The Mark Groves Podcast

I am so excited to bring a double dose of Mark this week as I welcome best selling author Mark Manson. Mark Manson has been an influential figure in my life and I’m sure many of you are also followers of his work — I mean who hasn’t read his book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”? Mark and I jam on some common challenges we both saw in our relationship coaching work. We also reflect on the idea of “doing the work” and how this can really become a sticking point for people in opening up to change. So often, the challenges we face and the things that we get stuck on are the same. We are all living different experiences, but so many of our biggest problems are the same. If you haven't already seen his work you will want to check it out https://markmanson.net/

 

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This episode is especially vulnerable for me. I recognize that we are all coping with an incredibly difficult time in different ways right now. There is so much fear, uncertainty and distress that makes compassion and connection so much more difficult. Today I ask if you can hold space too? Holding space does not mean we must agree or arrive at a consensus, it means we still have compassion even when we feel differently than one another. So I ask not how are we different, but how we are similar?

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Discover:

When you're open to the way you see the world, you're free

Can you hold space for other people's beliefs?

What if you just stayed open?

Why we should agree to the right to see things differently

How to create harmony within yourself during challenging times

What life is here to teach us

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I’m so excited to bring you Professor of Management and Organizational Psychologist Payal Sharma to the podcast. Payal is an expert on politics and power in the workplace and today she takes us on a journey through her incredible work in understanding how power relations impact us at work. We get into the tricky business of how gender intersects with power at work, and nerd out on the research around what makes a good leader. We also dive into her research around music video models. If you have ever wanted to understand more about leadership and power, do not miss this episode! Find out more about Payal’s work at http://power.faculty.unlv.edu/

 

 

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I’m so excited to bring you the story of my friend, author and chef Yoda Olinyk. Yoda walks us through the story of her past. How food and her love for cooking saved her from the most dark and trying moments. How suffering opened up a new world of wisdom for her. How a unaligned relationship slowly turned into a cycle of emotional abuse and how she ultimately rose from the ashes, finding her love and commitment to herself and her cooking again. 

 

Find her online at https://instagram.com/yodaswords?igshid=2kwq76b3l10c

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When we are facing disconnection in our relationships, we often perceive major barriers blocking us from communicating. Often, we preempt the other person's negative response. We assume the other person is unable or unwilling to hear us, and as a result, we become defensive, withdrawn or over-express ourselves. What if instead, we trusted that other people have the capacity to really listen? What if we communicated our needs without preempting their response? What if we claimed our voice and used it regardless of anyone else’s ability to show up. What if we showed up for ourselves first? 

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Discover:

How to know when you have unhealthy programs running

What beliefs are still lingering that keep you in your old story?

What is the most important quality in relationship?

Why we need to stop subcontracting our healing 

The victory is always in the process not the outcome

Speaking your truth, having courage, and being everything you want

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Join me as I bring you a grounding meditation. This is all about getting in touch with the anchors and the ground that forms the foundation below our feet. In times of crisis or upheaval, it's natural that we feel like we lose touch with the ground. This week's episode is all about getting us back in touch with the ground. Back into flow state and authenticity. It's so difficult to do right now, but it's so important that we take the time to do this.

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In this special episode I answer your recent questions around boundaries, feeling disconnected, deal breakers, betrayal and loss. Through these questions we dive into open relationships, having ‘one foot out the door’ and facing hard truths. I also walk you through my recent thoughts on coping with Covid-19, how we can stay grounded and how we can support one another during this crisis.

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Discover:

Covid, isolation, dating, and why a collective pause is good for us

Relationship Q&A with Mark

Walls vs. dealbreakers

Fate doesn't work unless you do

Emotional cheating with friends

Worthiness, boundaries, and speaking your truth

Why integrity should be our #1

Betrayal, infidelity and repair

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I’m so happy to bring you my dear friend Dr. Robert Graham to discuss the Covid-19 pandemic. Rob is a Harvard trained Physician and doctor of integrative medicine. In this episode, Rob skillfully breaks down the myths and misconceptions about coronavirus. He walks us through some key principles to stay safe and his fresh medicine perspective to stay physically and mentally well during this pandemic. Find Dr Rob Graham on his website https://www.freshmednyc.com/ and his Instagram https://www.instagram.com/freshmednyc/

Dr. Graham is a Harvard trained physician, Board Certified in both Internal and Integrative Medicine and has over 15 years of clinical experience. Dr. Graham received his medical degree from the School of Medicine at Stony Brook University Medical Center, Stony Brook, NY and completed his residency in Internal Medicine at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, where he received the Community Service Award and subsequently the prestigious “Attending of the Year” award.  

 

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“Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans,” John Lennon’s famous lyrics are so apt for the uncertainty we are facing in the world. So much of what we thought, planned, or hoped for has been quashed by the reality that nothing is ever truly certain. This epidemic has brought up so many fears, anxieties and responses. I want this episode to explore our humanness but also acknowledge that jumping into spiritualizing can be a bypass of the uncomfortable reality that this pandemic is doing real harm to so many people. While we are both physically distanced and living with this uncertainty, our community and our connections are so important. I hope this episode leaves you feeling more connected.

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Discover:

Why increasing our tolerance for uncertainty is part of our expansion and growth

When we are stripped of everything, what matters most?

Where else do we run from discomfort?

The domino effect of disconnection and control

The 5 most common regrets

The greatest gift of facing death

You never lose love

 

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Do you feel like your dating life is stale, or even toxic? Today’s guest is going to be a breath of fresh air for you. Michelle Herzog is a relationship expert, sex therapist and LMFT who is here to break down exactly what toxic dating culture means. In this episode we work through Tinder dating, gender roles, paying for first dates, to casual sex, and how to be ethical in dating. Most importantly, we break down how we can shift to take the lead in our dating life, declare our own needs, and end connections with kindness. Ultimately, we can turn a toxic dating culture into a healing one. This episode will show you how!

Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist with advanced training from Northwestern University and the University of Michigan. She is an ethical dating advocate and utilizes a no BS approach towards educating and empowering people to craft values-based dating, relationship, and sexual experiences. Michelle is a true believer in the power of therapy and its ability to transform people's relationships with themselves and the ones they love.

Michelle is the owner of the Center for Mindful Living, a relationship and sex therapy practice based in Chicago. Her specialized work is rooted in her personal belief system that everyone deserves a healthy and deeply pleasurable sex life. She can be contacted at: 

Website: www.liveandlovemindfully.com Instagram: @chicagosextherapy 

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Discover:

Will you hold for the things you want?

The modern times of "flea-bagging" "zombie-ing," "ghosting", and "bread crumbing"

Where we are losing accountability on dating apps

The connection between tolerating behaviors and the worth you hold

Paying on the first date dilemma

The power of feeling seen in relationship

Why is need to text like a drug?!

If you loved yourself in this situation, what would you do?

The deep truths hidden inside grief

How do we take control of our dating experience?

Ignoring the truth and self-abandonment

Communication and expectations around your needs

What is healthy shame?

 

 

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