We've been talking a lot about vulnerability lately...but what happens if you avoid that kind of intimacy with your partner?   For those who lean avoidant in their dating life, it's usually because you're trying to protect yourself. But when you hide behind walls to try and make yourself look better, you cut off the beating heart of connection and love: emotional vulnerability. When you refuse to let someone see the softer parts of you, the messier parts, the "What if they can't handle this?" parts...it doesn't make you safer. It actually closes you off from receiving love, and closes your partner off from trusting you with their more intimate parts, too!   But how do you solve this as an avoidant or anxious-avoidant dater? If you have no idea where to begin, don't worry—I'm here today to help you get started.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix DM WOD to get access to enrollment for Woman of Desire. This premium 4-month live group program is designed to help you manifest the relationship that matches your standards.   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcW   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

Let's talk entitlement and scarcity...and how the two actually go together.   Entitlement says, "I deserve a relationship, because I am a wonderful person. I am a catch. I'm amazing." Scarcity says, "I can't have what I want (or deserve) because there isn't enough to go around, so I'm going to turn whatever I have into the thing that I feel I deserve."   When both of these mindsets show up to a party together, only trouble can come out of it, right? No matter what you might think, these attitudes aren't going to get you the relationship you're looking for. You know why?   The universe doesn't owe you a relationship just because you're a nice or fun or cool person. You can't just show up and expect it to fall into your lap. You have to do the work...and there is work to do. There is a way to get what you want. But you have to learn how to get rid of that entitlement mindset first.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcW   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

So it's happened again. You've been seeing someone for a while now, but you're eternally caught in the "talking" stage, with no official label in sight. The person you're seeing seems perfectly content to continue on in your "situationship," enjoying the lack of pressure (and lack of commitment) and you're once again getting fed up. You don't understand why everyone you come across is happy to go with the flow while you want a relationship...   ...Or do you?   Today, I'm going to help you figure out why you keep getting caught in this cycle, why you keep attracting unsure partners, and why you might not actually want what you say you want.     CONNECT WITH BEATRICE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/theselflovefix   Website: http://www.beatricekamau.com     EPISODE RESOURCES   Sign up for the Game of Attraction: https://beatricekamau.mykajabi.com/offers/ueSEVcWR?coupon_code=LETSPLAY   Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

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It has been a MINUTE since I have been on the podcast. Tune in to hear:

-Where I've been

-A convo on the New Moon in Leo tonight 7/28/2022 + Fears of Being Seen

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Anxious attachment is tricky, and it can definitely get you into some relationship trouble if you don’t know how to deal with it. It can leave you scared of true intimacy even though it’s also what you want above all else.

Talk about a hell of your own anxious making. That’s why in this episode of the Self Love Fix Podcast we’ll talk more about:

• The pitfalls of anxious attachment
• How to navigate dating in a healthier way

When you feel complete and whole and loved by yourself, you know that a partner isn’t the end all be all. You can see things clearly, and accept what’s for you…and what isn’t with grace and dignity that you’ve had inside you all along. 

Get clear before you start dating, remember that dating is a process of gathering information and that as long as you give the relationship time to evolve, even if it doesn’t work out in the end, at least you were brave enough to try and grow. 

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Episode Resources

Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

There you are, hoping, wishing, praying for real and lasting love- an honest-to-goodness relationship…so why the heck are you continually settling for a situationship? You know what I’m talking about, right?

The situationship- the kind of dating when the guy says stuff like “seeing where it’s going, keeping it casual, just hanging out” and you pretend to be cool with it as your soul dies a little more and your doubt climbs, because can you actually change his mind? No, probably not. So on this episode, let’s figure out:

• Why we keep repeating this pattern
• How to break it

You might feel powerless right now- after all how much control do you have over all the terrible men out there just waiting to screw you over…but the thing is, most of them aren’t. And you have a lot more control than you think you do because a lot of this work needs to come from you. Let me help you get started.

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For most of us love is (or at least was) an elusive mystery we could only dream of. That’s why today I’m so excited to welcome my guest Crystal Irom, a Love Coach specifically for successful women. As if women didn’t have it hard enough these days, amiright?

Why is it that especially women who are successful in every other aspect of their lives struggle to find someone to love? Is it because men are intimidated? Are these women (possibly you) doomed to roam the world biding your time in between horrible dates and dead-end relationships? We examine all of this and more in the latest episode of The Self-Love Fix Podcast along with:

• How to adjust how you present yourself
• What settling really means
• How to love yourself before you love someone else

Men and women are different, and that includes what’s important to men in terms of a relationship. The key is knowing the parts of yourself that pave the way for connection, and understanding that to be in love means to be vulnerable. It also means appreciating yourself for who you are, and being unapologetically you. 

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Episode Resources

Escape the situationship cycle and become available for an actual relationship. Take accountability for what you really want with my free, transformative 5-day resource. Receive daily tips to help you attract the right kind of men. https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101

I’m beyond thrilled to welcome Elisa Liu onto the podcast today to talk about body image, diet culture, and ways to begin to trust our own hunger again. 

For most of us, indulging in what our bodies may be asking for often comes with a hefty dose of guilt. Really intense restriction can mean that your overall control is absolutely shot. Diet culture is everywhere and it tells us that no matter what we do, it’s never enough. It’s no wonder that we feel the need to deny ourselves at every opportunity; we’re taught to equate self-discipline with goodness and eating anything less than the perfect diet as bad or failure. In this episode of The Self Love Fix Podcast we’ll talk more with Elisa about:

• The effects restriction can have on our relationship with food
• How self-control can seem out of reach
• How to heal and overcome seeing foods as “good” and “bad”

Your worth is who you are and how you connect to yourself and others- it’s how you show up in your life. You are so much bigger and brighter than any number on a scale, or a size stitched in some pants. One day you’ll believe that.

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Today we’re going to talk about something that most people would deny- the fact that we all get jealous. But what if instead of shoving it down in a well of shame, we instead took a moment to process it?

Chances are when you feel jealousy rear its ugly head, it’s not even really about whatever you’re envious of. You probably grew up in a household where you were constantly compared to others: a sibling, a classmate, whoever it might have been. This taught you never to truly see yourself or focus on your own needs, but only to view yourself as you related to others. Your path was defined by theirs, or at least, you thought it should have been.  In this episode we’ll talk more about:

• How comparison culture causes jealousy
• What our jealousy might be trying to tell us
• How to embrace our own personal journey

Jealousy isn’t even really about what the other person has or is doing; I’d argue it’s actually a signal that you’re searching for love and acceptance. It’s a warning sign flagging you down that maybe just maybe you’re not on a path that will lead you to the happy life you deserve. 

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Oh, comparison. It’s the thief of joy or something like that, right? Well, I’d argue that social media has definitely proven that concept correct.

Now more than ever it’s important for us to redefine our personal journey and goals along the way, or we risk being swept up in unattainable expectations from relative strangers on the internet. On this episode of The Self Love Fix Podcast we’ll chat more on:

• Defining luxury and what you want for yourself
• Not basing life on what you think you should want

Once you stop measuring your life based on what you lack, an entirely new world opens up to you. A world where you get to choose what you value, and where you want to go. 

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