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   Number 1: How To Deal With Toxic Shame

   Do you struggle with shame? Are you looking for healthy ways of working through? Trying to up your self-esteem? In this podcast, Dr. John explores the issue of toxic shame and explains: 1. What shame is 2. How it manifests psychologically and physiologically 3. Concrete steps for working through See Show Notes for specifics on this topic and links to helping resources.

   December 28, 2019·24min
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   Number 2: How To Create a Circle of Confidence - A Hypnotic Meditation

   Struggle with self-esteem? Looking to increase your level of confidence? Need to be more assertive? In this episode, Dr. Moore guides you through a guided imagery meditation through self-hypnosis. Affirmations are included to help boost feelings of self worth. Learn how to create your personal circle of confidence and experience inner strength. To learn more, visit this post from Moore's website on Creating a Circle of Confidence. If you like this podcast, please leave a review. Your feedback is greatly appreciated.

   November 26, 2019·13min
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   Number 3: Sleep Hypnosis

   Trouble sleeping? Learn a new skill by engaging in self-hypnosis with this guided meditation. Train your body to relax and fall into a deeper, more meaningful sleep.

   May 26, 2019·16min
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   Number 4: Is Your Sex Drive Different Than Your Partner's?

   What happens when you want sex more often than your partner—or when your partner seems to want it more than you do? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John is joined by Guy Counseling contributing writer Jack for a candid conversation about mismatched sex drives in relationships. They explore why differences in sexual desire are so common and why they don't necessarily mean there's something wrong with your relationship. The conversation also gets into stress and libido, feeling rejected when your partner says no, and an important distinction that often gets overlooked: wanting sex and being comfortable initiating sex aren't necessarily the same thing. John and Jack also tackle a question plenty of couples probably wonder about but may not talk about openly: Can masturbation help when partners have different sex drives, and where does adult video fit into the picture? Other topics include scheduling intimacy, sexual "accelerators" and "brakes," nonsexual touch, emotional safety, and approaching sex as an invitation rather than a demand. 📚 Book Recommendation The Sex-Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis Dr. John recommends this book for its real-world look at couples struggling with significant differences in sexual desire and the ways those differences can affect intimacy and relationships. Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hEUzoL As an Amazon Associate, we may earn from qualifying purchases. 🔗 Resources & Further Reading How to Handle Mismatched Libidos in a Relationship — AskMen The article that helped spark today's conversation, exploring desire discrepancies and ways couples can navigate them. https://www.askmen.com/dating/relationship-advice/how-to-handle-mismatched-libidos-in-a-relationship.html How Stress Can Lead to Low Libido — Verywell Mind More about the relationship between chronic stress and reduced sexual desire. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-stress-can-lead-to-low-libido-3145029 Why Your Girlfriend Never Initiates Sex — Guy Counseling Dr. John explores why rarely initiating sex doesn't necessarily mean someone lacks sexual desire or attraction. My girlfriend never initiates sex Contact The Show If you would like to contact the show with a question or submit a listener email, you can visit the pod's website Guy Counseling. Use this link for the contact form. Keep in mind we get a lot of email and not all questions will be featured on the pod. When you write, please let us know if we have your permission to feature your question. Identifying information may be changed to protect privacy. Affiliate & Sponsor Disclosure This episode may include paid sponsorships or affiliate links. If you make a purchase, sign up for a service, or take another qualifying action through one of these links, The Men's Self-Help Podcast may receive compensation at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Sponsors and recommended resources may vary by episode. Follow On Social Media 👉 Facebook Guy Counseling 👉 Instagram Guy Counseling Support the Show ☕ If you've found value in this podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can do so through Buy Me a Coffee. Your support helps cover production costs, hosting, editing, and future episodes of The Men's Self-Help Podcast. 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp What does it actually look like when a man has his life in order? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore draws on more than two decades of clinical experience in men's work to break down ten habits shared by men who are genuinely grounded — not the Instagram version, but the real thing. From defining success on your own terms to protecting your sleep, maintaining friendships, and knowing when to ask for help, these are the habits that hold up under pressure. Dr. John draws on his clinical experience as a licensed therapist in Chicago to bring each one to life with honesty, humor, and a few unexpected detours along the way. Whether you're already doing a few of these or starting from scratch, this episode offers a practical roadmap you can begin using this week. Sponsor The Men's Self-Help Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month of therapy. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. Contact (1997) — Trailer Referenced in the discussion of Habit 2, keeping promises to yourself. Directed by Robert Zemeckis and starring Jodie Foster. Watch the trailer on YouTube The Insomnia Breakthrough by Katherine Coleman Recommended in the discussion of Habit 4, protecting your sleep. Dr. John has recommended this book to clients over the years with strong results. https://amzn.to/4fVTVC0 The Harvard Study of Adult Development Referenced in the discussion of Habit 7, maintaining relationships. This long-running study has followed participants across decades and has highlighted the importance of strong relationships for long-term health and well-being. Learn more about the Harvard Study of Adult Development Thought Court Worksheet Want to challenge an unhelpful thought and look at it from a more balanced perspective? Dr. John created a free Thought Court worksheet you can download and use on your own. The accompanying Guy Counseling guide walks you through the exercise step by step. No signup. No email address. No strings attached. Just grab it and use it if it's helpful. 👉 https://guycounseling.com/thought-court-cbt-exercise/ Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you'd like me to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show — Buy Me a Coffee! If you're enjoying The Men's Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy me a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Follow on Social Media 👉 Facebook — Guy Counseling https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/ 👉 Instagram — Guy Counseling https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1 Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.

