To Succeed... Just Let Go

There are two key learnings in this episode - phrases we throw away in everyday life - phrases that developmental psychology, cognitive psychology and modern neuroscience suggest that we should contemplate more deeply. Or, actually, understand their life-changing significance...

"It's never too late" and "there's no time like the present".

Actually, as you listen, you'll begin to realise that there is just one key learning:

You need to be.

How do you be?!?!? Well, tune in and let your (conceptual) self go.

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So much is explored in this episode - but not what you think!

At the outset, I talk about how what we feel, what "occurs" to us, is so much more important than what we think, how our gut instinct will look after everything for us, if only we'd let it.

We explore flow and the exhilaration of living life to the full. We talk about the joy of being in flow... everyday.

And we talk about your wealth... your health is your wealth. You need to look after your body.

And, like everything else in life, there's nothing complicated to do - no regimes to which you have to subject yourself... not even a diet! There's only thing you need to do: look after your state of mind.

A mind that is ill at ease creates dis-ease in our bodies. A mind that is clear, calm, focused, present, exhilarated and flowing enables our bodies simply flow too...

Do you trust yourself to make the right choices or decisions? How about other people, do you trust them to do what they say they'll do?

Or, to put it bluntly, how can you trust a normal crazy person?

When we use or minds normally we think things through using a preprogrammed patterned way of repetitive thinking (that we've been using since our childhood) to "enable" us come to the right decision. As a result, the chances of us making the right decision or a decision different from a wrong decision we had made in previous similar circumstances... very very slim indeed.

What you need to do is just let your non-thinking mind do what it does best... what you need to do is just let go and trust the real you.

Why did you think that was what this podcast is called? 🤗

Normally (and that's a bad word!) we are expert at taking steps in the wrong direction. For starters, we're very good at wasting time and energy doing meaningless stuff.

But, when we're using our minds normally, it's much worse than that - we actually do wrong things, react in ways that make things worse, not better. And, even worse than that, we stop ourselves achieving what we want to achieve and, in the process, confirm to ourselves that it's quite likely we'll never achieve them.

But what you need to realise right now is... there's only one step that you need to take in the right direction. Meditation enables everything else. Everything flows from the present state of mind that meditation enables you develop.

You stop reacting and start acting. You start doing the right things and you start doing them effortlessly. And, in doing so, you let yourself lead yourself effortlessly towards the kind of life you'd love to live - starting in the only place and time you can... the here and now.

Yes. I said banish - not manage or find some stress relief. It takes just one simple step and that step has been staring you in the face, hiding in full view, since the 1980s (and actually a couple of thousand years).

And you don't just need to rid your life of stress so that you can be a bit happier. When you choose to be stressed (yes, it is a choice you make), you damage your physical health in at least five different ways and... shorten your life.

And, yet, as I said, stress is a choice. Yes - you do it to yourself. It has nothing to do with what's going on in your life and everything to do with what you think about what's going on in your life.

So, listen in and wise up - take this one step and banish stress.

Oh and by the way, banishing stress opens up your mind to whole new vista of what your life could really be... your life, your way.

We control but one thing in our lives - our state of mind.

Funny then that most people (they're normal, they're just a little crazy!) fret about not being in control of everything and everyone else in their lives over which they have no control!

But - and this is a really important but - when you do take control of your own state of mind, you greatly enhance your ability to influence everyone and everything around you.

So, what's the best state of mind to be in? Is a positive state of mind better than a negative one? Does positive thinking work?

Well the last question can be answered really quickly: positive thinking is just more thinking - of course it doesn't work.

There's only one state of mind worth being in... a present state of mind. When you're present, you have presence and, when you have presence, you make and leave just the right kind of impression on those around you.

You are the most important person in your life - you need to take responsibility for yourself and your state of mind now. When you do, everything changes and changes utterly.

We're great at telling stories - in ancient times that was how knowledge was passed down the generations. But that is not what this episode is about! It's about how great we are at telling stories about ourselves... and believing them!

These stories create the masks that enable us flexibly move through our everyday lives - or do they? Because they only make our lives more difficult by further distancing us from an experience of the reality of the moment, the here and now where real life is actually happening.

If real life is happening now, the real you had better turn up. But this is where the biggest mask of all stops us in our tracks. It's a mask we don't think of as a mask at all... we think it is really us. And that is what is holding you back - that is what is getting in your own way - who you think you are.

This episode is about discovering who you really are. It is about engaging with and experiencing the real world in the here and now. It is about letting go of the thoughts that hold you back. It is about starting to live your life your way right now.

What's the difference between the humdrum of everyday life and being in the zone or, as the University of Chicago would have it, in Flow?

The extra in extraordinary is simply down to turning up. You need to turn up to your life right here, right now.

And that requires training: meditation is the training. Meditation develops mindfulness: that's the turning up. But turning up to what? Or, more to the point, turning up for what? What do you want out of life? What's your purpose?

I would suggest that you neither need to have or no a grand purpose - you will discover it when you turn up to your life. Or, actually, it will manifest itself to you.

That's why this podcast exhorts you to just let go - to get out of your own way - to let yourself flow simply doing what you've decided is best for you to do today, now.

Do you need a plan to get you to where you want to go? Do you know where you want to go?! How best can you move yourself forward in your life so that you experience the kind of life your heart really desires?

Well, for starters, let's park your thinking mind - it only thinks it knows best. There's another part of you that you need to let out because, when you free it up, it simply and effortlessly enables you do just what you need to do moment to moment, no plan required.

Does this sound counter-intuitive? It's the exact opposite - it is your intuition that you need to free up - it is, in fact, quite simply counter common sense. But then, as you'll know when you consider how the normal mind works, those two words don't even go together... there's no such thing as common sense!

So, sit back or get out on your walk and stay with me for half an hour and you'll understand exactly what you need to do and... you'll start doing it straight away, right here, right now.

I bet you nobody has ever suggested to you that you do less! Here, I'm suggesting that you do nothing.

In this episode, we explore how letting your mind settle, how allowing the so-called Gap occur, will enable you deepen your experience of you and the moment.

And, seeing as how you need you to fully turn up to the moment, each moment, doing nothing is, for starters, one of the most practical trainings you'll ever do.

But that's just for starters because, when your mind does settle, you'll begin to realise that you have nothing to learn, only un-learn. You'll begin to understand who you are, what you are and what you need to do next.

Doing nothing represents something of a leap on the adventure that is this life of your's.