Online Dating Bootcamp: toddvonline.com

Here's the audio version of a recent YouTube live Ask Me Anything (AMA) I recorded on online dating. Enjoy!

FREE Text Guide

• How to be FUNNY on online game
• WIN online game with blueprints
• Goofy Game VS Funny Game

• 00:00 - Intro
• 01:06 - Question: Can you convey high status in your bio while being goofy or does goofy equal low status?
• 02:03 - Goofy Game vs. Funny Game 
• 06:12 - How to be FUNNY on online dating sites
• 14:37 - The pros and cons of being cocky-funny
• 21:12 - A PERFECT example of high-value humor
• 24:52 - Intentional vs. Unintentional Goofiness
• 26:06 - Question: What are some ways to get to know a girl's blueprint through online messaging (as opposed to in-person where it's way easier?)
• 26:34 - Figuring out Blueprints: Online vs. Real Life
• 27:40 - How to win online game with profile blueprints
• 31:38 - Using messages to understand blueprint & escalate

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• Highlights
  • Texting girls during QUARANTINE
  • Turnings messages into DATES
  • How to NOT get catfished 
• Notes
  • 00:00 - Intro
  • 01:03 - Question: How do I keep text conversations going for an extended period of time?
  • 02:03 - Issues with long-term convos
  • 03:04 - What your goal SHOULD BE
  • 06:52 - How to escalate from TEXTS TO PLANS
  • 09:50 - Todd’s “Phone Time” strategy
  • 12:40 - Long-distance relationship checklist
  • 13:38 - Question: How do I avoid getting catfished?
  • 13:47 - Todd’s experience with catfishing
  • 14:55 - How to NOT get catfished
  • 17:18 - Beware of PERSONALITY CATFISHING
  • 22:10 - Tips on meeting up with a girl from online 

FREE Text Guide

• Gaming hot influencers & Tinder top picks
• You need a POLARIZING bio
• Why premium accounts WORK

• 00:00 - Intro
• 00:40 - Question: How do I game high-value online women?
• 02:23 - Customizing your profile to your TYPE
• 06:25 - POLARIZE for hotter matches
• 12:20 - Polarizing online dating bios
• 17:33 - Question: Is Tinder Gold worth it?
• 19:38 - Why premium accounts ACTUALLY WORK
• 29:29 - Always TEST new things in game

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• Sexting: High-risk, high-reward
• RECOVER from bad texts
• Creating a HIGH-VALUE PROFILE 

• 00:00 - Intro
• 01:05 - Question: How do I convey sexuality over text without seeming creepy? I wanted to start sexting a girl but she refused. How do I regain my value and eventually sext with her?
• 01:55 - SEXUAL texting
• 05:30 - Sexting changes how she RESPONDS to you
• 10:00 - Todd's sexting method
• 14:15 - RECOVER from bad texts
• 16:45 - Question: How do I build comfort and trust online so girls will actually meet up with me?
• 18:15 - Establish value & comfort ONLINE
• 23:00 - Build online comfort without being BORING
• 29:25 - Creating a HIGH-VALUE PROFILE
• 32:40 - Takeaways

• What you need to STOP saying ASAP
• Why smart girls are the EASIEST to game
• Go-to openers that HIT HOME

• 00:00 - Intro
• 01:38 - Question: What words can bring my game to the next level?
• 05:58 - Words to AVOID
• 13:28 - Todd's game vocabulary
• 15:40 - Talking Dirty 101
• 22:19 - Question: How do I game smart girls? How do I calibrate my game based on her age?
• 24:07 - Why smart girls are EASIER to game
• 29:51- Verbally gaming a model
• 34:43 - Gaming older girls
• 37:28 - Matching her age blueprint

• https://verbalgameacademy.com

• systembytodd.com
• toddvmasterclass.com

• How to MASTER the art of shit-testing
• Learn FUNNY teasing
• STAND OUT in front of the hottest girls

• 00:00 - Intro
• 01:32 - Question: In The System, you talk about giving girls shit tests. What are the best ways to shit test a girl?
• 02:18 - Shit-testing 101
• 07:09 - Use shit tests to CONTROL the frame
• 11:00 - Making her laugh
• 14:42 - Standing out to 8s, 9s, and 10s
• 18:45 - Disqualifying, a game cheat code
• 23:20 - Recap

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK912W7Ax4I&t=59s

FULL SHOW NOTES

• Why perfectionism is killing your game
• STOP using the best game lines
• Go-to openers that HIT HOME

