The PedsDocTalk Podcast: Child Health, Development & Parenting—From a Pediatrician Mom

Motherhood is often painted as pure joy, endless patience, and unconditional love.

But what about the moments of frustration? The resentment? The overwhelm? The quiet thought of, “I love my child… but this is really hard.”

In this episode, I sit down with psychotherapist Dr. Margo Lowy to talk about maternal ambivalence – the completely normal experience of holding love and difficult emotions at the same time. We unpack the difference between ambivalence and indifference, why so many mothers feel guilt for being human, and how naming these emotions actually strengthens connection rather than weakens it.

If you’ve ever questioned yourself because motherhood didn’t feel magical 100 percent of the time, this conversation will feel like exhaling.

We discuss:

• What maternal ambivalence really means and why it’s misunderstood • Why loving your child and feeling frustrated can coexist • The myth of the “perfect, selfless mother” • How social media fuels unrealistic expectations • Why naming difficult emotions reduces shame • The power of community and choosing supportive voices • How humor and lightness protect us in hard seasons • Why responding instead of reacting changes everything • The importance of modeling emotional honesty for our children

To connect with Dr. Margo Lowy follow her on Instagram @drmargolowy, check out all her resources at https://drmargolowy.com/ and buy her book: https://go.shopmy.us/p-65451965 (paid link)

00:00 – Intro: Why Difficult Feelings in Motherhood Matter

01:21 – Introducing Dr. Margo Lowy and Maternal Ambivalence

02:57 – What Maternal Ambivalence Actually Means

06:00 – Ambivalence vs Indifference: A Critical Difference

07:49 – The Myth of the Perfect, Selfless Mother

09:08 – Why Suppressing Difficult Emotions Backfires

11:01 – Letting Go of Perfection in Parenting

13:09 – The Moment You Realize Your Child Is Separate From You

17:08 – Do Fathers Experience Parenting Ambivalence Too?

19:03 – Why Parenting Plans Rarely Go as Expected

22:49 – The Power of Community and Support in Motherhood

29:11 – Social Media and the Pressure to Be the “Perfect Mom”

33:30 – How Accepting Imperfection Strengthens Parenting

43:16 – Naming Ambivalence and Finding Compassion for Yourself

49:22 – Final Takeaway: Why Naming Your Feelings Changes Everything

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A question I get often is: “How do I know if EMDR might be right for me?”

In this episode, we break down what EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) actually is, who it can help, and what a session really looks like.

Originally developed to treat PTSD, EMDR is now used to support people struggling with birth trauma, childhood experiences, anxiety, panic, phobias, depression, parenting triggers, and more. You do not need a formal diagnosis to benefit from it. Many parents come in simply feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or triggered in ways they do not fully understand.

We discuss:

• How trauma and intense experiences are stored in the brain

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In this solo episode, I reflect on a question that stopped me in my tracks: Why am I not worthy of my own love? Inspired by the passing of James Van Der Beek and a clip that deeply moved me, this conversation opens up a bigger discussion about self-love, self-worth, and how both begin taking shape in childhood.

As a pediatrician and mom, I share why helping our children build a strong sense of worth may be one of the most important things we ever do. We talk about how unconditional love, emotional validation, secure attachment, and the way we speak to our kids, and ourselves, all shape the inner voice they carry for life. I also explore how comparison, shame, performance-based praise, and dismissed emotions can quietly chip away at self-worth over time.

What I discuss:

Why self-love and self-worth begin forming in childhood

How unconditional love helps children feel secure and worthy

The link between secure attachment and lifelong self-worth

Why tying worth to grades, behavior, or achievement can backfire

How dismissed emotions can shape a child’s inner voice

The harm of comparison, and what to say instead

Why kids learn self-love by watching how we treat ourselves

Small ways parents can model self-compassion at home

How the way we speak to our children becomes the way they speak to themselves

00:00 Intro, The Inner Voice Kids Carry for Life

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We talk a lot about maternal mental health postpartum. But we do not talk enough about dads.

In this episode, my husband joins me for an honest conversation about paternal mental health, birth trauma, pressure, and what it felt like to become a father while navigating medical complications and the early days of the pandemic.

We discuss the silent expectations placed on fathers to be “the strong one,” to go back to work quickly, to provide, and to hold everything together — often without anyone asking how they are actually doing.

