FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

The Mindset of a Cheating Man: Why Men Cheat & Their Justifications


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“Pain may explain behavior, but it never justifies harm.” — Lora Cheadle

What’s really going on inside the mindset of a cheating man? Why do men betray the ones they love—and then create endless justifications for cheating? In this episode, betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle exposes the truth: cheating is never about you. It’s about their fragile need for validation, their desire to numb pain, their sense of entitlement, and unresolved trauma.

By breaking down the difference between reasons and justifications, and unpacking shocking statistics about infidelity, this conversation frees you from shame and isolation. Because while cheating may be explainable, it is never justifiable.

Top 3 Takeaways:

  1. The shocking truth about justification: Cheaters don’t give reasons—they invent justifications to make themselves feel okay about doing something they know is wrong. This changes everything about how you interpret what he says.
  2. Cheating as numbing, not desire: Affairs aren’t about attraction or sex. They’re often about avoiding failure, loneliness, or unresolved pain. Cheating is a maladaptive coping strategy—another way to not feel.
  3. The delusional mindset revealed: From childhood trauma to fragile egos, many cheating men live in a self-created fantasy world where betrayal feels “necessary.” Understanding this breaks the shame cycle and helps you reclaim your power.
  4. Favorite Quote:

    “The mindset of a cheating man is simple: he’s not looking for truth, he’s looking for a justification.” — Lora Cheadle

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