• 00:00 - Intro
• 02:33 - Question: How do I eliminate negative beliefs about my value?
• 03:15 - Dealing with lukewarm reactions
• 06:25 - Reliable ways to get a killer response
• 11:15 - SYMBOLISM of accomplishments > accomplishments
• 14:50 - Question: Should I use canned lines?
• 17:10 - Canned lines for approach anxiety
• 21:07 - Todd's go-to openers
• 24:45 - How to force predictable responses
• 27:40 - Opening for beginners vs advanced
• 29:53 - DON'T use the best lines
• 32:15 - Ideal opener template
• 35:55 - Questions to ask yourself before you open

YOU MUST LISTEN IF YOU WANT TO

• Learn how to improve your verbal game
• Understand how to use your verbals to frame interactions with hired guns
• Know how best to communicate with your girlfriend or wife in difficult situations 

SHOW NOTES

• 2:00 Having the “what are we?” conversation
• 4:40 What are the best ways to verbally communicate your true inner feelings about your partner?
• 7:05 How to express a desire for a change in your partner’s behavior without offending them or starting a fight
• 7:40 The concept of the “feedback sandwich” 
• 13:30 Addressing habits and setting precedents with women
• 14:00 How to deal with being flaked on
• 20:20 How do I verbally game hired guns?
• 22:15 Quick note on immersions and live programs going forward
• 31:00 How to take advantage of the situation to have a smooth opener
• 33:45 Todd’s strip club results throughout his game career and how to establish frames with hired guns
• 39:10 A warning about gaming strippers
• 42:00 How to close hired guns
• 44:30 An early-college story from Todd's game career
• 47:55 How to change your game based on the venue and situation

QUOTES

• “I do believe in having an open discussion about the relationship. I do believe having an agreed-upon idea of what the rules are and what the contract of the relationship is is actually not only important but actually of primary importance - actually central to what a relationship is.” (3:30)
• “If you address things early enough before they’re a big deal you don’t have to address them later when they are a big deal.” (12:55)
• “Opening and closing are the two least favorable parts of game because they’re the two parts where you need to be mildly needy.” (27:45)
• “Get rid of this idea that you have a standard opener you must say in all situations, that’s not the case.” (31:23) 
• "It doesn't matter so much if they've decided if they like you romantically, you just want them to have decided they like hanging out with you and that they would like to continue it." (40:22)

CONNECT WITH TODD…

Verbal Game Academy: https://verbalgameacademy.com/

WEBSITE: toddvdating.com

YOUTUBE 1: https://bit.ly/ToddVDating

YOUTUBE 2: https://bit.ly/AskToddV

FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/ToddVInsiders

INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/toddvdating

Submit a question for the podcast: [email protected]

YOU MUST LISTEN IF YOU WANT TO

• Learn how to avoid neediness and scarcity
• Understand how to show premise without seeming needy
• Know how to deal with disrespect from women you date

SHOW NOTES

• 0:43 How to access Todd’s new program, Value MasterClass
• 1:35 How do you call women on their inconsistent behavior without seeming needy?
• 3:25 The consequences of being too nice and accommodating
• 5:20 Todd’s logistical dating strategies for maintaining value
• 8:50 How to deal with disrespect from women you date
• 11:40 The concept some guys have that they need to put women “in their place”
• 14:06 Create value organically, not through force, fear, and mandate
• 15:25 Does talking about going on dates early in an interaction show high-value due to courage or low-value due to neediness?
• 17:23 Subtle, flirty ways to tell a girl you want to take her on a date
• 19:10 A story from Todd’s early days of learning game that demonstrates what value and abundance are
• 22:20 Don’t get your value from scarcity

QUOTES

• “Scarcity and neediness are two of the biggest value-killers. You want to avoid those in virtually all situations.” (6:03)
• “On a first date, she doesn’t owe you shit and you don’t her shit.” (6:44)
• “It’s not that she’s not respecting your time and not respecting you as a person. It’s that she’s not respecting the random guy she barely knows’ time and the random guy she barely knows as a person.” (7:20)
• “The fact that she flaked one time is not an indication that she’s going to flake over and over and over again.” (12:23)
• “Maybe instead of ‘tell her,’ it’s ‘indicate to her.’ You want to indicate to her that it’s a possibility or indicate to her that it’s on the table yet maintain a little bit of mystery and be a little bit less obvious.” (16:45)

CONNECT WITH TODD…

Value Master Class:toddvdating.com/value

WEBSITE: toddvdating.com

YOUTUBE 1: https://bit.ly/ToddVDating

YOUTUBE 2: https://bit.ly/AskToddV

FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/ToddVInsiders

INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/toddvdating

Submit a question for the podcast: [email protected]