We enter relationships with an idea of what it will be like, thinking that we know the person we are with. This excitement often overshadows incompatibilities that are present in the relationship. Our desperation to belong, causes us to modify ourselves. We attempt to modify ourselves in order to ‘fit’ together or we try to get the other person to ‘fit’ to us. Teal explains this relationship tendency in-depth so that you can recognize it when you or someone else is stuck in it.