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Most networking advice tells you to “be nice” — but nice is forgettable. In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the three hidden signals spies use to win rooms, open doors fast, and build influence without small talk.
You’ll learn how to spot the leader signal (who really runs the room), the wish signal (what someone quietly wants), and the fence signal (what they’re protecting). These micro-signals determine who gets remembered, trusted, and invited back.
Whether you’re trying to close a deal, land a promotion, or make your next event actually count, this episode gives you the tactical networking playbook used by elite operators in high-stakes situations — and shows you how to apply it in everyday life.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why “being nice” fails and signals win rooms
[00:00:25] The 3 hidden signals spies use to build influence
[00:01:31] Leader, Wish, Fence — shortcuts to real connection
[00:02:39] Real-world payoffs: sales, promotions, influence
[00:03:16] How reading signals makes you memorable
[00:04:10] The Leader Signal — spotting who really decides
[00:05:29] The Wish Signal — catching emotional “tells”
[00:07:27] The Fence Signal — respecting what’s guarded
[00:08:44] How to make a powerful “tiny ask”
[00:09:41] Why correct reads build trust instantly
[00:10:11] Tactical takeaways and playbook for your next event
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Most networking advice tells you to “be nice” — but nice is forgettable. In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal the three hidden signals spies use to win rooms, open doors fast, and build influence without small talk.
You’ll learn how to spot the leader signal (who really runs the room), the wish signal (what someone quietly wants), and the fence signal (what they’re protecting). These micro-signals determine who gets remembered, trusted, and invited back.
Whether you’re trying to close a deal, land a promotion, or make your next event actually count, this episode gives you the tactical networking playbook used by elite operators in high-stakes situations — and shows you how to apply it in everyday life.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why “being nice” fails and signals win rooms
[00:00:25] The 3 hidden signals spies use to build influence
[00:01:31] Leader, Wish, Fence — shortcuts to real connection
[00:02:39] Real-world payoffs: sales, promotions, influence
[00:03:16] How reading signals makes you memorable
[00:04:10] The Leader Signal — spotting who really decides
[00:05:29] The Wish Signal — catching emotional “tells”
[00:07:27] The Fence Signal — respecting what’s guarded
[00:08:44] How to make a powerful “tiny ask”
[00:09:41] Why correct reads build trust instantly
[00:10:11] Tactical takeaways and playbook for your next event
A Word From Our Sponsors
Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com
The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back.
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm
Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
AJ on LinkedIn
Johnny on LinkedIn
AJ on Instagram
Johnny on Instagram
The Art of Charm on Instagram
The Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charm on TikTok
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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