This episode is about normalizing the fact that postpartum mental health affects both parents.

We talk about:

• Why paternal mental health is often overlooked

• The impact of traumatic birth experiences on dads

• The pressure to return to work quickly, especially in medicine

• Sleep deprivation, financial stress, and identity shifts

• How the pandemic intensified anxiety for healthcare workers

• Why therapy is not just for crisis, but for maintenance

• Reparenting yourself while parenting your children

• How prioritizing mental health makes you a more present partner and parent

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This week on The PedsDocTalk Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Lucky Sekhon, board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, infertility specialist, OB-GYN, and author of The Lucky Egg, for a conversation about the fertility basics so many adults were never actually taught. We talk about the fertility knowledge gap, what ovulation really means, how to time intercourse more effectively, and when it may be time to stop waiting and get support.

We also get into one of the biggest misconceptions people hear all the time, that every fertility treatment is IVF. Dr. Sekhon breaks down the difference between cycle tracking, medicated IUI, and IVF, and explains what the fertility workup is actually looking at, from ovulation and uterine structure to sperm factors and age-related egg quality.

We discuss:

• Why so many adults reach the point of trying to conceive without really understanding fertility

• Signs in your cycle that may be worth paying attention to earlier • Why the fertile window is smaller than many people realize

• Why temperature tracking alone may miss the best timing

• What ovulation predictor kits are actually picking up

• What lifestyle habits may help support fertility

• The difference between prenatal vitamins, folic acid, and fertility supplements

• When to see a fertility specialist based on age, cycle regularity, and how long you’ve been trying

• How IVF differs from IUI and other treatment options

• The emotional reality of infertility and secondary infertility

To connect with Dr. Lucky Sekhon follow her on Instagram @lucky.sekhon check out all her resources at https://theluckyegg.com and buy her new book: https://go.shopmy.us/p-65452485 (paid link)

00:00 IVF myths and the truth about IVF babies

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Bringing home a new baby can feel equal parts joyful and overwhelming. In this Follow Up episode, I revisit a favorite past conversation, I Just Had a Baby, Now What?, and share practical newborn guidance through the lens of both a pediatrician and a mom.

We talk about what newborns really need in the early weeks, how to recognize common cues for hunger, sleep, and interaction, and why simple routines like feeding, diaper changes, tummy time, and cuddles matter more than perfection. I also share insights from a recent parent survey in partnership with Angelcare and Diaper Genie about the products and routines families say helped them most in those early months.

I discuss:

What the fourth trimester means

The core needs of a newborn

Reading hunger, sleep, and play cues

Why babies cry, and it is not always hunger

Feeding on demand in the early weeks

Simple routines that support connection

Easy ways to engage your newborn

Why holding your baby does not spoil them

How to ease stress in the newborn stage

To learn more about Angelcare and Diaper Genie products visit https://diapergenie.com

and https://angelcarebaby.com. And don’t forget to follow @angelcare and @diapergenieofficial

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Parents carry their past into their parenting, often without realizing it. In this episode, I sit down with relationship therapist and author Eli Harwood to talk about how emotional baggage forms, how it quietly shows up in the way we respond to our kids, and what it actually looks like to break those patterns in real time. We get honest about triggers, shame, defensiveness, and the parts of ourselves we learned to tuck away long before we ever had children.

Eli breaks down how emotional inheritance works, why our bodies react before our brains catch up, and how to shift from reactive parenting to connected parenting. This isn’t about perfection or never getting activated. It’s about noticing, pausing, and choosing something different so our kids don’t have to carry what we never had support for. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I passing this on?”, this conversation will help you see the patterns with compassion and give you tools to change the story.

What we talk about:

Why emotional baggage forms and how it shows up in parenting

How your childhood coping strategies become adult triggers

The difference between reacting and responding

Why kids activate the parts of us we haven’t healed

How shame keeps patterns going

Practical steps to interrupt the cycle

Why slowing down is the most powerful parenting tool

How to repair with your child when you slip into old patterns

To connect with Eli Harwood follow her on Instagram @attachmentnerd, check out all her resources at https://www.attachmentnerd.com/ and buy her book “How to Deal with Your ___ So Your Kids Don’t Have To: https://go.shopmy.us/p-65452604 (paid link)

00:00 – The Core Idea: Kids Feel What We Don’t Heal

05:23 – From Secure Kids to Secure Parents

09:18 – The Five Gifts of a Secure Parent
14:06 – Showing Up Without Making Kids the Burden
23:14 – When Your Stuff Spills Out

25:58 – Hidden Baggage: Denial, Over-Apologizing, and Self-Doubt

27:28 – Bias, Blind Spots, and Long-Term Connection

36:40 – Emotional Maturity in Real Life

41:17 – “I Want Mommy”: Rejection and Attachment Preferences

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Sleep training can feel like a lightning rod topic, especially when it comes to the cry it out method.

