The Happy Hour

Struggling to make change, or identifying why making a change is important to you? Join us in this enlightening conversation with Dr. Michelle Drapkin, a board certified clinical psychologist, who has worked in the area of behavior change for over 20 years and is dedicated to using behavioral science research to help people. Michelle is the Director of the CBT Center, and previously held behavioral scientist roles at Johnson & Johnson, a national role at the Department of Veterans Affairs, as well as a faculty role at the University of Pennsylvania. She sees patients in her private practice, consults with healthcare tech startups, and delivers trainings and workshops on communication/motivation, health and well-being at work and in life. Michelle is the author of “The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want.” Our conversation today covers a lot of interesting ground, including working through obstacles to change, connecting to your own motivation and what matters most using evidence-based practices. Michelle is well-versed in the area of behavior change, and offers practical strategies to use, and we think you’ll find this conversation insightful! Links & Resources: Check out Michelle’s website: https://cbtcenterofcentralnj.com/drmichelle-drapkin/ Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way! To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

Looking to find ways to ground yourself in the context of professional and personal demands? Consider how the story we tell ourselves, and how we treat ourselves weighs into our emotional functioning and can contribute to burnout, and how this can look differently for each of us. In our show today, we discuss the differences between daily burnout versus the “big kahuna” burnout, and how this can manifest. We also discuss how emotional fitness, the ability to handle life’s challenges with less struggles by creating a more supportive relationship with yourself, can mitigate burnout. Our guest today, Nataly Kogan, a leading expert on emotional fitness and leadership, talks to us about how to go from burnout to thriving. Listen in as we discuss the use of daily anchors to ground ourselves, and hone in on emotional fitness. Nataly is a best-selling author, and keynote speaker and has appeared in hundreds of media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, TEDx Boston and SXSW. Links & Resources: Learn more about Nataly’s work here: www.natalykogan.com Order your copy of her new book here: Awesome Human Journal Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way! To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com. To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

Struggling with burnout? You’re not alone! Whether it's a difficult boss, demanding hours, lack of autonomy, or not feeling appreciated at work -- there are all sorts of factors that can lead us to feel burnt out. In fact, surveys from around the world show that burnout is on the rise, and comes at a great cost to our mental and physical well-being. Many of these studies even suggest that the majority of people working in the United States have experienced significant burnout at some point within the past year. But how to cope with burnout, and its associated symptoms of exhaustion, cynicism, and reduced efficiency? 

Our guest today is Dr. Debbie Sorensen, and she’s here to teach us all a few important lessons when it comes to burnout. Debbie is a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of chronic stress and burnout. She is also a co-host for the popular “Psychologists Off The Clock” podcast, a favorite cousin of “The Happy Hour.” Our conversation spans themes including understanding and defining burnout, recognizing early warning signs, and strategies we can employ to lessen the impact of burnout in our lives. Debbie’s new book “ACT for Burnout” is a fantastic resource and offers readers sustainable strategies for managing burnout. She’s kind enough to share some of these important concepts and findings in our conversation with her today, which we hope you enjoy!

Links & Resources:

Learn more about Debbie’s work here: https://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/ 

Order your copy of “ACT for Burnout”  here: https://a.co/d/00F7MZj 

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To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

Most parents want their kids to become self-sufficient, independent, and confident. But how to do that in a world where you’re competing with time and technology? Many of us can fall into controlling parenting tendencies as a function of limited time, which can inadvertently stunt our childrens’ self-sufficiency as well as contribute heavily to parental burnout. 

In our show today, we explore many aspects of autonomy supportive parenting including how it is supported by long-term outcome data, and can help to foster autonomy and shared decision-making, how it differs from other parenting styles, as well as the consequences of “overparenting,” and much more in our conversation with clinical psychologist and parenting expert Dr. Emily Edlynn. 

