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My guest on this week’s episode is the fabulous Allora Cannon Campbell.

Allora is 34, single, childfree, and the oldest of 10 homeschooled kids raised on a horse farm in New York State. By the age of 32 she’d never been kissed, let alone been in a relationship, and in 2023 Allora started talking about her big ‘secret’, as well as her adventures with dating, on TikTok. Eighteen million views later, and an appearance on the Drew Barrymore Show thanks to documenting her life as a self-proclaimed ‘late bloomer’, she is now a spokesperson for those people who have also come to the game of love and sex later in life.

She lives in Western New York, marketing for a biotech company by day, and writing by night. 

Topics that we cover are:

• Allora’s wonderful childhood with her parents and nine siblings;
• how taking care of her younger siblings was - and still is - a big part of her identity;
• how she thought she was the only person in the world who was a ‘late bloomer’, and how embarrassed she was by it;
• what it felt like to be ‘behind’ everyone else in terms of love and romance;
• the feeling of isolation when you’re not hitting the usual milestones at the ‘right’ time;
• her first relationship at the age of 32, and what it felt like to experience all of her ‘firsts’;
• the expectation and pressure she felt about 'knowing what to do';
• what happened when she started sharing her ‘late bloomer’ journey on TikTok;
• the story of Allora going on The Drew Barrymore Show;
• the dating app ‘hellscape’ and her experience of it;
• how, whilst she wants to share her life with someone, she us “super good” at being single;
• why women don’t need men in the same way as they used to;
• how Allora’s standards for relationships are high because her parents have such a great relationship;
• the article she wrote after suffering the grief of her first heartbreak;
• what Allora finds the hardest about being single;
• her novel, Sisters, Salt & Dragons. 

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https://www.alloradannon.com/ 

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On this week's minisode, I'm talking about how hard it can be for single women to watch close family members and friends hit all of the 'traditional' milestones that society expects us to tick off our check list.

Inspired by a DM on Instagram, I address the feelings that can come up as a result of watching a sibling or close friend get married or have a baby; as well as talk about why the solution is to take radical responsibility for how we move forward from these difficult moments.  

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This week, Polly & I are talking about active listening.👂

Do you really listen when you’re having a conversation, or are you actually thinking about what your response is going to be? We’re all guilty of it…and we could all improve our active listening skills.

Lucy & I discuss various aspects of listening, including how annoying it is when people interrupt (and how we both have a tendency to do exactly that!), plus that awful feeling when you’re talking to someone but they’re looking over your shoulder!

Like so many things, awareness is key; so the next time you’re having a conversation with someone, ask yourself whether you’re truly listening to them, or if your mind is elsewhere.

When it comes down to it, every single one of us needs and deserves to be heard fully.

We hope you’ll find something useful in here!

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on this week’s episode is the divine Rasheda Kamaria Williams.

Rasheda is an award-winning mentor, author and empowerment speaker, and founder of Empowered Flower Girl – a social enterprise on a mission to transform the way young people relate to one another and themselves. At her core, Rasheda is a social entrepreneur and staunch advocate for women and youth.

She is single, childfree, and lives in Detroit.

Topics that we cover are:

• her experience of being bullied at the age of 12;
• how she is passionate about helping young people realise their own power;
• the woman who inspired Rasheda to become a mentor;
• Empowered Flower Girl, the social enterprise that she set up in 2010;
• how she wants to help young women understand that they don’t have to conform;
• her book, Be Empowered, about rising above and overcoming the bullying she suffered;
• how Rasheda loves being an aunt, but never wanted kids;
• her experience of being single and how she would like to get married one day;
• how important it is for women to collaborate with, and support, each other;
• the importance of having a ‘good vibe tribe’;
• why she quit the dating apps;
• what Rasheda is looking for in a relationship;
• how she always tries to make the most of her life, no matter whether single or not;
• what she loves most about being single;
• why it’s so important for young women work out what it is they want for their own lives;
• living in Detroit, and how she once met Rosa Parks!

Check out Kamaria’s website:
https://rashedakamaria.com/

Buy her book, Be Empowered:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Be-Empowered-Above-Beyond-Lifes/dp/0997880007 

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On this week's minisode, I'm talking about why fancying potential partners is a non-negotiable for me when it comes to romantic relationships, despite those people who encourage single women to "give him a chance".

Not to put too fine a point on it, but if I don't actually want to shag someone, then no amount of telling me I'm "too fussy" or that my "standards are too high" is going to convince me to date them.

Press 'Play' and let me know what you think!

