Although dating coaches tend to emphasize compatibility over attraction, make no mistake: attraction is important. Good sex is important. And figuring out the blend between passion and comfort is the most important. In this episode, I walk you through the formula from Love U that has helped thousands of women find satisfying relationships – both physically and emotionally. No settling involved.

Even good relationships involve conflict and compromise. You know what it’s like to be with a guy who isn’t a fair fighter. He raises his voice. He shuts down. He hurls insults. He brings up other arguments. He doubles down and escalates the conflict even when he’s mistaken. You don’t want to be that guy. In this Love U Podcast, I share a communication technique that I learned twenty years ago that I still use today. This one is a relationship-saver.

When you’ve been hurt and disappointed, it’s easy to assume that the next guy is going to do the same. The problem is that not all men are bad. And if you’re dating a nice, commitment-oriented guy and treat him like a composite of all the jerks you’ve dated in the past, you’re never going to get a nice guy. In this podcast, I tell a powerful story about a client who came from an abusive background and is actively overcoming her trust issues in Love U.

You may find it annoying or triggering but it’s common for men to ask you why you’re still single. Instead of shutting down or overexplaining, it’s important to be able to answer this question with poise and confidence. If your reflexive answer to why you’re still single is “I just haven’t met the right guy,” you REALLY ought to listen to this. My advice will likely surprise you.

I know it should seem obvious but the fact that I recorded a podcast about it means that plenty of women still find married men alluring. In this episode, we’ll talk about why married men are often more romantic than single men AND 4 reasons why it absolutely doesn’t matter and you should run far, far away from any married guy who shows interest in you.

If you didn’t have a healthy nuclear family with loving married parents, its likely that you formed an attachment style that is either anxious or avoidant. But what happens when your anxiety turns into avoidance, and your avoidance turns into anxiety? This is something I see with women in Love U and a phenomenon that I felt was worth airing in today’s episode. Your past doesn’t have to predict your future; it just takes strength to make different choices with men.

My readers often ask me to create specific programs for them. “Why can’t you create something for women in their 60’s who are facing a smaller dating pool with men who are retired, widowed, unhealthy and dealing with erectile dysfunction?” The answer is that despite the unique challenges facing women of different ages, 95% of dating and relationship advice is universal. It’s about confidence, communication, boundaries, beliefs, and the skill of learning to be more effective in dating. But, as a man of the people, I’ve listened to you and put together this podcast highlighting the unique challenges of dating in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s. l hope this means I don’t have to create an entirely new program.

You know the narrative. Men suck. There are no good ones left. They’re all narcissists or losers or emotionally unavailable. The cute ones don’t want to settle down. The ones who want to settle down aren’t attractive. When you finally find one you like, the compromises are too great. I’m not here to argue with you. What I will say, as a happily married dating coach, is that you have two choices: accept him as he is or dump him. What you can’t do is stay in a relationship with a man who you’re constantly criticizing and wanting to change. My take: if you can find one man on Earth you can fully accept, you’ll both be happy for the rest of your life.

My smart, successful clients have all loved and lost. Yet they recovered to rebuild their lives and fill it with meaningful work, travel, hobbies and friendship. Today’s question is whether this is enough. Is being happy alone a condition for finding love or is a trap that allows you to stay alone indefinitely? What’s the benefit of lasting love when being single is better than being in a bad relationship? In this Love U Podcast, I do my best to explain.

While it’s easy to get mad at guys who overvalue youth and beauty, the truth is that you need more than looks to be with a quality man. In fact, quality men are all about how you make them FEEL. If your default behavior in relationships is to feel anxious and critical of your partner, it’s time to choose better men and make a big shift in how you show up. It’s a challenging concept but one that is very much worth your while. Plus, I tear up when I read a Valentine’s Day card from my wife, so that’s always fun.