Dr. Edlynn’s new book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children,” delves deep into the science of parenting and provides practical tools to try. She writes the regular parenting advice column, Ask Your Mom, for Parents.com, has written for national outlets such as Washington Post, Scary Mommy, and Motherly, and has been featured as an expert across parenting articles in outlets such as the New York Times, CNN, and BBC. We learned so much from Emily and loved our chat–and hope you do too! 

Links & Resources:

Learn more about Emily’s work here: https://www.emilyedlynnphd.com/ 

Order your copy of “Autonomy-Supportive Parenting”  here: https://a.co/d/fgDewDs 

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To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com 

To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com 

We often mention on The Happy Hour that relationships are one of the key factors determining happiness and health across our lifespan. But what if some of those relationships are with people who are emotionally immature? Whether it’s a boss, a sibling, a parent, or anyone else in our lives, these relationships can leave us feeling frustrated, misunderstood, drained, and worse. So how can we disentangle from these challenging dynamics, set healthy limits, and avoid experiencing the dreaded “brain scramble” (a term you’ll soon learn) when interacting with these challenging sorts of people?

We explore those questions and more with our guest in today’s show, Dr. Lindsay Gibson. Lindsay is a clinical psychologist and author specializing in helping people cope with emotionally immature people. Her newest book is titled “Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People” and helps readers identify the red flags of emotional immaturity in others and how to address these challenging relationships in everyday life. Her previous books include the bestseller “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents,” a runaway hit that’s sold over 800,000 copies to date.

In our conversation with Lindsay, we explore the characteristics of emotionally immature people, how to identify the key warning signs, and how you can disentangle from them in ways that are in line with your values and goals. Conversely, we also discuss some of the hallmarks of emotionally mature relationships, and what to look for in a healthy relationship. We learned so much in our conversation with Lindsay, and hope you enjoy it as much as we did!

Links & Resources:

Learn more about Lindsay’s work here: www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com 

Order your copy of “Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People”  here: https://a.co/d/g2MWsPF 

Order your copy of “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”  here: https://a.co/d/h8JWDXf 

Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way!

To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com 

To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

Have you ever had that nagging feeling that you don’t belong? That as soon as you open your mouth, everyone’s going to realize that you don’t know what you’re talking about? Or maybe that you’ve somehow managed to fool everyone along the way, only for that house of cards to come tumbling down if they only knew how over your head you really are?

If these sorts of feelings sound familiar, you might be suffering from “imposter syndrome.” But is it really a syndrome? Or is this experience (that research shows MOST people struggle with) better thought of in a different way? Our guest today is Jill Stoddard, a psychologist, writer, and renowned speaker. Jill’s new book “Imposter No More” tackles the fascinating topic of imposterism – what it is, how we can manage it, and more. Jill is a passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychologist to help people live better lives. Her work has been featured in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, and many other outlets. She is also the co-host of the Psychologists off the Clock Podcast, which is one of our favorite podcasts on mental health that’s out there! We loved our conversation with Jill, and think you will too!

Links & Resources:

Learn more about Jill’s work here: https://jillstoddard.com/ 

Order your copy of Imposter No More here: https://a.co/d/iS9C4dY 

Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way!

To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com 

To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

For most of us mere mortals, publishing even one book is a major accomplishment. But for Chris Willard, that’s a Monday. Chris is the author of twenty books, and he’s here to share his wisdom with us on this week’s episode of The Happy Hour. Chris is a clinical psychologist, author, and consultant based in Massachusetts (as a Yankees fan, Jonah will not hold this against him). He has spoken in over thirty countries and has presented at two TEDx events. Chris teaches at Harvard Medical School, and has had his work featured in outlets including The New York Times, The Washington Post, CNN, and more.

Our conversation today covers a lot of interesting ground, including the nature of mindfulness and its importance in our lives, how to stay present in a world filled with distraction, keys for fostering resiliency after hardship, and how mindfulness can be taught to kids in a developmentally-appropriate way. Chris is super knowledgeable yet down to earth and accessible, and we think you’ll have a great time learning from him. We certainly did!