In this episode, I talk with a mom who used extinction sleep training with both of her sons at different ages. She shares what it actually looked like night by night, why other methods did not work for her family, and how sleep training ultimately changed their home for the better.

In this conversation, we cover:

• What the extinction method actually looks like

Want more? Listen to the full, original episode called Momma Needs Some Sleep! How different moms approached sleep-training where we discuss various approaches to sleep-training.

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Friendship heartbreak hits differently when it’s your child. In this episode, I sit down with child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman to talk about bullying, boundaries, rejection, and what to say when your child feels left out. We dive into the moments that trigger us as parents, especially when their pain mirrors our own childhood wounds, and how to respond with steadiness instead of panic.

If you’ve ever felt your chest tighten when your child says, “They don’t want to play with me,” this conversation is for you. We talk about helping kids define what a good friend actually is, building identity from the inside out, and supporting them through social struggles without bulldozing the situation or blaming them. This episode is about raising confident kids who know they are enough, even when friendships shift.

What we discuss:

• Why fifth grade and early adolescence can feel like a social turning point

• How to help kids define what a true friend looks like

• Why proximity friendships don’t always work long term

• The power of identity and “I am” statements

• How negative self talk creates a confidence feedback loop

• What to say when your child says they’re being bullied

• What not to do in the heat of the moment

• How to respond without escalating the situation

• Supporting social skill growth without labeling your child as the problem

• The importance of repair when we as parents don’t handle it perfectly

• Why parenting always offers a do over

To connect with Dr. Robyn Silverman follow her on Instagram @drrobynsilverman, check out all her resources at https://drrobynsilverman.com/ and buy her book “How to Talk To Kids About Anything”: https://go.shopmy.us/p-65452693 (paid link)

00:00 – When Friendship Hurts: The Question Every Parent Faces

01:10 – Meet Dr. Robyn Silverman: Helping Parents Navigate Hard Conversations

02:22 – Why Talking About Friendship and Bullying Matters

03:06 – The Childhood Experience That Inspired Dr. Silverman’s Work

07:08 – Teaching Kids What a Good Friend Actually Is

10:52 – Why Kids Stay in Friendships That Don’t Treat Them Well

12:28 – Helping Kids Find Friendships That Fit Who They Are

15:02 – How Self-Identity Shapes Social Confidence

19:47 – What To Do When Your Child Says They’re Being Bullied

21:13 – The First Words to Say When Your Child Opens Up

25:34 – Rebuilding Self-Worth After Friendship Rejection

27:11 – When Your Child Feels Like No One Wants to Be Their Friend

31:13 – Avoiding the Blame Trap When Kids Struggle Socially

33:37 – Parenting Is the Ultimate Do-Over

36:12 – A Simple Exercise to Help Kids Choose Better Friends

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If you’ve ever felt guilty for not entertaining your child 24/7, this conversation is going to feel like a deep exhale.

In this episode, we tackle one of the biggest modern parenting misconceptions: that good parents are constant playmates. Somewhere along the way, many of us absorbed the idea that we need to be fully engaged, fully available, and fully entertaining at all times. But that shift has come at a cost, both for kids and for parents.

We talk about why independent play is not neglect. It is developmental gold. When children play alone or without adult direction, they are practicing creativity, problem-solving, emotional regulation, and flexibility. That kind of play is not second best. It is often the highest level of developmental work they can do.

We also explore the other side of the equation. When adults skip meals, chores, work, or rest to constantly entertain their child, stress builds. Resentment builds. Exhaustion builds. That is not healthy for anyone.

In this episode, we cover:

✔️ Why you are not required to play all day

Want more? Listen to the full, original episode.

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We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on the ⁠PedsDocTalk Podcast Sponsorships⁠ page of the website.

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