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On this week's Thursday Thoughts, Polly & I are talking about intuition, that gut feeling or inner knowing that helps us make decisions without conscious reasoning.

We discuss how our ego and fear of being wrong can lead us to ignore our intuition.

We also dive into how intuition involves quieting the mind and getting into the body, and some of the practices that can help you recognise patterns in your intuitive responses.

We hope you'll find something of interest in this conversation!

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on this week’s episode is the absolutely fabulous Fleur Sclarandis.

Fleur is a single and childfree (both by choice) woman, who coaches empaths and highly sensitive women to create the lives they actually want to live. She helps women build emotional resilience and confidence along with “a sprinkling of philosophical and spiritual guidance” so that they can navigate the challenges of life, and do what lights them up. 

Topics that we cover are:

• Fleur’s mission to empower women to reach their potential;
• how women are socialised to shrink themselves, and how she herself did it for many years;
• empowering women to be seen and heard exactly as they are;
• Fleur’s nervous breakdown when she ended up in hospital;
• trading authenticity for approval;
• how important it is to find your tribe;
• the power of authenticity and connection;
• why it’s important to do the things that scare us; 
• introversion, and the crossover with highly sensitive and empathic people;
• how she has never questioned her choice to be single and childfree;
• why Fleur’s friends are her family;
• why we can have an array of friends who are ‘the ones’ in our lives;
• Fleur’s analogy of friends as food groups;
• how extensively the patriarchy is impacting our lives;
• why womanhood is not synonymous with motherhood;
• how parents admitting how hard parenting can be is such a taboo;
• the wonderfully simple things that a single, childfree life allows;
• Fleur’s therapeutic coaching, and how she helps women;
• why we need to take the pressure off ourselves to find ‘the thing’;
• finding and cultivating joy, and why it’s so important.

Check out Fleur’s website:
https://fleursclarandis.com/ 

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On today's minisode, I'm talking about a few of my favourite ways to cultivate a more positive mindset.

If you want the full (free) PDF — My Top 10 Mindset Tips — go to lucymeggeson.com/mindset and stick this one-pager to your bathroom mirror!

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On this week's Thursday Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about getting the damn thing done!

September is a great time of year to check in with ourselves about where we are with our goals. There's still a significant amount of the year to go, but not so much that it feels overwhelming.

So...what are those things you keep putting off, and how can you just get the damn thing done?!

Polly and I discuss how to start taking action, including getting accountability, starting very, very small, and getting the hell out of our own way.

We also talk about how we have to cultivate motivation by taking action, rather than waiting for the motivation to arrive before we take the action.

We hope you'll find something helpful or interesting in here!

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on this week’s episode is the awesome Keturah Kendrick.

Keturah is a single, childfree woman, born and raised in New Orleans but currently living in New York City. She is an author, speaker and thought leader. A passionate advocate for young, black women, Keturah’s life mission is to be an ambassador of freedom to black women. In her own words, she was meant to be an unmarried black woman, absent of children, living a joy-filled, fulfilling life. Keturah’s award-winning memoir, No Thanks: Black, Female, and Living in the Martyr-Free Zone, is a collection of essays chronicling her challenges and reflections on living while Black, woman, single and childfree around the globe. She’s also the author of ‘And You Know This: Lessons On Living From Young Folx.’ 

Topics that we cover are:

• how Keturah has known for a long time that traditional partnership isn’t for her;
• autonomy, and what it means to her;
• the relief she felt upon ending a longterm relationship before she moved to Africa;
• the labour and work that is expected of women in heterosexual relationships;
• the expectations that come from being one half of a couple;
• how women are expected to shape shift for the ‘privilege’ of love;
• how being a black woman adds an extra layer of stigma when it comes to being single and childfree;
• how rejecting marriage and babies as a black woman is effectively seen as treason against your people;
• Keturah’s mentees, and how she advises them when it comes to relationships;
• how we never actually ask ourselves why we want a relationship and kids;
• how so many women write off singlehood without really giving it a chance;
• Keturah’s family and how they feel about her life choices;
• her experience of being an auntie;
• why women are beginning to choose whether they become wives and mothers, or not;

Follow Keturah on Instagram:
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https://www.keturahkendrick.com/ 

Buy Keturah’s book, No Thanks (UK):
https://www.amazon.co.uk/No-Thanks-Female-Living-Martyr-Free/dp/1631525352

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• Join my membership community for single women, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo

• Download my FREE PDF 'Top 10 Comebacks for the Most
  Annoying Questions Single Women Get Asked'
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