Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

The Humbling Truth Behind My Need to Rescue and How I Got Out of It | Episode 312


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For much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week’s episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the humbling truth behind my need to rescue and how I got out of it. 


Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • Recovery helped me realize that my desire to help others stemmed from the need for control and superiority. 
  • Pointing out the different types of arrogance: intellectual, moral, spiritual, and social. 
  • Strategies for overcoming the need to rescue or fix others (including some language to use when doing so). 

I encourage you to reflect on your own "helping" behaviors. Are you truly supporting others or subtly trying to control outcomes? Challenge yourself to approach relationships with genuine curiosity and respect for others' capabilities.


Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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