The Perfectionism Project

If there's one thing perfectionists love doing, it's waiting. When we're waiting - we're not messing up! It's the safest way to avoid failure but also the surest way to create failure. Waiting just doesn't lead to success!

In this episode, I'm calling you out on this waiting game! Tune in to hear about the many ways that perfectionists waiting for the perfect time (including some more subtle ways) and what to do about it.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How to tell whether you're using lack of time as an excuse
• Why waiting for more money isn't the best strategy
• What to do if you're always researching and never feel like you know enough
• How waiting diminishes self-trust and self-confidence
• The best way to tell whether you're waiting for certainty
• What waiting for success looks like and why we've got the equation backwards
• What to do if you're waiting for different circumstances
• How to stop waiting for your friends and family to be more supportive

Featured In The Episode:

• Buy Perfect Blogger
• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here

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In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why you shouldn't try to figure out everything on your own, even though you're smart
• Whether fear and doubt is a sign you won't succeed
• The fears and doubts I had when I started blogging
• Why you need to give yourself permission to be successful
• Whether it's naive to think that you create find a career you love
• Why I'm updating Perfect Blogger and how to get the new version for free

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfect Blogger (registration closes at midnight (EDT) on 29 September 2019)
• Nicki Minaj documentary

I invested $10,000 to attend Tony Robbins' Business Mastery Seminar in Las Vegas and I couldn't be more grateful that I did! I learned so many new things, was reminded of important things I'm not doing and spent 5 days surrounded by ambitious, like-minded entrepreneurs. It was a dream come true!

In this episode, I'm sharing my 5 biggest takeaways from Tony Robbins' Business Mastery Seminar as well as how they've changed my business and weekly routine. I also talk about whether I'd recommend going and how I make the most of these intense events. Enjoy!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• What my weekly CEO routine looks like
• The difference between a business owner and a business operator
• Why more revenue won't solve all of your business problems
• The 7-step Story Brand framework that will help you reach your ideal customer with ease
• The lifecycle of a business and why it's so important to know which stage you're in
• How to guarantee that every investment in yourself will pay off
• The power of normalising your goals
• How I take action on what I learn about business seminars without feeling overwhelmed
• Whether I'd recommend attending Tony Robbins' Business Mastery Seminar

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Episode 133: 5 Practical Tips To Help You Take Better Notes
• Episode 137: Personal Growth Update August 2019
• Episode 248 of The Life Coach School Podcast: Superthinking
• Simply + Fiercely
• The Ikonns Podcast
• The E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber
• Building A Story Brand by Donald Miller

Perfectionists love leaving everything until the last minute. It allows them to blame procrastination for a poor outcome and feel extra smart if they manage to pull it all off. But waiting for the last minute is a dangerous habit, especially since most of the important things in life don't have a deadline!

This raises the question of whether perfectionists should rely on deadlines to become more productive and if so, how they should use them. So that's what I'm talking about in this episode!

Tune in to learn the real reason perfectionists do their best work under pressure, the different ways that deadlines help perfectionists and the most effective way to use deadlines to become more productive.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why I used to believe that I did my best work at the last minute
• The real reason perfectionists are more productive when they have an external deadline
• Whether deadlines are good or bad for perfectionists
• The important role that deadlines play in achieving goals
• How to use deadlines to become more productive

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Episode 73: How To Stop Putting Things Off Until The Last Minute
• Episode 89: How To Turn Any Goal Into A Realistic Action Plan
• Episode 141: 3 Signs You're Secretly Addicted To Chaos

While perfectionists want everything in their lives to be perfectly organised, the irony is that they actually stop themselves from creating this reality - without even realising it! And one of the reasons they do this is because of their secret addiction to chaos and drama.

Most perfectionists would swear that they want to avoid drama and chaos, so it can be confronting to realise that you might be manufacturing drama and chaos in your life. In this episode I'm talking about why we do this, 3 signs that you're secretly addicted to chaos and what to do about it.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why perfectionists can become addicted to chaos and drama
• The sneaky ways perfectionists create chaos and drama in their life
• The real reason you can't give up your procrastination habit
• How being disorganised is secretly serving you
• What to do if you're constantly complaining or worrying
• How to stop being addicted to chaos and drama

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Episode 88: 3 Surprising Causes of Procrastination
• Episode 97: How To Upgrade Your Habits Using Personal Rules

As perfectionists, we can be our own worst enemies. I know from experience! But over the last few years, I've learned how to be truly kind to myself when things aren't going to plan. In this episode, I'm sharing how I do it.

