Turns Out I'm Into It!

Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing…
Except it’s actually everywhere.

In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along.

Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

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It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here.

From our Sponsor:

This episode of Turns Out I’m Into It is sponsored by Nothosaur, a fantasy toy brand bringing erotic imagination to life. If you’ve ever been turned on by mythical creatures, powerful beasts, or otherworldly encounters, Nothosaur creates beautifully handcrafted fantasy toys designed to match those desires. With a wide range of designs — and customisable options for size, firmness, and colour — you can create something as unique as your own imagination. 

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xx Harley 🐰

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This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t.

Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening. 

Sponsor Message
This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur, makers of stunning, body-safe fantasy toys designed to help you reconnect with your body and your pleasure. Self-pleasure can be a powerful form of self-care, especially when life feels overwhelming — and Nothosaur’s beautifully crafted, customisable toys are made exactly for that kind of intentional, embodied experience. If you’re curious, head to nothosaur.com to explore their range. 

Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive.

xx Harley 🐰

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In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours.

We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how different sensations land in the body, and how to intentionally build a scene from start to finish. El walks us through everything from choosing candles and impact toys, to setting the mood, pacing a scene, and closing it safely and beautifully. If you’ve ever wanted to expand what’s possible with sensation play — or understand why it can feel so powerful — this episode is packed with ideas you can actually use.

Mentined in this episode:

The Professional (Game Maker Series) by Kresley Cole 

The Brie Collection by Red Phoenix

Pain Play for Everyone by Luna Carruthers 

Claws and Clamps - Australian Kink Markers 

Find Collared Foxy 

Website: collaredfoxy.com.au

Etsy: CollaredFoxy

Message from our Sponsor
This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. If you’re into wax play, you might also be into beautiful colours — and Nothosaur lets you fully customise the look of their toys, from solid colours to fades and marble effects. You can choose the size, firmness, and colours that feel right for you. Head to nothosaur.com to explore the options, and check out their colour gallery for inspiration. Huge thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping make these conversations possible.

xx Harley 🐰

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I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble. 

This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post. 

Mentioned in this episode:

Fetlife writing:  "Why I still Share Naked Photos on Fetlife (And Why It's Not Unprofessional)"

This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur.
Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed with intention, customisation, and inclusivity in mind — including their packers, thoughtfully made for trans, non-binary, and gender-exploring folks, or anyone wanting to play with gender expression. Their designs are inspired by werewolf mythology, symbolising strength, transformation, and connection to your primal nature — which honestly feels very on brand for this podcast. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com.

xx Harley 🐰

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For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there.

In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the joy out of your kink life.

I share how I’ve started redefining my own kink practice, shifting toward something more sustainable and supportive. We look at how small, simple forms of play can still meet your core desires, and why everyday kink absolutely counts.

Because kink isn’t just for people with endless time or energy. It’s for real people with real lives, who still deserve pleasure, play, and connection.

This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur.

Nothosaur are the creators of beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed to help you explore the wilder corners of your imagination without shame or judgement. Each toy comes with its own rich lore and story, making play feel creative, immersive, and intentional. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com — and a huge thank you to Nothosaur for supporting the show and keeping these conversations going.

 Visit nothosaur.com. 

Check out the Kohana here. 

xx Harley 🐰

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Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special!

This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy.

So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you.

Curl up, get comfy (no kids allowed!), imagine a crackling fire, and let Aunty Harley read you “A Very Adult Christmas.” 🔥

If you want more festive kink inspo…

Check out Episode #106, where I share 12 different Christmas-themed kinky activities to spice up your holidays.

From our sponsor: 

This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. 

xx Harley 🐰

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If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home.

Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go.

We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your brain finally switches off… the delicious relief of not making decisions… the thrill of being overpowered in a way that feels chosen, safe, and wildly sexy.

Julieta and I talk about the internal battle between being competent, self-led adults and the part of us that fantasises about surrender. We explore psychological kink, degradation, rope, CNC, subspace — and how all of these can become powerful pathways into rest, intimacy, and embodiment for women who otherwise never stop thinking.

If you’re a high-achieving woman who struggles to relax, who secretly wants someone to take the reins, or who feels confused about what “submission” really means… this episode will feel like someone finally translated your inner world into words.

Mentioned in this episode:

Empowered Submission Academy

Nawa Foundations

Nawa Flow

Heart of Dominance (book)

Existential Kink (book)

From our sponsor: 

This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. 

xx Harley 🐰

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It’s officially December, which means two things:

1. Christmas chaos is upon us, and
2. I am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky.

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance.

I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combination… but once you start thinking about it, they pair beautifully. Kink is playful, cosy, connective, and full of imagination — which is exactly what this time of year is supposed to be.

Whether you try one or all twelve, these ideas are designed to bring some fun, play, and pleasure back into a season that can be… a lot. Even if you adore Christmas, it’s still busy, emotional, and chaotic — so think of this as your little permission slip to create a moment of joy for yourself.

If you end up trying any of these (or inventing your own twist), please tell me! I love hearing what you get up to.

Mentioned in this episode:

Harley's tentacle toy review on Fetlife

From our sponsor:

This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com. 

xx Harley 🐰

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Hey friends, Harley here!

This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica. From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise.

In this episode, I explore:

• The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga art
• How censorship laws helped shape the genre
• Why tentacle fantasies feel so erotic for so many people
• The many forms of tentacle creatures — from ocean beings to aliens and plant tendrils
• How to explore this fantasy safely and shame-free
• And my first impressions of Nothosaur’s Alla tentacle toy

Explore fantasy toys at nothosaur.com.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Article referencing the Dream of the Fishermans Wife by Hokusai - https://blog.alltheanime.com/hokusais-tentacles/
• Tencicle art by Kitao Shigemasa (1739-1820) https://www.bonhams.com/auction/21861/lot/256/kitao-shigemasa-1739-1820-circa-1782/
• ‘Diver and Octopuses‘ Series ‘Picture Book: Lust of Many Women on One Thousand Nights (Ehon chiyo-dameshi)’, c.1786. https://shungagallery.com/katsukawa-shuncho-shunga-diver-octopuses/
• Urotsukidoji: Legend of the Overfiend (1989) film (heavy content warning) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108461/
• Harley's tentacle inspired audio fantasy "The Blue Flower" on Fetlife
• Harley's X-rated Fetlife review of Nothosaur's Alla XL 

xx Harley 🐰

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Hey friends, it's Harley here.

In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur, the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality.

Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk about how toys are designed, tested, and refined (yes — real testers around the world give feedback!), how Nothosaur balances creativity with comfort, and what it means to “make toys unique and make sex free.”

Mentioned in this episode:

• Nothosaur.com
• Nothosaur on X
• @nothosaurtoys on Instagram

Sponsor:
This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur — fantasy art you can feel. Each toy is body-safe silicone and fully customisable in colour, firmness, and size. Explore the collection at nothosaur.com and let your imagination run wild!

xx Harley 🐰

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