To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things

Wonder why you automatically people-please, rush to fix things when there's a problem, panic at the idea of someone being upset with you, or feel an internal pressure to avoid disappointing others?

This is the fawn response in action, and it is happening because your body is perceiving a threat or anticipating a threat.

The body will react to the present based on your past, re-living that past experience through the feelings, sensations, reactions, and thoughts that flood you.  When you've been threatened or harmed and your body has used the fawn response to survive it, it will do that again in the future because it worked.

Disengaging this response involves:

1) Restoring a sense of safety by nurturing capacity for those reactions, connecting with safe community and persons, and learning to regulate back into a window of tolerance through titrated experiencing of the sensations that show up

2) Processing the pain, fear, and hurt that is stuck in a loop that was created in the previous threatening events.  This will involve feeling the sensations in short, bit-by-bit moments over time. 

As the body begins to experience a reduction in the intensity, duration, and frequency of the intense sensations that come with fawning, it will start engaging in other responses to it, including inquiry, indifference, advocacy, and even fight or flight.

3) Discovering safety and who you are without the fawning response.  This will likely feel uncomfortable, confusing, liberating, and even empowering. You'll find yourself experiencing more rest, more confidence, more peace, and more clarity about what you want, what you feel, and your intuitive senses will arise.

This is a core feature of the Codependency Healing System.  Over 35 live-taught classes, you are nurtured through each of these phases of healing through live support, effective tools, and community.

Your codependency developed in relationship.  Your healing and freedom develops in relationship.  

We heal together.  We thrive together.

[Annual Enrollment in The Codependency Healing System Closes Saturday Till 2024]

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This is an invitation to codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists who've been doing therapy or self-help, are struggling to get lasting, consistent results, and are seeking greater self-worth, peace, and freedom in being who they are without trying to figure it all out or do it on their own.

You will work along with me and 74 other students over a gentle 9 months as we increase your sense of safety, connection, and self-worth through:

1) Increasing your emotional safety.  

2) Connecting with reality and using it to build real connection. 

3) Taking back and becoming your power. 

4) Discovering and embodying who you really are through knowing your innate worth. 

5) Reclaim your natural ability to create connection with others and build healthy, safe, playful bonds with your fellow humans. 

This is achieved through The Codependency Healing System 9-month, 36-module journey.

To succeed in these areas, all you will need to do is:

1) Watch the recorded trainings or show up to the live versions

2) Do the practices 2 - 3 times a week

3) Get support when you need it.

The program supports you in doing that through:

- Weekly live trainings hosted and taught by Marshall
- Unrivaled live support facilitated by Marshall that includes:

- Twice-a-week support calls to help you as you learn these concepts and master them in your daily life
- Twice-a-week homework calls to help you do the homework, get help with tools, or have a space to do the work 
- Twice-a-month practice sessions to help you