   August 25, 2026·12min
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   Number 5: Stop Musterbating Everywhere! How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself

   How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself Do you constantly tell yourself you should be doing better, that you must have everything figured out, or that life ought to be different? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the psychology of musterbation — the rigid musts, shoulds, and oughts that can put enormous pressure on us and make it harder to deal with everyday life. The concept comes from psychologist Albert Ellis and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). You'll discover how this kind of rigid self-talk can quietly fuel anxiety, guilt, anger, shame, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion. Dr. John walks through a practical three-step approach for challenging these destructive internal rules and replacing them with more flexible ways of thinking. You'll also hear from Matt, a listener who isn't sure he's ready to marry the woman he's been dating. Dr. John discusses the difference between outside pressure and genuine readiness, why unresolved conflict deserves attention, and how premarital counseling can help couples approach one of life's biggest decisions with greater clarity. Whether you're struggling with perfectionism, relationships, negative self-talk, or impossible expectations, this episode offers practical psychological tools you can begin using today. In This Episode What psychologist Albert Ellis meant by "musterbation" How musts, shoulds, and oughts can create unnecessary emotional pressure The basics of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) How rigid thinking can contribute to anxiety, guilt, anger, and shame Why perfectionism often involves unrealistic internal rules How to identify the musts and shoulds hiding in your self-talk A practical three-step approach for challenging rigid beliefs How to replace demands with more flexible thinking The difference between relationship pressure and genuine readiness for marriage How premarital counseling can help couples make more informed decisions Sponsor Today's episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Head to https://betterhelp.com/guycounseling to get 10% off your first month with our sponsor, BetterHelp. Therapy can be a meaningful space to reflect, grow, and create positive change in your life. Resources Mentioned Some of the links below are affiliate links. If you make a qualifying purchase through one of these links, Guy Counseling may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you. Thank you for helping support the independent production of this podcast. ABC Model for REBT Worksheet — Therapist Aid Use this worksheet to explore the ABC model commonly associated with REBT and examine the connection between beliefs and emotional or behavioral consequences. ABC Model for REBT Worksheet Example Premarital Counseling Program Learn what couples typically discuss during a structured premarital counseling program, including communication, conflict resolution, finances, intimacy, family expectations, and future planning. Chicago Premarital Counseling Program Before You Say "I Do" by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts A resource for couples considering marriage and thinking through important questions before making a lifelong commitment. Find it on Amazon Have a Question for the Podcast? Have a question you'd like Dr. John to answer on a future episode? Send it through the Guy Counseling contact form: https://guycounseling.com/contact-us/ If your question is selected, identifying details may be changed to protect your privacy, and it may be read using a synthesized voice. Support the Show If you're enjoying The Men's Self-Help Podcast and would like to help support its independent production, you can buy Dr. John a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/mensselfhelp Disclaimer This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care, diagnosis, or treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for individualized support. Production Notes Written and produced by Dr. John Moore, with Joel Oliver (audio) and editorial contributors. Artwork by Adobe Firefly; sounds by Pixabay. Episodes may combine live recording, voice models, and synthesized audio for listener questions, production efficiency, and contributor privacy.

   August 18, 2026·23min
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