Seerut K. Chawla, an integratic psychotherapist discusses about the dangers of cancel culture and of “Instagram therapy”. 

In this episode, Seerut and Shaun talk about the problems with dating in the modern world, why older men date younger women and the idea of being a forever-student.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How consistency and hard work trump talent and the fallacy of the "overnight success"

Where to find Seerut:

Seerut on Instagram

Seerut’s webiste

Seerut on Twitter

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Today's question comes from Stephanie. [edited for brevity's sake]

"I just recently met a guy on Saturday. We met and had an instant connection, hung out all day, and ended up having sex. Do you think that that screws up the beginning of a relationship? "

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Couples coach Lane Allison talks about conflict resolution, relationships and intimacy in this episode. She explains different approaches for how to resolve conflicts with your partner(s). 

Shaun and Lane open up about previous relationships, cheating, and choosing between taking breaks or breaking up.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• Practical techniques for de-escalating conflicts with your partner(s)

Where to find Ilana:

Lane on Instagram

Lane on Tik Tok

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Ilana Dunn, the host of ‘Seeing Other People’ podcast, talks about modern dating, her experiences, and advice. She answers dating questions, from getting to know new people to understand when a relationship has come to an end.

Shaun and Ilana discuss deal breakers in relationships, how to not overthink being single, and share past dating experiences

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How to be friends with your ex and date other people

Where to find Ilana:

Ilana’s “Seeing other people” podcast on Spotify and Apple

Her podcast on Instagram

Ilana on Instagram 

Ilana on Tik Tok

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Today's question comes from Ivy. [edited for brevity's sake]

"I caught my partner of two years on dating apps and meeting up with other women. Can somebody who habitually lies ever truly change your opinion and what they might have to do to make that change fully?"

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Today's question comes from Sam. [edited for brevity's sake]

"I am HIV-positive, and I've been on treatment and undetectable for several years. I'm just starting to date new guys again, and I'm having a really difficult time with the disclosure conversation. I'm not public with my status, and there's a lot of stigmas out there for HIV. So these conversations just make me really nervous. Do you have any advice or tips on having tough conversations like this?"

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Today's question comes from Jessica from Dallas, TX. [edited for brevity's sake]

"I asked out a friend at work via instant message, and he ignored me. We have to see each other at work all the time. We had a good rapport. There was some flirting, and I was really prepared for any response except being ignored. So what should I do? Should I approach him, or should I let it go? "

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Today's question comes from Michaela from Vancouver, BC.

Michaela's question [edited for brevity's sake]

"Is it OK for men to have female friends? I'm talking to a guy with several female friends, including an ex from years ago.

He thinks that it's all right to hang out one-on-one and stay in touch with them and that I should have no issue with it. 

Most men I talk to don't understand why I need boundaries around this. 

Help?"

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Today's question comes from Marie from Massachusetts.

Marie's question [edited for brevity's sake]

"I was broken up with by this guy that told me he wasn't ready for a relationship, and not even ten days after the breakup, he's back on dating apps. Should I reach out and confront him or just accept that as closure?"

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