Featured In The Episode:

• Episode 87: How I Manage Anxious Thoughts

Have you been downgrading your goals so that you can avoid disappointment? If so, you're not alone. And I'm here to help!

In this episode, I'm talking about the important role that failure plays in personal growth and when you should choose failure over success. If you're smart, you've got a lot of potential and you're ticking all the boxes - and yet you never feel successful - this episode is for you.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How to choose growth and potential failure over success
• How I've been playing small to feel success
• Specific examples of how you might be playing small to feel successful
• The two kinds of failure and which one to pursue
• Why pursuing failure doesn't mean letting yourself off the hook
• How to identify the moments where you can choose growth over success

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Mindset by Carol Dweck
• Episode 42: What It's Really Like To Invest In Yourself
• Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential
• Episode 279 of The Life Coach School Podcast: Failure Tolerance

Getting started is one of the biggest challenges that perfectionists face. So in this episode, I'm sharing why it's so hard to get started and what to do about it!

I'm sharing the lessons I've personally learned when it comes to getting started, a powerful analogy that will make getting started easier than ever before plus practical things to do if you can't make yourself take that first step.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why we resist starting, even when it's something we genuinely want to do
• The question that always helps me get started and how to use it
• My journey with getting started
• An analogy that has helped me evaluate whether it's the right time to get started
• Why starting is better than researching
• What to do if you just can't get started

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Episode 16: What To Expect When You Start A Creative Project
• Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset
• Episode 131: How To Eliminate All-Or-Nothing Thinking
• Episode 134: How To Not Quit
• Episode 136: What Would This Look Like If It Were Easy?
• Joyride To Freedom Podcast with Lou Niedstadt

Every month, I record a personal growth update to help you get a feel for what personal development is *really* like when you're on the journey (hint: it's not rainbows and butterflies when you're doing the real work).

This month has been an incredible one. I started the month in Los Angeles, where I taught a business workshop, before heading to Las Vegas for Tony Robbins' Business Mastery event. I also officially started working full-time in my business and learned how to be productive from home. When I returned from the States, I got back into my exercise habit seamlessly (I'll tell you how in this episode) and

Tune in to hear what I've been getting up to, what I've been working on behind the scenes and some personal development inspo. I hope you find it helpful!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• What I learned from Tony Robbins' Business Mastery Event in Las Vegas
• What I got up to in Los Angeles and the biggest highlights
• Why I'll be doing more in-person events in the future (watch this space!)
• How to be productive from home
• My best tips on getting back into an exercise habit after you return from holidays
• What I'm reading at the moment

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Tony Robbins - Business Mastery
• Episode 116: Personal Growth Update May 2019
• Manifestation Babe
• JetSuiteX
• Episode 67: 4 Practical Ways To Transform Your Money Mindset
• Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset
• Episode 131: How To Eliminate All-Or-Nothing Thinking
• Good To Great by Jim Collins
• Jim Collins' Interview on The Tim Ferriss Show Podcast
• Building A Storybrand by Donald Miller
• A Million Miles In A Thousand Years by Donald Miller
• The Husband's Secret by Liane Moriarty

Until recently, I believed that success was hard. And that if it wasn't hard then it wasn't deserved.

But success doesn't have to be hard. In fact, for the majority of us, the only reason that success is hard is because we're overcomplicating it!

In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful journaling prompt that will help you create clarity and get out of your own way. I also dive into the hesitations that perfectionists have when using this question and make a few important distinctions that'll make this question your new best friend.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• The best question to ask yourself when you're starting a new project or habit
• The two biggest reasons perfectionists overcomplicate their lives
• How perfectionists use complexity as an excuse not to take action
• Why so many of us believe that we don't deserve success unless we worked hard for it
• The difference between ease and comfort
• A powerful journaling strategy
• How to use this journaling prompt in your everyday life

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• Tim Ferriss
• Episode 19: 3 Questions That Changed My Life
• Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential