The Perfectionism Project

There's a difference between intellectual knowledge and actually living what you know. A BIG difference. Which means that knowing about the growth mindset is not the same as having a growth mindset.

I've recorded many episodes on this topic before but thought it might be helpful to share 7 signs that you still have a fixed mindset. But just remember - having a fixed mindset is nothing to beat yourself up about. That's not the point of this episode! The point is to help you take your self-awareness to a deeper level so you can create the mindset and the life you want. Enjoy!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• What the fixed mindset is and the kind of life it creates
• 7 signs you have a fixed mindset and what to do about it
• Why being smart isn't something you should be aiming for
• The real reason you want everything to be natural and effortless
• How to stop fearing wasted effort
• What it takes to actually pursue your potential
• The quickest way to create a growth mindset

Featured In The Episode:

• Episode 10: The Fear of Wasting Effort
• Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset
• Episode 45: 10 Signs You're A Perfectionist
• Episode 57: 7 Differences Between High Achievers and Perfectionists
• Episode 93: Protecting Your Potential Versus Pursing Your Potential
• Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make
• Episode 118: Thoughts That Create A Growth Mindset

Personal development sounds very inspiring and glamorous. But the reality of personal development is that we're intentionally bringing up our fears and doubts so that we can overcome them - and that doesn't feel good!

In this episode, I'm sharing my advice on what to do when you feel like quitting. I hope you find it helpful and that it gives you the strength to keep going (because if you persist, you will succeed).

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• The difference between the discomfort of stagnation and the discomfort of growth
• How to persist through discomfort even when it's painful
• Why quitting won't make you feel better
• Why it's a good thing that personal development will never feel more comfortable
• The sneaky ways we quit on our goals to avoid disappointment

Featured In The Episode:

• Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential

Last week, I attended Tony Robbins' Business Mastery event in Las Vegas. It was absolutely incredible but there was A LOT of information to digest! In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how I take notes when I'm attending events like this as well as 5 practical tips to help you take better notes.

If you're putting time and effort into your personal development but you're not getting results, effective note taking could be a skill you need to work on. Tune in to learn the biggest mistakes perfectionists make with note taking and how to take action following an inspiring event (without the overwhelm).

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How to take better notes at conferences, events and workshops
• Why you shouldn't take notes the same way you took notes in school
• The biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with note taking
• How to avoid overwhelm and take action following an event
• Key mindset shifts that will help you make the most of what you learn
• Exactly how I take notes when I'm at a conference, event or workshop

Here's what my notes look like!

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Featured In The Episode:

• Tony Robbins - Business Mastery
• Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books

Before I understood what perfectionism *really* is, I thought it was a positive personality trait and I didn't think it was one I had. Perfectionists are neat, tidy and organised - right?

The more I talk about the perfectionist mindset, the more misconceptions I hear. So in this episode, I'm sharing some of the biggest misconceptions about perfectionism in the hope it'll make you a little more willing to let go of perfectionism and get into a growth mindset.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Whether perfectionists are neat, tidy and organised
• What perfectionism really is and where this way of thinking comes from
• Why perfectionism doesn't make us more successful
• How perfectionism actually stops us from achieving our goals, rather than helping us
• Why being a perfectionist doesn't mean you're broken
• The truth about whether it's possible to escape the perfectionist mindset for good

Featured In The Episode:

• Episode 45: 10 Signs You're A Perfectionist
• Episode 57: 7 Differences Between Perfectionists + High Achievers
• Episode 93: Pursuing Your Potential Versus Protecting Your Potential
• Episode 100: The 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make

One of the biggest signs that you have a perfectionist mindset is that you have an all-or-nothing approach to life. This means you're working out perfectly or you're not working out at all. You're meditating every day of the week or you're not meditating at all. You're taking massive action to build your business or you're not taking any action at all.

To escape the all-or-nothing mindset, there are a few important things you must do. One of those things is creating a growth mindset, which I've spoken more about in Episode 41, Episode 57 and Episode 100 of The Perfectionism Project. But something else that's incredibly important is ditching all-or-nothing language.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to notice your all-or-nothing language and what to say instead. I hope you find it helpful!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Why eliminating all-or-nothing language will change your life
• The most common all-or-nothing phrases
• How to change your self-image so you no longer abandon healthy habit
• The words I recommend cutting from your vocabulary

Featured In The Episode:

• Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image
• Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset
• Episode 57: 7 Differences Between Perfectionists + High Achievers
• Episode 100: 5 Biggest Growth Mindset Mistakes Perfectionists Make
• Episode 126: 3 Steps To Create An Empowering Self-Image

If you're looking to improve your life without spending thousands on seminars and coaches, personal development books are a great place to start. The fact that you can get the best of someone's work, for $10-$20, is completely mind-blowing. And I recommend taking full advantage of it!

