The Feminist Dating Show

If you've never been in a relationship before, or never been in a good one, and you identify with feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, or overwhelm when it comes to dating, and you just feel like it's impossible for you to find love and it's all over. This episode is for you.

This is exactly what I would do if I was your dating coach in the next three weeks, so you could build a joyful dating life, attract the best dates of your life, and make the right relationship inevitable this summer.

Inside Episode 275:

• Why "it happens when you least expect it" is actually desire suppression in disguise, and what to do instead
• How to build your matchmaker protocol: claim your essence-based preferences so you stop settling before you even get to the starting line
• The vetting questions I used as a professional matchmaker to qualify the right people and disqualify the wrong ones without mind drama
• Why rejection feels like death (it's biological, not dramatic) and how to build a bounce back plan so it stops running your dating life
• The Bounce Back protocol: a step-by-step rejection resilience plan you can write in your notes app right now

Work with Lily

• Join the Main Character Dating: https://datebrazen.com/dating
• Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book
• Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
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Your brain is convinced it knows how your love story ends. It's gathered all the evidence from your past and decided: this is just how it is. But your brain is not a fortune teller. It's a safety mechanism. And it is working with about 1% of the data.

In this episode of The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down three reasons you might just be wrong that finding love is impossible — and why more is possible in your love life than you currently believe.

Inside episode 274:

• Why your brain's "it's never going to happen" narrative is a biological feature, not a fact about your future
• The math on how many people you haven't met yet — and what that means for your love life
• How to use the relationships you already have as evidence that more is coming
• The two things that actually change your timeline: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it
• Lily's ACK process for rewiring your brain toward possibility when scarcity takes over

Work with Lily:

• Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go
• Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book
• Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating
• Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook
• Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/
• Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen
• Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Okay, let's say finding love is 100% all luck. A few weeks ago I shared my take: finding love is proximity to opportunity plus courageous behavior in the face of it. I got a lot of comments that said, "You're wrong, it's just 100% luck." So let's run the thought experiment. If finding love is 100% about luck... what creates the conditions for luck to occur? What even is luck? And how do you become the luckiest version of yourself in your dating life? This week's episode of The Feminist Dating Show shows you exactly how to create the luckiest love life possible, even if you've never been in a relationship before. Inside Episode 273 you'll learn: 💎 Why the story "I'm just not someone love happens to" isn't protecting you. It's shrinking opportunities your dating life. 💎 The two-part formula behind every lucky love story: proximity to opportunity plus courageous behavior in the face of it 💎 How to do the both/and-- hold real frustration or grief about your dating past without letting it become a prediction about your future 💎 What the both/and reframe actually looks like when you've been ghosted, rejected, or disappointed more times than you can count 💎 What creating the conditions for luck looks like in your love life this week

Work with Lily:

🔥 Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💜 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💜 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💜 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

You want dating to feel like something you're in charge of, that is going your way, not something that's happening to you. That shift-- from anxious hustle to magnetic momentum-- is what this episode is about.

This week on The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down the three levels of dating energy and exactly how to move from bothered and stressed to unbothered in your love life.

Inside episode 272:

• The three levels of dating energy-- student, bothered CEO, unbothered CEO-- and the specific behaviors that tell you where you actually are right now
• Why the bothered CEO over-personalizes rejection and outsources decisions (and how to stop)
• The SOP system that removes anxious decision-making from your dating life entirely
• How to use jealousy and comparison as a compass pointing toward what you want instead of proof that you're behind
• The ACK method: a three-step framework for getting back to unbothered when rejection happens

💎 Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed on June 9th, 2026: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

This episode gets into why now is the best time to powerfully date — and why how you show up in your dating life is already changing the rest of your life, whether you realize it or not.

Inside this episode:

• Your brain fears rejection the same way it fears death. That's not a dramatic spiral. It's neurobiology, and understanding it changes how much you let fear stop you.
• Women are socialized not to want things. Wanting a relationship, for your own pleasure and heart, is already a radical act.
• The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. Playing small in your dating life is costing you at work, in your friendships, and in how much of your actual life you claim.
• Powerfully dating isn't grinding through the apps until you're numb. It's owning what you want, knowing your value, and showing up with a strategy.

Work with Lily:

🔥 Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide

💜 Follow me on Instagram

💜 Follow me on TikTok

💜 Follow me on YouTube

If you want to meet someone IRL, but the "how" feels like a total mystery.... This episode tells you exactly why it hasn't happened yet and what to do about it. Inside episode 270:

→ The two things that determine whether you meet people IRL: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it

→ What joy building is and why it works

→What shooting your shot looks like when you're shy, anxious, or starting from zero

→ The self-assessment and action steps to take this week

Work with Lily:

💎 Join my free live training on June 9th 2026, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed

→ Get the book, Thank You, More Please

→ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide

→ Follow me on Instagram

→ Follow me on TikTok

→ Follow me on YouTube

You already know what the worst case scenario looks like. Your brain has mapped it out in extraordinary detail (in its attempt to keep you safe from rejection and vulnerability).

This episode is about what happens when you let the best case scenario take up some of that space too.

In this episode, Lily walks you through a best case scenario practice designed to open your brain up to possibility to getting exactly what you want-- without forcing you to believe anything you're not ready to believe yet.

Inside this episode:

• Why your brain defaults to worst case scenario thinking and why that habit is not a character flaw
• The difference between believing something 100% and simply making room for it. You don't have to be fully convinced for it to happen
• The plan that actually works to believe the best case scenario: "it might not be impossible that..."
• What your best case scenario sounds like when you say it out loud

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Learn more about our high touch group program, Main Character Dating, : https://datebrazen.com/dating

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

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In this episode, Lily unpacks the fear, "Will I just die alone", that showed up dozens of times in her Instagram DMs, and walks you through what to actually do with it.

Inside this episode:

• Why this fear feels too shameful to say out loud, and why that shame is exactly the reason you need to say it
• The seesaw dynamic keeping you stuck between hope and hopelessness, and how to step off it for good
• What "dress rehearsing tragedy" is and why your brain does it to protect you
• The question to ask yourself instead of "will I die alone?" that gives your brain somewhere useful to go
• The 1am reframe that will help you actually release dating worry

Work With Lily:

Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

If you want to walk into a coffee shop, a bookstore, or a comic book store this summer and actually know how to say hi to someone you find cute, this episode gives you a step-by-step flirting framework you can use the next time you leave your house. Flirting is a buildable skill — not a secret language, not a personality trait. Here is the exact process.

• Step one: how to open a conversation with a question or a complimentary comment, and the body language signals that tell you in the first 30 seconds whether to keep going or move on
• Step two: what co-creation looks like in a conversation, so you can tell if they are actually into you without overthinking every word
• Step three: the one low-stakes question that turns a fun conversation into a potential date ("random question, are you single?") and exactly how to respond to every answer you might get
• The difference between a co-created date plan and a "muscling" date where you do all the work — and why the muscling version is a signal, not a relationship
• The "winking run" — the practice one client used to build rejection resilience 10 seconds at a time

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

If you have zero dating experience and you want to find the right partner, this episode gives you six tools for late bloomers to start dating successfully. From zero experience to finding the right partner, without the patriarchal nonsense or the spiral.

• Step one is dropping the shame — and the actual skill that makes that possible (hint: it's not positive thinking, and it's not logic)
• Step two is figuring out what you want, even if you've never been in a relationship. You have more information than you think.
• Step three is the one or two questions that tell you almost immediately whether someone is worth your time
• Step four is a dating app strategy that won't drain you: one app, 20 minutes a day, no notifications, and you stay the CEO
• Step five is IRL dating — including the version that costs nothing and starts this week
• Step six is the habit that most people skip, and that's the reason they stay stuck

Work with Lily:

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen