The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan

Galentine’s is a day to celebrate platonic relationships (yay!) and on this podcast we get a front row seat to Meg and Ruby’s gorgeous friendship. 

These are some nourishing moments from previous episodes where Ruby and Meg share dating app advice, give sex playlist tips, and get vulnerable about singleness and weird crushes.   

What are the most important relationships in your life? Get in touch and tell us! Also hot Valentine’s plans for tomorrow? Let us know!!! 

We are taking a little break now - see you soon!

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Links and resources:

• Ruby’s steamy sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v2QpYyO0tSz2I5nsbKt6R 
• Ruby’s tender sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1UhYyzNIbc22sBQA76NHdR 
• Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C78HBp-Youk 

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:

• Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook 
• Ethical porn: Erika Lust, Lustery, Cheex

Clips taken from the following episodes:

• Being single: love or loathe?
• Grindr for girls?
• Porn: Sexy or unrealistic? 
• Opening up your relationship? 

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Did you know the clitoris is a wishbone shape? Or that it’s made up of the same stuff as the penis and testes? Mind blown over here! 

Ruby and Meg get into the anatomy of the clitoris, chat pleasure and tell us about their own personal discovery of the clitoris. Dining room tables and bed frames may be involved... 

Listen with care as Ruby and Meg also briefly discuss FGM. If you have been affected by FGM, the NHS offers information and support: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/female-genital-mutilation-fgm/national-fgm-support-clinics/ 

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• OMGYES: https://www.omgyes.com/join  

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Wondering if a sex party is for you? Ruby and Meg chat to Logan Star who has been in the sex party and play party space for eight years. Logan created the organisation Little Black Book, which used to run sex parties and now supports people who want to set up their own play parties.

Ruby, Meg and Logan get to the bottom of the difference between a sex party, a play party and a fetish party. They talk about what happens at these parties and how consent and aftercare works. They also speak about how to find parties like these, in the first place! As well as sharing some stories of their own…

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Follow Logan on socials @iamloganstar

Follow Little Black Book on socials @littleblackbookparty

Logan’s recommendations:

• Ethically Non Monogamous Fam London: @enmfamlondon 
• ENM Fam calendar: https://teamup.com/ks2ujdfgkxiyjmkhf1
• Logan recommendations of sex parties:

1. Quench 

https://www.quenchlondon.co.uk/ 

https://www.instagram.com/quench_london?igsh=MXNnaDFubnMxNXE3Nw== 

2. Riot Party

https://riotparty.co.uk/ 

https://www.instagram.com/riotpartyuk?igsh=d2pqNnp3M3hxbHZo 

3. Dominium Vita

https://dominiumvita.com/ 

https://www.instagram.com/dominiumvitaevents?igsh=MXhzb3h6bXVjZHd3NQ== 

4. One Night Parties

https://www.onenightparties.com/ 

https://www.instagram.com/onenightparties?igsh=MTN5c2NmejhvNTdvdg== 

5. Scene

https://www.sceneldn.uk/

https://www.instagram.com/sceneldn?igsh=eWYzczMwaXR6MHc5 

6. Pinky Promise

https://www.pinkypromiseland.co.uk/ 

https://www.instagram.com/pinkypromise.world?igsh=eTFhdjZ5c3Rxejly 

7. Lucid

https://www.instagram.com/lucid_sober_events?igsh=MTJkYTI1ejRoMzNnYQ== 

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Consent is the bedrock of sexual interactions but so many of us have had experiences that we have not consented to. 

This is a vulnerable episode where Ruby and Meg share some of their personal experiences with consent and talk about damaging narratives around consent - something that isn’t spoken about openly enough. 

Please listen with care. Ruby and Meg spend significant time talking about rape and sexual assault.

If you have experienced rape or sexual assault, the NHS has guidance around how to find help and support. (https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/help-after-rape-and-sexual-assault/)    

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do we shy away from messy emotions? Meg and Ruby get into the nitty gritty of jealousy - an emotion that’s often labelled as “ugly” or “shameful”.  

Meg and Ruby talk about their experiences of being cheated on and how that can impact feeling jealous in relationships. “Mystic Meg” even had a dream about being cheated on which turned out to be true! Ruby opens up about jealousy in non-monogamous relationships and together they chat about ways of communicating jealousy to other people in a constructive way. Healthy stuff!  

Do you experience jealousy in relationships? Have you found a good way of communicating how you’re feeling? Get in touch and let us know! 

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:

• Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook, which has chapters on jealousy and constructive conversation: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook 
• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have been gagging for an episode full of your sex questions and stories and finally here it is! Ruby and Meg de-stigmatise a listener’s kink - wanting to watch his partner have sex with someone else - and discuss the “cuck” chair in hotel rooms. (You’ll never be able to see a hotel room in the same way again). Ruby and Meg get deep talking through a listener question about whether BDSM should be on the sex ed curriculum. And we settle in for story time as a listener message transports us back to a noughties hip hop night where a bandana-fuelled hook up ended in bloody bed sheets. It’s a wild ride. You’re welcome!   

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Wondering if you should open up your relationship or try out polyamory? You’re not alone! More and more people seem to be having this conversation. 

Ruby and Meg get into what it truly means to be non-monogamous. Ruby shares what her life looks like as a solo polyamorous babe and Meg contemplates whether non-monogamy could ever be for her. They chat about what it means to build relationships outside of the “norm” and why we’re taught to believe that love can run out. A hot Countdown collab is floated with (non-monogamous?) Carol Vorderman. Plus plot twist - Meg wonders whether she could date Ruby’s dad…

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Resources:

• Non-monogamy quiz from: https://www.askdiem.com/post/the-beginner-s-guide-to-opening-up-your-relationship-part-1  

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:

• Ruby’s new book! The Non-Monogamy Playbook https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook 
• The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix  
• Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson
• How to understand your relationship by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi (Pub. 2025) 

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Merry Christmas from Ruby and Meg! We'll be back with a full episode of The Ins and Outs on 2nd Jan

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Buckle up as Ruby and Meg reveal their Hinge and Feeld dating profiles, offering each other (and you listeners!) dating app tips along the way. 

We hear about Ruby and Meg’s best and weirdest dating app stories - from Ruby’s first date at a sex party to Meg’s phase of dating furiously to get a ‘festive boyfriend’. They laugh about creating romantic fantasies about people before and after dates - “what will my wedding speech be like?!” And Meg prepares for a first date TONIGHT! Also… where is the Grindr for girls please?? 

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stress can be a b**ch for us and our sex lives. 

Ruby and Meg share what happens to their sexual desire when they’re stressed, Ruby reveals the science behind stress and they both share their tips for how to deal with stress impacting your sex life. Meg also petitions for a national holiday where only hibernation and self-love slobbing is allowed. Sounds great, no?!

Email the podcast: [email protected]

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.