preferences

162. The complete dating detox guide

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election

Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight.

We've all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you're in that "good enough" life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you're ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era.

You'll learn:

• What it really means to not be in main character energy
• The three essential main character skills: permission, self-trust, and massive messy action
• How to stop sidelining your needs and start taking up space
• Practical tips on how to use 10 seconds of courage to build that main character muscle

It's not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they've got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today.

Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!140. My bless and release strategy for letting go216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself)

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-main-character-identity

Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We're diving into Laura's epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked!

You'll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it's practically calling your name. This is your sign. Time to hit play, step into your power and go after what you want.

We get into:

• Why action without community = dead-end vibes
• Laura's raw, real talk on going through Main Character Life Mastermind during a tough time of grief
• How deep personal growth impacts everything, including your relationships
• The badass move from inaction to taking bold steps toward your biggest dreams
• Real talk: Confidence is EVERYTHING, and asking for what you want is the key to getting it
• How to create the support system you need to step onto that bigger stage in your life

Links: Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!Laura's websiteLaura on Instagram: @cheekylamiki @dispatcheddivorcee

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-paralyzed-to-launching-her-dream-business-with-laura

Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life!

From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn't easy, but she trusted herself enough to push past fear and take massive, rewarding actions.

We get into:

• Breaking out of your comfort zone and going after what you want
• Building joy and meaningful social connections
• The power of self-trust and why it's okay to invest in yourself
• Katie's breakthrough journey and how she stopped playing small

Don't miss out on the chance to take control of your own story! Tune in and step into your main character energy.

Links:

RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/comfort-zone-to-mce-with-katie

Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections.

Juliet's story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into her power completely flipped her life around. From feeling burned out and isolated to creating deep friendships and a fulfilling love life, Juliet's transformation is nothing short of inspiring.

We get into:

• Truly believing in what you need and want unlocks the power to make aligned choices
• Identifying the key components and values of your ideal life is the first step toward living it
• How Juliet nurtured deeper connections with friends
• Finding more space for joy within all facets of Juliet's life
• Overcoming internal criticism shifts your mindset from self-doubt to self-compassion
• Turning "dating sucks" into "I can make dating fun!"

Links:

RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/from-burnout-to-boundaries-with-client-juliet

Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life's momentum.

Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clear plan of action so you can confidently take bold steps toward the life you want, without the exhausting mental spirals.

What if overthinking was just a roadblock on your journey to becoming the main character in your own story? This is your invitation to shift into that energy, giving yourself permission to trust, transform, and take massive, messy action.

You'll learn:

• How to recognize the signs that you may have a self-trust deficit and how it affects your daily life
• Why building self-trust, even imperfectly, is an essential step toward living a rich and fulfilling life
• The reasons behind why you struggle to trust yourself and how fear and past experiences may be holding you back
• That self-trust is a skill that takes time and practice to master
• How to build self-trust and confidently take action, leading to more clarity and control in your life

Links:

RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Lily's book: Thank You, More Please

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-trust-yourself

Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You're in luck! Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to reclaim the parts of yourself you've left behind, nurture your inner light, and permit yourself to ask for – and actually receive – what you truly want.

We get into:

• The disconnect between showing Main Character Energy on the outside but not feeling it internally
• Giving yourself permission to take the chance and truly nurture your own needs
• The power of finding support through a community coaching space and receiving collective encouragement
• The challenges of asking for what you want, and learning that sometimes it's about asking less of yourself and allowing others to show up for you
• How slowing down, even during success or failure, doesn't stall your growth
• Understanding that listening to your desires only fuels more of them
• The willingness to embrace more joy and actively seek it out in your life

Links:

RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/ask-for-what-you-want-mce

Ever thought about making a big leap from your current job to your dream career? Discover how Erica ditched an exhausting job and became a full-time romance novelist with main character energy! Lily welcomes Erica a former Main Character Energy Mastermind client who made the leap from feeling stuck in her career to living her dream as a full-time romance novelist. Erica gets real about facing her fears, ditching self-doubt, and breaking free from the "shoulds" to follow her passion. This convo is a must-listen if you're ready to trust yourself, go after what you want, and make some bold, messy moves. Plus, Lily spills the details on her live training event happening October 9th, all about taking risks with main character energy.

This episode will leave you feeling inspired and ready to take tangible next steps to embrace main character energy, stop "shoulding" all over yourself, and step into a braver, bolder, and more magical season of your life.

We get into:

• How Erica embraced her desire to become a full-time romance novelist
• Tapping into main character energy to choose yourself and make your dreams a reality: "Here is an opportunity to figure out a way to choose me," said Erica.
• Get the scoop on how trusting yourself can lead to bold moves and major life changes
• "What you want doesn't just appear one day because you wish for it hard enough. It's about really taking into consideration the work that I put in, the talent that I know I have, the want and just going after it."
• How stepping away from people-pleasing can help you build the self-trust you need to chase your true desires

Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy Erica's books, including "Witty in Pink"

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/choosing-yourself-with-erica

What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together, they dive into the power of community and the mindset shifts that make growth happen. Spoiler: It's all about trusting yourself, embracing the messiness, and going after what's yours—whether it's your career goals or relationship desires.

We get into:

• How self-trust can lead to unexpected joy and experiences
• Transitioning from a background character energy to main character energy
• "Whatever growth you are looking to make - if you put in the effort, it will come."
• Taking imperfect action and claiming that things are working out - even when it feels uncomfortable
• Jackie's experience as a researcher of joy!

Links: RSVP for Take That Risk with Confident Main Character Energy

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/huge-risks-with-mce-with-jackie

Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We're pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height. Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into the anxieties that surface in new and long-term relationships, offering strategies for navigating them with confidence and clarity.

You'll also hear Ali and Erica's candid thoughts on their least favorite—and most favorite—pieces of dating advice. Plus, Lily explores some uncharted territory, sharing her take on long-term relationships. This episode is packed with humor and practical tips to help you own what you want and build strong relationships.

We get into:

• What inspired Ali and Erica to launch their dating podcast, Finding Mr. Height
• Spotting the subtle clues and signals to determine if someone's right for you (or not)
• Relationship anxieties—whether you're just starting out or deep in a long-term commitment
• Finding and building a meaningful relationship that works for you
• Ali and Erica's top dating tips and the advice they'd rather skip

Links: Finding Mr. Height podcast

Finding Mr. Height on Instagram @findingmrheight

Erica on Instagram @spericaa Lily's appearance on Finding Mr. Height

Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/finding-mr-height-ali-and-erica