Since I get asked for book recommendations all of the time, I thought I'd share some of my favourite personal development books with you. If you want to know how to make the most of self-help books, be sure to check out Episode 81 of The Perfectionism Project to learn exactly what to do.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• 7 personal development books I recommend reading and why
• Why I read most self-help books more than once
• The power of mastering the basics of personal development
• Whether to buy the hardcopy, audiobook or Kindle version
• Why intellectual knowledge is not enough to create lasting change
• How to make the most of personal development books

Featured In The Episode:

• The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
• You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero
• The Magic of Thinking Big by Dr David Schwartz
• Mindset by Carol Dweck
• Carol Dweck interview with Tom Bilyeu
• Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown
• Episode 59: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown
• Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza
• Dr. Joe Dispenza interview on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu
• Episode 31: How To Read More Books
• Episode 81: How To Make The Most of Self-Help Books

There's nothing a perfectionist loves more than planning - it's a great way to feel productive without feeling vulnerable. But this affinity for vague or overly ambitious plans tends to leave us stuck.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to become a better planner and the practical step-by-step process that will help you do it. I'm also talking about planning tools, walking you through exactly what I use and revealing the biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with planning. I hope you find it helpful!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• Exactly how I plan my time and the tools I use to do it
• The biggest mistakes that perfectionists make with planning
• How to tell when you're procrasti-planning
• Why planning is so tedious and what to do about it
• How to avoid overwhelm when you're planning your week
• Why I prefer to use a digital calendar over a paper planner

Featured In The Episode:

• Canvast Yearly Planner
• Episode 261 of The Life Coach School Podcast: Throw Away Your To-Do List

Every month, I record a personal growth update to help you get a feel for what personal development is *really* like when you're on the journey (hint: it's not rainbows and butterflies when you're doing the real work).

This month has felt incredibly challenging for me in so many ways, but finished on such a high that I've almost forgotten about the hard times! For one, I finished up at my part-time admin job and officially went full-time in my business (nearly 6 years after starting) - woohoo! I also taught my first ever in person workshop, which couldn't have gone any better. Thank you to Darelle, Steph, Katie, Ange and Jenny for being part of it.

Tune in to hear what I've been getting up to, what I've been working on behind the scenes and some personal development inspo. I hope you find it helpful!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How I feel about finishing up at my part-time job
• How my first ever in person workshop went and why I can't wait to do more
• An upcoming opportunity for you to meet me and work with me in Los Angeles
• Why you should feel proud of yourself more often and how to do it
• The one thing you need to do in order to stay consistent with workouts
• How to keep your workout routine when travelling
• An update on my impossible goal for 2019
• Where I'm travelling next month and why

Featured In The Episode:

• Business Workshop in Los Angeles
• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• 1:1 Coaching Services
• Episode 41: My Fitness Journey + How I Created A Growth Mindset
• Episode 125: How I Transitioned From My Full-Time Job To Full-Time Entrepreneurship

In my membership, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, I teach the girls how to set an impossible goal for themselves. An impossible goal is an incredible tool for directing personal growth and showing us the work we need to do - but it requires a different approach to what we're used to.

In this episode, I'm sharing 5 important reminders about your impossible goal so that you can get yourself unstuck and keep moving closer to the person you want to become. Regardless of whether you're in my membership or not, this episode is going to help you think about goal-setting differently and have you working towards your dreams like never before!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• The point of an impossible goal and how it differs to regular goals
• Why it's ok that you're not going to succeed from day one
• The importance of goal-setting in personal development
• How to stop yourself from quitting your impossible goal
• The power of documenting your progress towards your impossible goal and how to do it

Featured In The Episode:

• Business Workshops in Brisbane and Los Angeles
• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• 1:1 Coaching Services
• Episode 14: My Goal For 2018
• Episode 20: The Messy Middle
• Episode 29: An Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal
• Episode 44: Another Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal
• Episode 79: The Final Update On My 2018 Impossible Goal

As Tony Robbins says, identity is the strongest force in the human personality. In this podcast episode, I'm sharing how to upgrade your identity so it won't keep stopping you from getting what you want. I hope you enjoy it!

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How to identify the labels that are holding you back
• A practical process to upgrade your self-image and create a new identity
• Why changing your beliefs about yourself isn't denying the 'truth' of who you are
• Why having room for personal growth is not a sign of inadequacy
• How to feel empowered by a label without allowing it to keep you small
• What this process looked like for my 1:1 coaching client and how it helped her

Featured In The Episode:

• Perfectionists Getting Shit Done - Join the waitlist here
• 1:1 Coaching Services
• Episode 26: The Power of Self-Image
• Episode 87: How I Manage Anxious Thoughts
• Episode 106: Answering Your Questions About Self-Image