Links & Resources:

Check out Chris’s website: https://www.drchristopherwillard.com/ 

Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way!

To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com 

To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com 

It’s often said that our mindset and attitude can change our lives, but did you know that this can be true even on a deeply physiological level as well? And better yet, that changing our expectations in particular ways can impact our mood, health, relationships, and even the very trajectory of our life?

Join us for an illuminating conversation with award-winning science writer David Robson, whose work focuses on the extremes of the human brain, body, and behavior. In this episode, David shares eye-opening findings from his awesome book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World. As he explains in our conversation, our expectations have a profound impact across many different domains of life, including meaningful physiological changes depending on our mindset. Best of all, you’ll learn tangible ideas about how these sorts of shifts can change your life too!

David was a fantastic guest, incredibly accomplished yet down to earth. In addition to The Expectation Effect, David is the author of The Intelligence Trap, which received worldwide media attention and accolades when it was released in 2019. His writing has been featured in a range of outlets including The Guardian, The Atlantic, Men’s Health, Aeon, and much more. For The Expectation Effect, David was the recipient of the prestigious British Psychological Society Book Award in the popular science category. We hope you enjoy our conversation with David as much as we did!

Links & Resources:

Learn more about David’s work here: https://davidrobson.me/ 

Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’re very grateful if you’d help us in this way!

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To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com 

What can “America’s Worst Mom” teach us about helping kids become happier and more resilient? Quite a lot, it turns out! Lenore Skenazy is the co-founder and president of “Let Grow,” a nonprofit organization promoting childhood independence. Back in 2008, her column entitled “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone” created a media firestorm. And ever since then, Lenore’s been shouting from the rooftops that our kids are smarter and stronger than our culture gives them credit for. She is the author of Free-Range Kids and has lectured everywhere from Microsoft to DreamWorks to the Sydney Opera House. Let Grow’s school programs, online community, and legislative efforts all promote the idea that when adults step back, kids step up. Best of all, research is even starting to show that concepts from Let Grow’s curriculum may have a potent effect on combatting childhood anxiety perhaps even exceeding the effectiveness of traditional therapy!

Our conversation with Lenore spanned a range of fascinating topics, including the pressures and perils around helicopter parenting, and how granting more independence to children can help them grow into more mature, confident, and happier adults. We also explore how the “participation trophies for all” culture, while well-intentioned, can lead to an increased sense of fragility in kids that may lead them to become less tolerant of opposing viewpoints and less resilient well into adulthood. We loved getting a chance to talk with Lenore about these important topics, and hope you enjoy our conversation as well!

Links & Resources:

Check out Lenore’s website: https://letgrow.org

 Thanks for listening! Please leave us a review and subscribe to our show to receive all new episodes hot off the press. Reviews are very helpful for visibility and gaining new listeners, so we’d be very grateful if you’d help us in this way!

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To learn more about Supria, visit her website at www.supriagillphd.com

We’re joined today on The Happy Hour by the wonderful Seth Gillihan. Seth is a clinical psychologist, author, instructor, and host of the Think Act Be podcast. He also offers courses through the Think Act Be online school, where participants can learn simple and effective ways to manage anxiety, stress, worry, and depression. 

Seth is an incredibly accomplished writer and thinker, but as you’ll see in our discussion today his achievements are perhaps only equalled by his thoughtfulness and humility. Seth shares his deeply personal journey of how mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy helped him emerge from times of struggle in his own life, and how these experiences inspired him to write his awesome new book Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. 

In our conversation today, we’ll explore the nature of mindfulness, how being more present can transform our lives, the impact of our thoughts and mindset on our reality, and how mindful cognitive behavioral therapy can alleviate depression and anxiety and help us live happier, healthier lives. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did!

Links & Resources:

Check out Seth’s website: https://sethgillihan.com/

Sign up for Seth’s newsletter: https://think-act-be.teachable.com/

Check out the Think Act Be podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/

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To learn more about Jonah, visit his website at www.jonahpaquette.com 

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